Post # 1
So, I’m reading this thread here and seeing a post by a bee in that thread, it occured to me that well, there are sometimes when I’m on the bee and I see a certain poster post something, especially in the emotional threads, it flashes through my mind that the person is young and when I reflect, they usually are (many bees have mentioned their age). I don’t want to say EXACTLY what the content is of the thread but suffice it to say, it makes me do a double take enough to see how old the person is. Now, that doesn’t mean that I think there should be an age limit on when folks get married nor do I think that only the young have a monopoly on drama filled lives (trust me, I know!) but I wonder, are there other folks like me? IRL or online (not just the bee) Do you find yourself looking at certain decisions people make and thinking ‘Oh well, the person is only 19/20/21’? Or on the other hand, you see someone do something and you think to yourself “Aren’t you a little too old to be doing that?”…anyone? Beuller?? Beuller??? Please, this is not an age-bashing thread. It’s more a thread on ‘Are there other folks that think like this?’ I would hate to think I’m the only one who does this
Post # 3
Being on the “only 21” side of that, but not your normal 21 year old I do it too. Of course I am in the camp, “Seriously, you are 21, act like an adult not a teenager!” Of course that can be said of many “grown” women I know too. And I mean grown as anywhere from 30-60 here. I do think age affects things, it isn’t JUST a number, it does generally equate to life exsperiance. But I try REALLY hard to not judge based on age, but rather on actions, even though sometimes I just want to say “Seriously, grow up!”
Post # 5
Sometimes I do – especially if I think they are acting immature. But most of the time I realize it’s dependent on the person and not their age.
I’m 23, btw…..so I suppose I’m pretty young!
Post # 6
I do it. And I’m 21 and I think “woah theyre young”!! There’s 11.5 years between SO and I so I never think of “us” as being young even though I am. I think it’s cultural too though, I noticed it when I visited the states at 18. In the UK you can leave school at 16, and that seemed a very alien concept to my american counterparts when I visited. At the time I dating someone 17 years older (yeah, I like an older man, not intentional though) and I had one guy come up to me and actively “tell me off” like he was my Dad. I was really taken aback.
Post # 7
Yeah…I’ll admit it. I’m a judgey mcjudgerson. On here it mostly has to do with presentation…I’ve seen some posts and I’ve thought the person typing was 18 and they turn out to be 40, and vice versa.
Post # 8
I do it too. I’m about to be 27, so I’m sure plenty of people think I’m pretty young, but I often read things and do a double take and think oh she must be very young…sometimes I’m right, sometimes I’m wrong. A lot of it is maturity.
Post # 9
I do this,and Im 22!lol, I see myself as quite mature for my age,and not as young as I actually am,so I find myself looking at people and saying to myself:”really?your too young/too old to be doing that!” But if I catch myself doing it,I usually tell myself off for being too quick to jump to any conclusion!
Post # 10
@Mrs. Guinness: ^^ that. Sometimes I’m really surprised at how old people actually are. Like when someone says they can’t go see their boyfriend because their mom won’t let them leave the house, they have a curfew, etc. And then they say they are 25. Not generally the number I am expecting.
Post # 11
I think everyone does thisto some extent.
Post # 12
I’ll be 24 in february and I totally do this.
Post # 13
I often read threads on here and think, “this person seems really young…”, so yes, I’m right there with you.
Post # 14
IRL I don’t judge, but I do make quiet observations to myself. I have a group of girlfriends most of which are about 2 years younger than I am and I see them going through very similar phases that I went through at their age and I think to myself: They will probably get over this in about 2 months, and I’m usually right.
Post # 15
Yep. I don’t know if it is really judging though? I think maybe I just cut people more slack if they’re young, especially with the “emotional” posts.
Post # 16
I do it all the time. I certainly don’t do it intentionally, but it’s something that I think can’t be helped. More than anything though, I make judgments about people my age or older who are acting immaturely (in my opinion).