(Closed) Im afraid my best friend is a bad influence

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cmoest:  I have a best friend that cheats all the time (she isn’t married/doesn’t have kids).  I don’t care because she’s still a great friend to me.  In addition, her actions outside of our friendship definitely will not impact my relationship with my husband.  I think what you have to figure out is if/how is your best friend influencing you negatively.  If she really is detrimental to your relationship with your Boyfriend or Best Friend, then you need to get rid of her.

Post # 4
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cmoest: I dumped my friend not too long ago because she cheated on her husband a second time. She wanted me to meet her bf on the side, and I told her no, not until she gets a divorce. it hurts because I am the godmother to her son, but I am happily married and don’t agree with what she does. She never went to college so she feels like she missed all of those years she should have been dating and partying rather than being married at 18 and having a baby at 19. 

I felt bad about tossing a friendship where we had been friends since we were 3, but I can’t put my marriage in jeopardy or a compromising situation because she enjoys hooking up with other men that aren’t her husband. Sometimes it is for the best.


Post # 5
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@housebee:  AHHHHH! STOP IT!!! 😉

One of my closest friends regularly cheats on her husband. I don’t respect that choice, but it was her choice to make. She is a great friend to me and that is what I judge the validity of her friendship on. It’s not like, “oh, well she is cheating on her husband so I guess I will too!” She wouldn’t expect me to and knows I wouldn’t anyway.

Post # 7
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@cmoest:    I think she’s trying to justify her own behavior by asking you to partake or at least agree. sounds like she has serious self esteem problems. 

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