(Closed) I’m about to email my friend regarding cat she held hostage – feedback please!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I like it a lot!  I might close with something along the lines of there being nothing left to discuss and best of luck or something along those lines.


Maybe also add in that you were already suffering the loss of yourothercat and the guilt that went along with not being there … that her holding yourcat hostage is not something a friend should do…. so best of luck in their lives and the one valuable lesson you learned was not to trust yourcat with anybody but yourselves to avoid another situation like this!

Post # 18
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

They’re crazy. I would never let them pet-sit again and honestly? I wouldn’t speak to them again. Too much crazy.

Post # 19
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is so much of an email. It’s really wordy and what I think is just you somehow giving in to their psychosis. You don’t need to explain yourself. It’s your cat and their crazy.

Post # 21
3135 posts
Sugar bee

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Ya, I don’t know.

I would just not waste my time with a response at all because you KNOW she will respond in turn and this thing will go on.


Post # 24
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t know what her letter said or what discussion you had (I remember the initial drama but I’m not caught up on the interim) but I would not send that email. I would either 1) Not reply at all because FUCK HER its not her cat and you don’t own her any explanation or 2) Email her with something to the effect of: 


I received your letter. After careful consideration I’ve decided that this topic is closed for discussion. I’ve heard your point of view but this is my cat and you have no right to dictate to me how I care for it. I won’t be asking you to watch it again. 


Fin. Seriously… you don’t owe her that much. Why get dragged into an argument you don’t need to have. She is C-RAZY and you need to cut her out of your life. 

Post # 25
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the PP’s who say you should not continue this discussion with her.  I’d tell her to cease contacting you.

Always remember that you can’t reason with unreasonable people.  She is clearly unreasonable and you are wasting your breath!!

Post # 26
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you think you want to have any sort of friendship with these crazy people in the future, don’t send this email – just let it go. She said her piece, and feels all vindicated – but if you send this email, its just going to get her all worked up again, and elicit a (potentially) endless back and forth with her justifying her actions.

Post # 27
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ahh i missed it – PM me the email! 😀

Post # 28
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m with you in that I would want to defend myself. She’s clearly thinking that you don’t care enough about your cat. I caught your email to her before you took it down, and I would shorten it down a bit and remind her that the reason you have your cat is b/c she originally abandoned it and leave it at that.

Keep us posted!!



Post # 29
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wanted to read it, but its already been deleted 🙁

Post # 30
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I got to read the email before it was deleted. I agree with other PPs. If you now live in different cities and will not be in direct contact with these people often, just let the whole thing – including the friendship – fade away. 

I would bet money that if she reads that email she will fire back with more lecturing and self-righteousness that will further irritate you. Nothing good or positive can come from continuing the discussion with this woman.

I would just cut these people out of my life.

Post # 31
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Aww I wanted to read it too 🙁

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