(Closed) I’m American and he’s Indian/Sikh. Ceremony Ideas Welcomed!

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
  • poll: Should we do a fusion cermony?
    yes! 50/50 : (14 votes)
    78 %
    No, honor his religion and do a Sikh ceremony : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Run away and get married in Vegas (where we currently live anyway lol) : (1 votes)
    6 %
    JOP it and forget about all of it. : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Depending on how religious they are, have two ceremonies! My cousins are Sikh, andmy older cousin married a Hindu girl. They had the Sikh ceremony in the morning, lunch, Hindu ceremony in the afternoon, cocktail hour, then reception. It was a hectic day for sure, but in the end, both families saw their traditions honored in a “traditional” way.

    Post # 5
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @sonnysprincess:It’s doable, but might be really hard to do. I don’t know how familier you are with a Sikh ceremony but it’s VERY symbollic and not at all like a western ceremony. For our wedding, we’re having it in a Catholic church, but we’re having a Buddhist monk share a homily. You can write in however you want, but you do run the risk of completely alienating your side with the Sikh ceremony elements and vice versa. Also, I don’t know how it is were you live, or how consrvative your FI’s family is, but having a ceremony in a Gurdwara is a really sacred thing.

    Maybe try to mesh the elements of a Sikh ceremony you want (there’s a really pretty part about “brothers” giving the bride away that I really love) and Western elements and have one ceremony in a non-religious site?

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @sonnysprincess:  If logistically possible then go for it. My Fiance is Hindu while I’m Catholic so ours will not be completely 50/50 since my ceremony is more religious and his is more cultural. I wouldn’t want only half of the pPatel to participate while the other half can’t because they’re not Catholic.

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m Catholic and my Fiance is Hindu also!! We’re doing 2 ceremonies in one day…it’s gonna be the longest day ever and i’m also worried our guests will be super tired. We’re doing the Hindu ceremony from 1-3, Catholic ceremony from 4-5, then cocktail and reception after. Everything is going to be at the same venue so that definitely saves traveling for our guests. But i’m definitely having second thoughts…should we have just done a 2 day event? 

    Either way you should definitely respect his culture and do it 50/50. It will be a great day for you both!

    Post # 8
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    Newbee

    I recommend having 2 ceremonies — it doesn’t have to be in the same day. My bf is Sikh and I am Christian, so we will be having 2 ceremonies for sure. It is actually quite common nowadays. Even though my bf doesn’t practice, it’s a cutural thing for him and his family. 

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