(Closed) I’m about to email my friend regarding cat she held hostage – feedback please!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 49
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@frustrated: If it were me, I would, but I am prone to be mean in situations like this. I dunno, its tough, but it seems like this girl really needs a reality check, and to remember why this situation came about in the first place…

Post # 52
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@frustrated: I still think you should send it, just to get your feeling across, since she doesn’t understand and made that clear.

Aww so cute, probably glad to have her nice normal parents back!! 🙂

Post # 54
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@frustrated: that’s good, glad that she is getting back to her normal self! its a good thing that they have small memory capabilities

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve followed this to enough of a degree so that I have a pretty good understanding of the situation.  It sounds like you made a lot of assumptions about what she thought of you and your ability to care for the cat.

But she also came across as a little too hardcore.  I’ve experienced these crazy animal lovers more than once.  I think you took it too personally-she’s just plain weird when it comes to the cat and probably would have acted that way with anyone.

That said, this email is just too much on top of all the other letters.  If you care about saving this friendship, tell her you apologize for any misunderstanding, pay her and move forward.  Forget about trying to get her to see your side or defend yourself.  It won’t matter to her if she’s already a little nuts on the subject. You’re trying to negotiate with a terrorist, so to speak. lol

You have your cat back and I would just let the subject drop and end the drama now.  That’s what I would do if I were in this situation. 

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I know this will be hard but you might want a receipt that you paid her back. She might say they were hers all along and you wouldn’t give them back and she had to pay for vetting etc etc if she’s that crazy.. which it sounds like. I know in Ohio if someone pays for food and vet bills the animal is legally theirs.

 

I’d still mention something about the other cat… clearly you love your pets but she’s implying otherwise… if I truly felt like she did about you (and I don’t!!!! I don’t know you but it’s obvious you love your cat!).. I”d be like “she doesn’t even care that one cat died and is going on and on about her poor sick cat I had to make well”…..

 

I deal with animal rescue and have learned how fanatics think. She’s got issues, this one!

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Good very detailed email!

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@frustrated:  so should i put that back in?

 

 

ABSOLUTELY. That’s kind of key, in my opinion…..

Post # 59
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Busy Beekeeper

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@frustrated: I’m with the posters that say to leave it alone or send back a very short response back. She’s lost touch with reality and you can’t ever get someone to see your side. Especially after her 3 page letter. That was simply bizzare and I’ll bet that she will send an even longer email in reply to this one. But you seem hell bent on sending this, so if you do, DEFINTELY put that paragraph back in, because it is true and your being way to nice. 

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think putting the comment about her leaving the cats with your hubs and basically bailed on them is important and should be added.

Honestly – I totally understand the let it die thing…but at the same time what could she possibly be saying to friends/family who don’t know the whole story.  I would want her to know that there are reasons for the actions taken.

Oh – and I would totally get a confirmation of receival of payment from her.

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