Post # 1
Last night, one of my best friends (who was also a bridesmaid in my wedding) asked me to be her Matron of Honor at her wedding in August. I am so excited! I have been helping her plan everything thus far anyway, but I was content to be the super helper in the background.
Now that I have been asked, I was wondering what the best things your MOHs have done for you have been. What made you super happy and feel really special? What was most helpful? Any good theme ideas for the bridal shower?
Post # 3
I think the best thing that my Maid/Matron of Honor has done so far is to be enthusiastic and excited. I don’t mean all the time but I have had some people involved in the wedding who have been less than thrilled which can sometimes get me down but having my Maid/Matron of Honor there with her excitment washes away some responses from others 🙂
Post # 4
My Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t been the most supportive, but from that i can tell you the biggest thing I want from her and what I hope you can do for your bride is be enthusiastic and excited like the about post says. It doesn’t have to be about the wedding all the time, but asking about it and getting excited about the little details that she is really makes it feel more fun I think. Also being available for the “important” moments like trying on dresses is really special to me. Congrats! I’m sure you’ll be a great MOH!
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister. She’s not usually an emotional person, but she was the only person to cry when we told her we were engaged which really surprised me! She also was excited to always come with me to try on dresses, and gave me her honest opinions which was really helpful (as did my mom and another Bridesmaid or Best Man.) She shows excitement and enthusiasm when I say things like “we’re going to do DIY invites and decor!” and she’s all over it, so it totally helps when she shows her interest, and I know it’s genuine.
Post # 6
I think asking about her plans and progress is a great start! My Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t really done that as of yet, but my wedding is still very far away and she’s been really really busy, so I’m not too upset about it. I just wish she’d bring it up every now and then with me instead of me always bringing it up. Sometimes I feel like I’m boring my BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor when I talk about it. Just make sure you always seem interested and offer her all the help you can 🙂
Post # 7
My Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t much involved during the hub of planning, so a lot of decisions were made by myself (and other BMs). I understood because of school, work, and dealing with living with her boyfriend (for the first year), etc. But, I did have a chat with her about 1 month ago and expressed how she hasn’t really been around, etc.
Whatta turn around man. I know its a lot and I would’ve never expected her to be there for everything, but she has definitely done just that! And now, today actually, she has put together this bridal shower that I know she’s been working on for weeks, spent all day yesterday baking 120 cupcakes (she’s a baker so she really went all out) for a tower that I originally wanted for the wedding and due to budget, wasn’t able to get. She took little details about the wedding that I filled her in about, and she incorporated it into the shower and is really going above and beyond.
THe best thing any Maid/Matron of Honor can do, IMO, is be there. And mine is doing just that. 🙂 Congrats on the Maid/Matron of Honor offer … have fun and enjoy!
Post # 8
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my younger sister. She has been so awesome so far. She is so excited for us and always makes time to talk about wedding stuff. I have put her in charge of finding Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and she taking her job and running with it!
Post # 9
My Maid/Matron of Honor is super excited as she has never been in a wedding before. She has gone and done everything I have asked her to. I was even out trying on dresses for a different event and she came with me and tried some on herself, which really made it fun. She makes everything a fun adventure. I have to say my favorite thing she has done is so inappropriate, but it made me hit the floor laughing. I did the one day trying on dresses with the BMs, she saw a dress she wanted to see me in and couldn’t get sales persons attention so she went a grabbed the whole mannequin and brought it to me. WTF!? It was so over the top, just like her, that all I could do was laugh. Totally made it a great story day.
Post # 10
My Maid/Matron of Honor took care of me in ways that I didn’t even realize. She was actually the buffer between me and a lot of the wedding “drama” between the maids, the people that didn’t get to be maids that thought they should, etc. Someone once made the comment that the only person as happy as my Darling Husband and I were on that day was my MOH!
That being said, I was working on grad degree, working FT and planning an out of state wedding. So the best thing she did for me that was tangible was to take me for a massage and facial!
Post # 11
Thanks ladies! I’ve been a bridesmaid before (this past August), so I know a lot of the responsibilities, but I love getting new ideas from other brides. My Maid/Matron of Honor was my sister, and while I love her, being Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t her top priority. It wasn’t the best situation, so I know what I wanted and needed in an Maid/Matron of Honor. Thanks for the ideas!
What do you think about the idea of getting her a pampering day for her bridal shower gift? Kitchen gadgets and stuff are fun, but I like the idea of getting her something that will just be about her.
Post # 12
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my cousin and even though my wedding is still far off, she’s been super! We had 2 different engagement parties last summer and she was with me all day helping with setting up, picking things up, helping me get ready and all that fun stuff. I also think she’s just really excited about her title, that she’ll do just about anything. She’s offered to go to vendor meetings with me, which is nice cause Fiance can’t always be there. Basically, she’s always there when I need help and a second opinion.
I also think giving her a pampering day gift would be fantastic! I would love something like that!
Post # 13
I think this pictures sums up why my Maid/Matron of Honor was awesome. This is one of my favorite photos. She’s my cousin and lived in Texas. I live in NYC. She was always there to listen to my ideas and let me ramble on about my wedding. She even made my veil for me when I totally screwed it up trying to do it myself. During the wedding I must have asked her to run upstairs to get stuff 3 different times and she did it without complaining.
Post # 14
my Maid/Matron of Honor threw me an awesome bridal shower!!
Post # 15
My Maid/Matron of Honor paid the deposit for my wedding dress!! cant get any better than that!!I love her!!
Post # 16
My Maid/Matron of Honor had a baby 3 mos before the wedding, so she wasn’t as involved as she would have been otherwise. But the best thing she did for me was during the wedding. I was able to hand over the reins and just enjoy things. She kept us on time and dealt with the staff. Occasionally, she would ask me what I wanted done, but for the most part, she handled it all. (As a side note, when I had my rehearsal, i told everyone there, once I start walking down the aisle, all decision making goes to her; she had complete ‘power of attorney’ so to speak.)
My Bridesmaid or Best Man also wasn’t as involved because she didn’t live here, but the best thing she did was be the bad guy. As an example, the night before I was having drinks with family that had just come in. She very nicely informed everyone that she was taking me upstairs because i needed to sleep. I didn’t have to be the bad guy and excuse myself.
My only other advice, is be enthusiastic even after the wedding. It’s been almost 4 months, and I still want to talk about it. But alas, all I have is the Bees to turn to…