(Closed) I'm an engaged guy who needs women's advice!

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What kind of things does she like to do? Hobbies? What do you love most about her?

Post # 3
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’d give her a memory, rather than a physical gift. If you must put something in a box, what about tickets to somewhere she would like to go? What does she enjoy doing? Or, do you know of a place she’s always wanted to visit?

Post # 4
780 posts
Busy bee

My husband and I are Disney nerds. As a wedding gift, he asked my mom, who’s very into crafting and scrapbooking to make a scrapbook that looked exactly like Ellie and Carl’s Adventure Book and a mailbox like theirs from the movie “Up”. 

He gave me the mailbox early and we used it as a card box for our reception. He gave me the scrapbook the morning after the wedding and filled the first page with a few engagement photos,  then put together a “wedding” page with room for photos, and put a big “to be continued…” On the page after that. 

I cried and I look forward to filling up that book with our many adventures. 🙂

Long story short, if she’s sentimental, she’ll probably appreciate something you put time and thought into making special. I love the idea of a scrapbook with your happy memories together if it’s something she would appreciate for its sentimentality. 

Post # 5
580 posts
Busy bee

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Have you considered writing her a romantic letter for the wedding day? (You can write another one for her to open on a later anniversary that you wrote on your wedding day!)

I’ve heard of couples doing that as well as buying a really nice wine to open for a special anniversary.

Post # 6
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

You could get started on one of those sentence a day/photo a day etc journals that are available quite cheap at urban outfitters etc? 

it doesn’t really sound Like what your fi will be interested in, but im also a non materialistic low key person and all I want on my wedding day is Chanel no 5 (“all”… Like it doesn’t cost an arm and a leg haha), because I love the idea that every time I smell it after I will think of my wedding day. 

Post # 7
3929 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How about a photo album made on Shutterfly of your “story” together complete with important dates/photos/stories? They are pretty easy to make and are all 100% customaizable.

I gave my husband this copper wallet insert from Etsy that he can keep in his wallet. There is a love note I wrote for him engraved on it with our wedding day on it as well. https://www.etsy.com/listing/172931998/engraved-copper-wallet-insert-same-size?ref=sc_2&sref=sr_97a943b756e20a001f7c05222b631fd12d344e23c11d6e8c88c8d3670f7c0a8a_1403565881_14233142_engrave&sref2=MTcyOTMxOTk4%3AZW5ncmF2ZQ..%3AMTQyMzMxNDI.%3AZW5ncmF2ZWQgY29wcGVyIGNhcmQ.%3AdzE.%3AMTQwMzU2NTg4MQ..%3AMzoxNDAzNTY1ODgxOk9zcV9fQTEyQXJsSEJTRGJuZXlBYWlPY2kwT3I6NzM1OWVlNTUyOGQ2NTZjYWZiMWY0NTA5MmQ0ZGZjMjEzMzY1ZTk5ODYwZGM3YzI4NDk5ZjMwM2NjODFjYzhkOQ..%3A93d53616ca10a3e6df403a9a742d4dee9386bc88&ga_search_query=engraved+copper+card&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery

Maybe you could arrange with the photographer to do a 1-year anniversary shoot on your anniversary next year at your venue and give her a bottle of wine that you can open and drink at the shoot with a note explaining everything.

Maybe a box full of things that she loves? Special candy or small gifts you know she would love?

A planned excursion (like a bed and breakfast weekend) or something for your 1,3, or 6 month anniversary would also be nice!


Good luck!

Post # 8
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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tryingtobethoughtful:  I’d try for something sentimental.  A scrapbook or photo book memoralizing your time dating & engaged, including some sweet words from your perspective about how you remember certain key moments: the first time you kissed, your first date, planning the proposal, when you fell in love, other special little memories.  I would die is my DH did something like that. 

I’ll also throw it out there – I’m not sure how common wedding day gifts are in your circle, but in mine they aren’t common.  At most I see people send a card and a boquet of flowers.  Usually we skip it all together.  The wedding, the rings, the honeymoon, and your vows could all be considered a gift to one another, more may not be needed!

Post # 9
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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tryingtobethoughtful:  Not sure what your budget is, but what if you found out her dream place to travel and planned it as a suprise honeymoon? Maybe you lead her to think that you are going somewhere else. I saw a propoal video like this once, the guy told the girl he was taking her to NYC. He even printed fake broadway tickets and everything. Then, at the airport, he gave her tickets to Paris. What if you did something like that, but something you can afford? Make her think you are going somwhere okay, and then on the morning of the wedding, surprise her and tell her you planned the honeymoon of her dreams. 

Post # 10
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

What about an array of letters to her to “Open When…” and put in a pretty box. 

like – 

Post # 13
97 posts
Worker bee

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MrsTtoB:  That is a great suggestion. I may steal that idea myself lol. 

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tryingtobethoughtful:  I know someone who bought his wife (then fiance) a laptop and had it delivered to her hotel room the morning of the wedding and he had uploaded a video where he told her all the reasons he loved her and was happy to be spending the rest of his life with her. It was practical (laptop to keep) as well as thoughtful and she will forever have the video to look back on.

Similarly, I know persons who have written songs (this is great if you can sing really well) for their wives and performed them at the reception. 

I also think some other bees suggestions of tickets to a place she has always wanted to go, or things linked to her favourite hobbies would also be very nice. 

Post # 14
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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tryingtobethoughtful:  Does she love to read? I know I would love to get a first printing of the first edition of my favorite book. I think old books are incredibly romantic. I would also be down for a heartfelt letter and tickets for an adventure like scuba diving, sky diving, or a ht air balloon ride. I know a guy who planned the whole honeymoon as a surprise- that was awesome. 

Post # 15
43 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

When my husband and I were still dating, for our first Valentine’s I just bought index cards and  a cute box and wrote one thing I loved about him for each day we’d been dating (about 8 months worth). It was fun to get creative and think of his little quirks/things that made me smile and he loved the gift! Might be hard to come up with hundreds of unique ones if you’ve been together a really long time though…

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