I’m an orphan too…and it’s really hard. I hated seeing brides posting about what pains their moms were when they went and looked at wedding dresses…I went all by myself (close friends and sister live 6 hours away). It was a really lonely, not fun experience. I lost my mom back in 2004, and my dad back in Sept, 2 weeks after we got engaged.
I’m sorry for what you’re going through, but you’re not alone. I’m having a really close friend of my Mother’s sit in my mom’s spot, and her husband is the officiant. Our families were really close growing up and I always told my parents that if I was orphaned (while still a minor), I wanted to be adopted by this family. So, it’s bittersweet, but at least I have that. And I know they loved my parents and hurt for me that Mom and dad are not here for this.
And yes, I’m trying to have a “part” for my parents as much as possible (I know that sounds rather funny…). I’m going to have two white candles at the front, lit by my candle lighters, with a note in the program about who the candles represent and when it comes time to give roses to the parents at the end of the ceremony, I’m going to lay two white roses beside the two candles, then we will go and give a white rose to my FI’s mom. In the reception hall, we are going to have a memorial plaque that I found in a photo gallery on the Bee:
Though your smile is gone forever and your hands we cannot touch
Still we have so many memories of the ones we loved so much
Your memory is our keepsake with which we’ll never part
God has you in His keeping, we have you in our hearts.
Although we cannot see you we know that you are here
Smiling down, watching over us
As we say “I DO”
Forever in our hearts, forever in our lives
And so we say our vows in loving memory of you!
Parents’ Names: Mommy and Daddy, today I will miss you so very, very much! And even though I’m a grown-up married woman now—as you used to always say—I’ll always be your little girl!