(Closed) I’m An Old Maid in My Town-GIANT VENT

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am so glad I didn’t grow up in a small town like that, i don’t think I could have survived. I got married at 25, and I was the first of my friends to get married. I went to one wedding last year, and I’ll go to one this year. And the ones I’m going to, the people are a few years older than me. Its funny, cuz it seems like it happens in waves. Most people my age and older at waiting longer to get married and have kids (some already have kids), but a lot of the people younger than me are already parents, but none are married. Kinda crazy how the world works.

Post # 19
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

People grow SO MUCH between age 18 and 28.  You get to know yourself better in your 20s and what you want in a partner is likely to change. I never understood why people would want to get married and start having babies straight of high school or even college. Live a little, travel- see the world….you have all your life to settle into marriage/family responsibiliities.  People who marry at 21 are really missing out if you ask me. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

Don’t let them pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. The people who I graduated with have elementary aged children and most of them did not go to college. My friends who I went to college and grad school with are just now having children, if they have any at all.

But that’s small town life. Thank God I got out.lol

Post # 21
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3670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@MsFoxxy:  I’m totally not listening to him.  He doesn’t call my husband an old dad because he was around 25 or 26 when they started having kids, his wife was just 21 when they started trying.  Also, my mom was 36 when she had me so 25 or 26 even seems young to me.

 

Also, I’m the class of 2006 too! Smile

Post # 22
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805 posts
Busy bee

I’m 22 too and I feel the same way sometimes. I know a lot of people who are engaged, married, and/or have kids at my age. (Heck one girl even got engaged, married, had a kid and divorced before she even turned 21) But there’s other people I know who are single and party like crazy all the time. I feel like me and bf are the only ones somewhere between the two. My boyfriend got me a promise ring for my 22nd birthday btw.

Post # 23
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m sorry, I know how you feel! I’m 27 and most of the people I went to high school with were either pregnant/havekids/married/divorced by the time I was 23! As the years went on I actually started enjoying the single life (a small amount hehe)

I found the man of my dreams a year and half ago and he is 9 years older, so he feels even more stressed because almost ALL of his friends are married with kids. I know it goes slow but in the end its all worth it! Plus you might look back and be happy you waited to settle down and get married and have kids till you were in your mid 20s..

Hope everything works out 🙂

Post # 24
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So strange how different cities have different cultures! I’m 26 and if my Fiance wasn’t 9 years older than me I’d still wait for a few years before I get engaged.

Post # 25
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know exactly what you mean.  My friend who is 21 was just saying that everyone she knows is married or has children. It’s crazy!  I’m 25 and I have friends who were married at 20 and are now on husband #2.  I do feel the pressure sometimes when I go on facebook and see pictures of kids as my last 20 recent updates but at the same time I’m not ready and I’m not about to spend a lifetime keeping up with the people I knew back in high school. (I am a waiting bee, just not ready for the kids part).  If I married the guy I was dating at 20 I would be a very unhappy married lady right now.

Not to mention the three girls getting married this summer.  One of which keeps posting about how his ex’s are crazy.  Um, when ALL the exes are crazy it’s usually code for ‘he’s the crazy one’. lol

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