Post # 1
I feel like this is something that my mother would clutch her pearls at, but my friends would find quite useful and would understand…
I’m not necessarily the etiquette queen and neither are my friends and family. Everyone is pretty come as you are and anything goes (within reason!)
FI and I did not do a wedding website b/c what does that really tell you besides where to get us gifts from? I didn’t have time and everything that would be on there will be in the invitation.
FI mentioned a while back how we should make a facebook page for people to post pictures to after the wedding, which I thought was a good idea. Then as things got more involved, I/we’ve been bombarded by friends and family via fb message mostly with all kinds of questions regarding everything from shoe wear to parking to hotel accomodations. We didn’t include every minute detail in the invitation. The only reasons these questions are arising is b/c our reception is in a barn 35 min away from our ceremony space. The whole day is very uncommon for our area, to be honest!
So back tracking to FI’s idea for the Facebook page – would it be completely faux pas for me to create a private page and invite the invitees so we can post information as it comes and that guests can interact with each other and post questions/comments and get back to each other? We encourage carpooling between ceremony/hotel/reception and most of our guests all know each other. Also, it would be an easier way for me to pleasantly “remind” people about RSVPs, etc.
Am I completely out of my mind for considering this? As a guest in the digital age, would you find this tacky as hell or pretty efficient? I, like most people, very often rely on social media to answer my questions, but I’m up in the air about this one!
Post # 2
Personally I wouldn’t have a problem with it, although (unlike a website) you may find that not all guests are able to access it. So I wouldn’t rely on it as a sole information/photo disseminator or some people could get cranky.
Post # 3
BurlapnLace: I dont’ think a private FB group is any different than a wedding website. I would go ahead and do it. I wouldnt’ think anything of it if I was added to such a group. The only thing I can see being a problem is if all of your guests don’t have facebook. but that would apply even to a wedding website if some older friends or relatives didn’t use the internet often.
Post # 4
My cousin did this, but she’s 18. I don’t think it’s a crazy idea, as long as they can turn off notifications and not get bombarded with notifications everytime someone does something. I think a website would have been a better way to go personally, but I don’t see anything wrong with the group. Oh and as long as it’s totally private, as in noone else can see, find or join it.
Post # 5
a wedding website is basically just that… a page dedicated to your wedding info so that people can look and find out the answers to these questions. With the templates that are online you can set one up in about an hour. You don’t have to have all those “how we met” and “meet the bridal party” stuff which are what takes the most time. Instead of spending the time answering everyone’s question one by one just put all the info on a site and then you can just send the link
I had friends use a private facebook event page but not everyone is on facebook so it might only work for some people and if I was going to spend the time I would prefer it was accessable by everyone going to the wedding
I don’t think it is the worst most tacky thing but its definitely more suited to casual back yard bbq type weddings than a formal event (IMO)
Post # 6
Normally, I would say don’t do it, just make a free wedding website real quick. But, if everyone is already bombarding you with questions via social media, then it seems like they are fine with getting the info off of there anyway. Even if you were to make a website, I’m sure you would have to use something to get word out that it exists aside from word-of-mouth. Do what you feel comfortable with. I would find it a little tacky if someone decided to use social media in lieu of invites, etc, but not if they had already sent out formal invites and did not have a wedding website. Or, you could do what my cousin did. Create your website with all the info people are requesting and send a massive message on social media with the link to it. Good luck!
Post # 7
I would find that really annoying, invasive, and awkward. Everyone will get all these notifications anytime someone posts, it shows you who’s seen what post, private comments will be public… It’s just.. get your wedding off of my FB.
You say the website wasn’t neccessary… But i don’t think that’s the case if people are confused about logistics and attire. Just make a website. Lots are free. In the time you spend on the bee in a day you could have one. It’s an annoyance to you which spares annoyance for your guests which is what being a good host is all about.
Post # 8
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your idea seeing as invites have gone out so you can’t really mention the wedding website (alternatively you can fb msg all those people a wedding website URL though?).
Just please don’t send fb msgs in any manner for RSVP reminders!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
I think you should just bite the bullet and create a website.
ps There is no pleasant or polite way to “remind” people about RSVP’s. You will have to wait until after the due date, then contact the non-responders like all other brides.
Post # 10
I think it would be fine. It’s not thaat different than a weddding website. Though it might be more difficult to get the answers people ae looking for in a facebook page, as opposed to a regular wedding website. Honestlt, there are plenty of free and easy websites tht you could set up in a couple hours – that’s what we did and it worked great. And then it’s easy to find all the info your guets might need.
Post # 11
i’m not even a fan of the website, the how we met part is redundant to the people you’re inviting, everyone has gps and doesnt need directions etc. but its more “legit”
facebook is for social networking and annoying links being shared. don’t jump that shark.
to add a laugh..
Post # 12
I think a wedding website is a better way of going about information because a private FB group might get annoying with notifications. Not sure if there is a way to modify that, but I know I get annoyed when I reply once of a post, and then I get notification that Sally Johnson replied and then Joe Dirt replied. It gets annoying.
I think doing a website will give everyone basic information, and from there, guests can contact each other for any outstanding information. You can even add on there who to direct questions regarding rooms, venue, food, etc to if you want.
Just as a side note regard wedding pictures. Wedpics is a free app on your phone where you can take pics and post them to an account for you and your FI’s wedding. I have used it at several weddings the past year, and it is fantastic. Maybe you could try that for your guest photos.
Post # 13
andixlyn: omg i love that meme!! hahahh
would have been perfect for my cousins wedding reception invite on facebook titled “lets get crunk”
Post # 14
People can turn off notifications on fb so if that’s how people have been contacting you then that would be fine I imagine.
Post # 15
it took me 30 mins tops to put all the necessary info into a weddingwire.com (free!) site. i then spent another hour adding extras, photos etc. but you wouldn’t need to.
i would do that, and then post the link/send the link to people.
i HATE being added to groups like that, i get a million notifications and i don’t actually want to be included in a long thread between your aunt alice and your bridesmaids who are concerned about footwear.
just make a free bare bones website and be done with it!