(Closed) I’m annoyed and need to vent!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ScarletBegonia: My Fiance is the same way. I don’t really have any advice just *hugs* and I hope your kitty is ok.

Fiance always gets upset at me for nagging him, but then he tells me I have to remind him to do things. Apparently I always remind him at the “wrong” times. It makes me want to scream, “If you want me to remind you to do things, you can’t dictate WHEN it’s ok for me to make those reminders.”

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

🙁 I’m sorry your going through this, I hate when my pet is sick! Poor baby!!

As far as men, my Fiance is the SAME way. SO I complety sympathize with you.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yep.  I keep remindng J that my damn oil needs to me changed.  He told me my car won’t blow up.  Well, I have to drive back and forth to work then we were supposed to use my car this weekend to visit my family, but plans were changed.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

No advice either, just another FH that’s the same way. I ask him to take out the trash and it takes him 45 minutes to do it. The other night, I sliced my finger open and I asked FH if he would please cut up the potatoes while I doctored my finger, and 15 minutes later, he’s still watching TV.

Most of the time, he doesn’t take very long, but if he’s in bed or watching something on TV, no chance of him doing anything.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@ScarletBegonia: I’m sorry you’ve had it rough today Frown. I don’t envy your litter cleaning duties. Hopefully he will understand after your email and be a little more proactive. When fiance gets like this (he calls it being laid back, I call it procrastinating) I just kindly remind him that I’m not trying to be his mom but…he needs to get xyz done. Good luck and I hope your kitty gets better soon.

 

Post # 9
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297 posts
Helper bee

I hope your kitty gets better soon!

My SO does that crap, too. I honestly don’t ask much of him, but when I do, I try to ask him to do things without asking, (like mentioning that something needs to get done and that I dont have the time to do it…makes him feel like he’s coming to my rescue…yes, it’s stupid, but it works) If he takes his sweet time, then I use one of two approaches: 

1) Do it myself with a smile, without saying a word and make a fricken production out of the event.  This approach works well if he is asleep, or it is something noisy. 

or

2) Wait it out as long as you can until he does it.  Once, after I worked hard on an elaborate dinner, he told me he was going to clean up the kitchen.  I told him he didn’t have to, but he insisted.  Couple hours passed and he didn’t budge.  Finally, he wanted to get frisky and move things up to the bedroom.  I said “Awesome, I’ll meet you up there in 15 minutes.”  After asking why, I told him that if I didn’t clean the kitchen before we went upstairs for the night, there would be bugs in the morning.  He got the kitchen cleaned up in 10 minutes before scurrying upstairs. 

These sound soooo passive aggressive but they work!  SO hates what he percieves as “nagging” so I had to change up my approach a little bit. 

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