(Closed) I’m about to email my friend regarding cat she held hostage – feedback please!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This whole situation is bananas, but I think the email is good. If you don’t answer her it will probably always annoy you a little that you never cleared up your position.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am just so happy you got the cat back. I think it would be good for you to say it, just so she knows that you do not understand her craziness, and only put up with it because you clearly wanted your cat back. Just be happy its over and you never have to deal with the crazy cat lady ever again!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That email will only prompt her to write something back as she just will never get it.  If you then want to respond to that email, send this one.  Otherwise I would honestly write something much shorter and along the lines of

“I am angry that you kept me from picking up my cat when we agreed and made plans to.  That’s all I have to say to you and since it’s been clear that you don’t or can’t understand, I will not attempt to explain it to you.  We appreciate that you took care of MyCat for the 4 months and our only regret is that we didn’t ship her to live with us during that time.  Please let me know how much to send you for the vet bills and otherwise I would prefer that you not contact us again.”

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think everything has been super crazy and im so glad you have your cat back and I think the email is great!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i got about half way thru it – its kinda long when basically “dear former friend, i think you are a little bit crazy and condescending and please do not attempt to contact me ever again” works for me because you know shes going to respond to have the last word.  maybe this is one of those messages you burn and let the words float off into the wind and end all contact.  goodluck because it sounded pretty crazy

Post # 10
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Honey bee

You make a lot of sense in your email. I’m interested to find out how she responds.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

@frustrated: I don’t think it’s bitchy. But I’m thinking she will read bitchiness into it anyway.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with you on wanting to get your thoughts and feelings out. I think this email is well written and if your “friend” wasn’t such a nut, would do the trick. I am eager to hear her response.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@SoupyCat: totally agree – because OP has a different point of view, crazy cat lady is going to fire back a response because she wants OP to agree with her.  im guessing her response is going to be very amusing to those outside the drama

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s great you’re emailing her back. She should know what she did wrong. She was very clear on what apparently you did wrong as a pet owner. Although I’m sure she will interpret your email as you trying to be bitchy. I would also worry this becoming a back and forth thing but you clearly stated you just want your opinion heard and do not plan on replying to back. Good luck let us know how it goes. Hopefully she will see she overstepped her boundaries.

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