(Closed) Im an Orphan..and sad.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know, it’s so hard to be planning a wedding without your other.  I don’t know how close you are to your future ILs but my Mother-In-Law was great with helping me plan the wedding.

People don’t have to sit on a specific side of the ceremony.  So it doesn’t really matter that you have fewer people there.  We ended up having more people on my side but it didn’t really matter in the end.

Post # 4
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2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

our sides are also uneven. i am painting a sign something very small and beautiful that says ” Today Two Families Join as One… Please Choose A Seat, Not  A Side” i will def post pics once its done.

Post # 4
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeh, just have an usher seat people so that it looks proportional. I had very little people from my side make the trip to our wedding because we are geographically closer to his side, but we just had people seated randomly so it didn’t look weird.

Post # 5
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@JoshsTammy: Awww, your post title made my heart hurt a little * HUGS *

I see that we are date twins, yay!

Post # 6
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m an orphan too…and it’s really hard.  I hated seeing brides posting about what pains their moms were when they went and looked at wedding dresses…I went all by myself (close friends and sister live 6 hours away).  It was a really lonely, not fun experience.  I lost my mom back in 2004, and my dad back in Sept, 2 weeks after we got engaged. 

I’m sorry for what you’re going through, but you’re not alone.  I’m having a really close friend of my Mother’s sit in my mom’s spot, and her husband is the officiant.  Our families were really close growing up and I always told my parents that if I was orphaned (while still a minor), I wanted to be adopted by this family.  So, it’s bittersweet, but at least I have that. And I know they loved my parents and hurt for me that Mom and dad are not here for this. 

And yes, I’m trying to have a “part” for my parents as much as possible (I know that sounds rather funny…).  I’m going to have two white candles at the front, lit by my candle lighters, with a note in the program about who the candles represent and when it comes time to give roses to the parents at the end of the ceremony, I’m going to lay two white roses beside the two candles, then we will go and give a white rose to my FI’s mom.  In the reception hall, we are going to have a memorial plaque that I found in a photo gallery on the Bee: 

Though your smile is gone forever and your hands we cannot touch

Still we have so many memories of the ones we loved so much

Your memory is our keepsake with which we’ll never part

God has you in His keeping, we have you in our hearts.

Although we cannot see you we know that you are here

Smiling down, watching over us

As we say “I DO”

Forever in our hearts, forever in our lives

And so we say our vows in loving memory of you!

Parents’ Names:  Mommy and Daddy, today I will miss you so very, very much!  And even though I’m a grown-up married woman now—as you used to always say—I’ll always be your little girl!

 

 

 

Post # 7
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No need to have a “his” and “her” side, honey! 

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