Post # 1
Please Excuse the asterick language in the title line, but its the TRUTH! As some of you may know from a previous post I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my friends wedding and she has crazy taken advantage, so right now we aren’t on great terms. Well yesterday she informed me that she wanted me and her Maid/Matron of Honor to get our hair, nails, and makeup done at this little makeup bar place. Ok, whatever. Then she tells me the grand total, let me just say OMG! I told her she had to be crazy and that there was no way it could cost that much. She apologized (which is a first for her) but said it was the place she really wanted us all to go. So I sucked it up and tried to think how I was going to possibly come up with that amount of money on a less than 3 week notice. I was so astonised at the cost that I actually called the place to make sure she was right. WELL, the price she told me wasn’t just for me to get my hair, nails, and makeup done, it also included the price for me and her Maid/Matron of Honor to split the cost for HER to get her stuff done AND it included the $150.00 price tag to rent the building!!!!! WTF?!?!?!?!?! I am so angry, especially after everything I have done for this girl!!!!! I just found out and I haven’t called her yet. This is really the last straw for me, I don’t even want to be in her stupid wedding anymore, and I have already decided that I no longer want her in my own wedding!!! Errr!!!! SO MAD!!!! I don’t even think I will be able to control my frustration with this one, ADVICE????
UPDATE: So I couldn’t resist any longer and I called her. WELL OMG AGAIN!!!!!! She is such a B-WORD!!!!! I told her that I called the place b/c I “forgot” the exact price she quoted me, and that they informed me that the price for me ALSO included her and the cost of the building, which I was so not cool with. If I wasn’t so angry I probably would have laughed, b/c her response was, “well yeah, you don’t expect me to pay for that do you?” (long pause) “ummmmm…yeah.” She then proceeded to tell me that she didn’t see what the big deal was and that she figured I knew, b/c its expected that the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor pay for everything for the bride, (LIKE HELL WE DO!!) This girl is so off her rocker. She has turned into the prototypical Bridezilla. We have been friends FOREVER and I was so excited when she got engaged, now I can’t wait til this damn thing is over! How in the world does a wedding turn a normally cheerful, laidback, fun girl into a monster!!!
Post # 3
Call her out on her BS. Seriously. That’s taking advantage. It is not your responsibility to pay for her or to rent out the friggin place. If anything she should be paying for you as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift. She sounds like a real b***h. Don’t put her in your wedding.
Post # 4
Well, I don’t know much about what being a Bridesmaid or Best Man entails and what you’re expected to pay for, but I’d be pretty pissed too.
Sorry I can’t really give any useful advice! :/
Post # 5
wow, that is SO not okay. You have every right to be mad.
Post # 6
I would tell her that you called the place to ask them questions about getting your hair done and that they gave you the correct price for getting your hair, nails and makeup done. And pay that. I wouldn’t pay the cost for her to get her stuff done and to rent the place. That is not your responsibility as part of the bridal party. This girl has some nerve!
Post # 7
I would never plan for my Bridesmaid to pay for MY hair, nails and make-up.
Their own maybe if i can’t afford it.. but mine too thats crazy you need to tell her shes crazy!
Post # 8
Oh, I would call her out on this also. Not necessarily in anger, but in a firm, no nonsence tone. Unbelievable that she would do that.
Post # 9
Hi I would tell her that u do not want to be in her wedding because u r there to support her but not finacially and u do not appreciate being treated that way and to find someone else! I got so mad at her when I read ur post and I don’t even know her or u
Post # 10
I would call her out on it and say that it was really rude of her to include her spa crap without informing you that you would be paying. She should be paying for you if anything!
Post # 12
I’d either tell her you were checking the place out and they told you a different price…. and see what her response is…..if she tries to lie she’s basically stealing from you.
or I’d just say you know it would be fun to get your hair done together but you’d rather get it done someplace else and you’ll meet her there for her appointment.
I’m trying to get over something like this, just as a guest in a wedding I was thrown a huge last minute cost (like a 500 cost). Even though I sucked it up I feel like a biatch because neither one of us has talked about it and I haven’t been able to get over it because I feel like I can’t trust her though I think some girls just get bride brain really bad because she’s sort of a nice person.
Post # 13
A friend of mine is a bridesmaid in a wedding and the bride told the entire wedding party (guys and girls) that for a wedding shower present she wanted them all to pay for the DJ! That’s over $2,000 split between 8 people. For my friend and her husband (a groomsmen) that would be $500.
Some people have no sense of what is appropriate or acceptable behavior.
Post # 14
wow. just … wow. what a total F*tard.
seriously call her out on that one. dont let her get away with it. and i would refuse to pay for anything over the price it takes for you ALONE to get your stuff done, IF THAT.
personally i would have quit a while ago but thats me….
Post # 15
WTF? That’s just retarded. I’d tell her you called and asked and see what she says.
Post # 16
I’m guessing that the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t know she’s splitting the cost. I would tell by just texting/emailing/calling her and saying that you called the salon and then ask her if she knew what the cost quoted by the bride included. She may be as upset as you. Then, I would confront the bride and tell her that you’re willing to pay for the price of your own hair and makeup but not for hers or the rental fee.