(Closed) I'm afraid I'm going to sob through my whole wedding.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1799 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I cried.. The photos are amazing and I don’t regret it at all.. I just made sure my vows were really short and read after me type!

Post # 3
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’ve been crying while looking at pictures for ideas. I’m definitely investing in waterproof mascara!

Post # 4
410 posts
Helper bee

Not me, but I have a friend who is a cryer. Just like you described anything and everything will make her cry. And true to character, she cried a whooooooole lot at her wedding. The ceremony, the speaches, the first dance, dancing with her father. All of it, she cried. 

But honestly, it was sweet. It’s who she is and for her to not have cried would have seemed almost unauthentic. I would try not to dwell, it will be a beautiful day and you will just react authentically to how you are feeling.

Post # 5
6262 posts
Bee Keeper

We thought we’d be sobbers too. We cry a lot and in the lead up we cried over our vows, songs, practicing our dance. I just thought we’d be ridiculous all day. So much so my DH had a little hanky specially emroidered for me as a surprise.  Do you know what though – we were just so excited and happy we didn’t cry!  There was an odd tear while a friend sang a beautiful song. Lots of our guests cried and even our burly brave best men got a little croaky during their speaches. so you may surprise yourself! 


Post # 6
3535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I’m not a crier, but after DH proposed, I was teary eyed for the next month. Every time I thought of our wedding, I would tear up for the entire year leading up to the wedding.

I made sure to have a hanky and water proof mascara (seriously there are pictures of me dabbing my eyes and nose with this hanky). I’m pretty good at forcing down any crying, but I did let out a sob or two during the time I left my room to go to the ceremony, until we walked down the aisle as husband and wife. 

The pictures turned out fine, and there is one of me staring into my husbands eyes while he says his vows and my eyes are glittering with tears. That’s actually my favorite one 🙂

Post # 7
3308 posts
Sugar bee

I’m hoping to get all my blubbering out of the way the day before at the rehearsal when we will see a lot of the people who are flying in for our wedding. And during our first look. I REALLY don’t want to be crying for our entire ceremony… I’m even worried I will cry at my Hens Party LOL, my MOH’s have gone to so much effort I’m definitely going to be so overwhelmed on the day omg….

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UK-bee:  Your experience gives me hope that I won’t cry for the whole ceremony 🙂

Post # 8
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I am a total wedding cryer and fully anticipated being a MESS during my ceremony. I even started crying walking down the aisle during the rehearsal, lol. But then the day of minus a quick moment when I walked in I was totally composed and didn’t cry a bit! The whole world slowed down and I felt 100% calm and happy just to be there in the moment. I don’t think there’s any way to anticipate how things will go on the day of… But I wouldn’t stress about it! Some waterproof mascara and a cute handkerchief are both good ideas, but at the end of the day no one’s going to fault you for crying at your own wedding 😛 

Post # 9
1378 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I cried through my entire ceremony.  Chaplain even asked if I needed more tissue in the middle of the ceremony.  So my advice to you is have enough tissue on you.  😉

Post # 10
2734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I cry at other people’s weddings – I spent most of my sister’s wedding (I was a bridesmaid) trying SO hard not to cry, and so expected to be a major crier on the day.  I lost it at our rehearsal, but on our wedding day was surprisingly fine – I think I was too excited to cry!  

Post # 11
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I’m so worried about balling too! even debating asking my make-up lady to stay around to fix me up after the ceremony :/.  We are keeping vows short and sweet cos i am so nervous and hope i can spreak!

Post # 12
3913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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sweetpea1002:  I cry ALL. THE. TIME. My biggest fear was that I was going to ugly cry at my wedding. I cried so many times leading up to the wedding. However, the day of, all of my nerves went away and this feeling of utter calm came over me. I was so sure of marrying DH and so EXCITED to do so, that I couldn’t cry. I teared up during our first look, but during the ceremony I practically raced down the aisle to get to him–my parents had to keep dragging me back because I was practically sprinting haha. 

My point is, you just won’t know what you’ll be like the day of the wedding. I was sure I would be a mess, but instead I was too damn happy and excited to cry. 

Post # 13
387 posts
Helper bee

There was just an Dear Abby about this a few days ago. The Mother of the Groom wrote in and was afraid that she’d cry throughout the entire ceremony. Somebody later commented that they (Father of a Groom/Bride that had already gotten married) spoke to a doctor and got a Rx for xanax. It was a low dosage, so he felt fine, not loopy or drowse, just didn’t cry and remainded calm. Would you look into something like this? 

Post # 14
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I thought I was going to cry… in the end, I did all my crying in the 8 weeks before the wedding! It started with the unexpected death of a family friend- I sobbed at the funeral like I was his own daughter. From that moment, every little thing made me cry- my Fiance making me a cup of coffee and bringing it to me in bed, commercials on TV, family arriving from the UK… the works!

On the day of our wedding, my sister gave me a beautiful book she had made me, full of photos from my 13 month engagement, my wedding invitation etc- I bawled. Then my mum gave me a page from a letter from my nanny, who died in 2003, and one of her handkerchiefs. We all sobbed. Really ugly sobbing. It worked- I shed one or two happy tears coming down the aisle, and that was it! 

Post # 15
4227 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

If it helps: 

I was worried I was going to cry too. I tear up REALLY easily! I have never been to a wedding where I didn’t cry. The entire time I was getting ready with my bridesmaids I was hyperventilating. I was shaking. I was teary. Going from our ‘getting ready room’ to the ceremony was the longest elevator ride and hallway walk of my life! (I’m tearing up even typing this).

But when the music started and I found myself at the top of the aisle, a surreal calm washed over me. Yes I was shaking a tiny bit, but I felt oddly ok. It was like I was in a trance! It wasn’t until after the ceremony was over, and we were wrapping up the photography session that it HIT me….but it didn’t matter because the pictures were already taken. I didn’t even fully snap out of it and have a ‘proper’ cry until two days later when we arrived at our honeymoon destination (got married on the Saturday, wen on our honeymoon on the Monday).

But I will say, nothing is more touching than a bride with tears in her eyes. If you cry at your wedding, so what? It is your day and nobody will mind!

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