(Closed) I’m allergic to our cake! What to do?

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 3
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

NO! I think the cupcake is a precious idea!!!!

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am allergic to wheat also, but that isn’t going to stop me from eating some of my cake. I get stuffed up and my throat gets a little tight, but I am willing to risk it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m allergic to gluten and couldn’t change the cake because we had a Destination Wedding and it would have been too complicated.

So I cut the cake, did all the pics, had a little icing… and then when everyone was served their plate, I had a fruit platter for myself. People know that I couldn’t eat it the the “obvious” factor was really not a big deal; and if you have a bigger wedding (we were only 16), people will likely not even notice.

A cupcake is a really good idea – better be different than sick on your wedding day!

Some people have suggested to me that I have only one tier of the cake made gluten free.. we opted against that because as I said, impossible for us, but it was a good idea as well, if you have some time to modify your order.

Post # 6
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Now that gluten allergies are becoming so popular right now, there might be some bakeries or grocery stores that have gluten-free cakes and desserts.  Maybe you could get a small gluten-free cake decorated similiarly to your wedding cake, and that can be the cake you and your fiance cut together. 

Maybe you could start out by asking your baker if they do gluten-free cakes, and if not, check out local organic grocery store or a grocery store with more options than the typical grocery store.  Around here we have Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods and Wegman’s, all which might have something gluten-free.  Not sure what there is in NE, but I’m sure there’s something.  Or, just google gluten-free bakery in your area.  I know in NYC, there’s a bakery committed to using gluten-free, dairy-free, egg-free and soy-free treats!  http://www.babycakesnyc.com/

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My cousin is allergic to wheat too and at her wedding she had the top layer of the wedding cake be gluten-free. I would contact your baker and see if they can make the top tier gluten-free or else make a small side cake (big enough for just a few people) that is gluten-free. You also do not have to eat the parts that you cut necessarily. My cousin cut the main cake as part of the cake-cutting ceremony but she actually ate out of the gluten-free part. I can’t say that I noticed she did anything special (from a guest’s point of view), so I am sure it will work out!

Post # 8
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I kind of feel your pain. My mom is allergic to chocolate (terrible, I know) and my sister is allergic to gluten so we’ve had to really get creative with our menu. For our cake we’re actually having a fake (styrofoam) cake except for the top, anniversary layer and a cut out portion for us to cut and eat during the reception. The guests will all be served sheet cakes. We did this because it’s easier for our cake servers and since our cake with be smack in the center of the room and a HUGE focal point I don’t want it all dismembered and destroyed half way through.

Would it be possible for you to do something similar and your cut out portion could be something wheat free? Surely your Fiance can handle eating one little piece when you feed each other and then have a piece of the real deal later?

Post # 11
640 posts
Busy bee

The cupcake is a cute idea, but something to consider is how allergic to gluten are you? Fiance just gets a few tummy rumbles that a pepto bismo solves if he eats gluten so he will be having some of our cake. Whatever you do it will be perfect!

Post # 12
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is there some other type of dessert you can feed each other that doesn’t interfere with your allergy? That way, your Fh and your guests can still have the cake or else you can skip the cake and serve the other dessert to everyone instead.

Post # 13
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I ike the cupcake idea. What about a slice of flourless chocolate cake? I bet there is a bakery near you that has options so you could indulge in something delicious that won’t make you sick.

Post # 14
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

could you just take a little bite?  Or are you severely allergic?  

Post # 15
640 posts
Busy bee

@ebs1123, So sorry to hear that! Have you been diagnosed with Celiacs? I know I post this alot on here but it truly is my favorite nutrition/exercise/recipe website….


This is how Fiance and I eat all the time so its easy to maintain and non gluten intolerant people love it too!

Post # 16
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


Are you allergic to wheat or do you have Celiac’s? B/c they’re two different things and I’ve seen both talked about.

If you have a wheat allergy, then you experience an immunologic (allergic) rxn… like hives, trouble breathing… etc. to some degree. Celiac’s (more of an autoimmune disease) usually only experience gastrointestinal discomfort, if anything at all, with small quantities of wheat. Therefore, Celiac’s (the gluten free diets) can eat wheat, but may be quite uncomfy 3-4 hours later (though not recommended b/c it may eventually will ruin your intestineal lining – leading to malabsoption). In the case of Celiac’s, one little slice won’t be a big deal. In the case of wheat allergy, is it really worth the risk to not have your own cupcake? Stress/activity can increase the risk of increased allergic rxns. GL!

(My guess is you have Celiac’s b/c sometimes people never even get diagnosed for their entire life… a wheat allergy would have more likely popped up when in childhood)

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