Post # 32
You and the Maid/Matron of Honor should get together on this. The bride is being totally unreasonable and selfish. I would simply tell her that you had already planned on how you would take care of your hair, nails, etc. which would also work with your budget.
Post # 33
Girls TRUST me, I made it VERY clear to her that I would not be paying for anything for her. I’m not going to back out of the wedding but I am returning her wedding present (I know that’s petty but its sure gonna make me happy!). I will be sure to keep ya’ll updated on any of her other craziness!!
Post # 34
Just saw your update. Insane. How much did you pay for your bridesmaids dress? Are you sure the price for her wedding gown wasn’t somehow included?
Post # 35
It would be helpful to get Maid/Matron of Honor in the same boat. However, with or without Maid/Matron of Honor, congratz on putting ur foot down. As a matter of fact, the bride often pays for BM’s hair, makeup, nails & accessories if it’s the bride’s decision to force them to have that certain service or look.
Post # 36
@Firefighterswife – hahaha!!! The dress was like $200.00 which I thought was ridic but at least I saw the receipt on that one!!!!
Post # 37
LOL I love that you are going to return the gift. It’s slightly rude but well-deserved. I know I would’ve done the same if I were in your situation. You can get through this! Take deep breaths and keep telling yourself that you can overcome! 🙂
Post # 38
LMAO returning the gift – that’s hilarious. After paying for a $200 dress and hearing about all you’ve gone through, I might have done that too.
Post # 39
i thought it was the other way around. if she’s able, isn’t the bride supposed to pay for the hair/makeup/nails of the bridesmaids?? That sounds terrible. I’d be PO’ed.
Post # 40
I was always told that if the Bridesmaid or Best Man bought the dresses than the bride would cover hair and/or makeup. She is crazy.
I bought my bridesmaids shoes, dresses and jewelry. And I am giving them the option of getting their hair and makeup done. (Most of my bridesmaids can do their own hair and it looks like a professional did it!) Even then it would be cheaper for them to pair for their own hair and makeup compared to what the outfit cost!
Post # 41
Good for you for standing up to her and love that you returned the present. If I am correct that this means you’re not getting her a gift (besides dealing with her), I am curious what her response to that will be!
Post # 42
This whole situation is just madness! Who in the world told this girl that the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor pay for her beauty services! In the words of Michelle Tanner..”How rude”!!!!!
Post # 43
wow!!! BEYOND rediculous!!! i actually felt BAD for having my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor paying for their own hair and, unfortunately not being able to get their rmake up done by my make up artist – but i’m paying $150 alone for her.
i realllly wanted to pay for their hair, but they’re cool with paying for it $50 each. there is absolutely NO way in he## I’d EVER attempt to make them pay for my stuff!
i just don’t even know what to say.
Post # 44
When one of my friends was a bridesmaid, the bride told her she’d found and bought the dresses and asked for the money, which of course my friend quickly handed over. Anyway, my friend was wandering through the same department store two days later and what do you know, the dress was in the half price sale – and had been for a whole week! The bride had blatently been trying to make a few quid (about £100 actually) our of her girls! The bridesmaids dined out on that story for months!
Post # 45
I have never heard of bridesmaids paying for the brides makeup or hair – usually its the other way around. I know many brides who as a gift paid for their bridesmaids hair or makeup as a thank you for standing up with them in their wedding party.
Its a really hard call what you should do because you have been friends for so long. I definitely wouldnt pay for her that day. I have a feeling she will be back to normal after the wedding….well hopefullly…..
Post # 46
WOW!!!!! That is not right. I plan to pay for my BM’s, Maid/Matron of Honor, and Mother to get their hair and nails done and I have 6 BM’s. If I cant afford to pay for all of them then I will not require that they have those things done. It will totally be optional. It sounds to me like your friend is taking advantage.