(Closed) I’m an ageist……..I find that I do judge certain situations based on age :(

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: Do you find yourself judging certain situations based on age?
    Yes : (103 votes)
    61 %
    No : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Sometimes : (54 votes)
    32 %
    Who does this? Age is just a number! : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Being on the “only 21” side of that, but not your normal 21 year old I do it too. Of course I am in the camp, “Seriously, you are 21, act like an adult not a teenager!” Of course that can be said of many “grown” women I know too. And I mean grown as anywhere from 30-60 here. I do think age affects things, it isn’t JUST a number, it does generally equate to life exsperiance. But I try REALLY hard to not judge based on age, but rather on actions, even though sometimes I just want to say “Seriously, grow up!”

    Post # 4
    Member
    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I do it too.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    Sometimes I do – especially if I think they are acting immature. But most of the time I realize it’s dependent on the person and not their age.

    I’m 23, btw…..so I suppose I’m pretty young!

    Post # 6
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    4151 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I do it.  And I’m 21 and I think “woah theyre young”!!  There’s 11.5 years between SO and I so I never think of “us” as being young even though I am.  I think it’s cultural too though, I noticed it when I visited the states at 18.  In the UK you can leave school at 16, and that seemed a very alien concept to my american counterparts when I visited.  At the time I dating someone 17 years older (yeah, I like an older man, not intentional though) and I had one guy come up to me and actively “tell me off” like he was my Dad.  I was really taken aback.

    Post # 7
    Member
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Yeah…I’ll admit it. I’m a judgey mcjudgerson. On here it mostly has to do with presentation…I’ve seen some posts and I’ve thought the person typing was 18 and they turn out to be 40, and vice versa.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I do it too. I’m about to be 27, so I’m sure plenty of people think I’m pretty young, but I often read things and do a double take and think oh she must be very young…sometimes I’m right, sometimes I’m wrong. A lot of it is maturity.

    Post # 9
    Member
    838 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I do this,and Im 22!lol, I see myself as quite mature for my age,and not as young as I actually am,so I find myself looking at people and saying to myself:”really?your too young/too old to be doing that!” Embarassed But if I catch myself doing it,I usually tell myself off for being too quick to jump to any conclusion!

    Post # 10
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @Mrs. Guinness: ^^ that. Sometimes I’m really surprised at how old people actually are. Like when someone says they can’t go see their boyfriend because their mom won’t let them leave the house, they have a curfew, etc. And then they say they are 25. Not generally the number I am expecting.

    Post # 11
    Member
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think everyone does thisto some extent. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’ll be 24 in february and I totally do this.

    Post # 13
    Member
    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I often read threads on here and think, “this person seems really young…”, so yes, I’m right there with you.

    Post # 14
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    IRL I don’t judge, but I do make quiet observations to myself. I have a group of girlfriends most of which are about 2 years younger than I am and I see them going through very similar phases that I went through at their age and I think to myself: They will probably get over this in about 2 months, and I’m usually right.

    Post # 15
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Yep. I don’t know if it is really judging though? I think maybe I just cut people more slack if they’re young, especially with the “emotional” posts. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I do it all the time.  I certainly don’t do it intentionally, but it’s something that I think can’t be helped.  More than anything though, I make judgments about people my age or older who are acting immaturely (in my opinion).  

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