(Closed) I’m asking him to wait. Wait, what?!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@iheartyou132: FI and I got engaged two months after my cousin and his friend. 

No one was offended. They were all happy. I would just set a date that makes sure you’re not too incredibly close to his wedding.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Can’t you guys get quietly engaged and then make the big announcement in July sometime after the wedding is over? It’s not that far away and in the meantime you can get some planning done on your own.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think July is far enough away that you’re not stepping on toes.  If you get engaged in April or May, that’s still plenty off from the wedding.  And someone at the beginning of wedding planning is way different than someone about to walk down the aisle, so I don’t think there will be that many comparisons.

I have a feeling that your SO’s brother wouldn’t demand he wait FIVE MONTHS to propose, just for the sake of not stealing his thunder.  Boys don’t think like that.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I’ve never understood changing your life plans based on someone else’s.  I can understand not wanting to be proposed to the week before a wedding and heaven forbid, during someone’s wedding, but anything not one of those 2 options shouldn’t really step on anyone’s toes except your own.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I agree with Lauren, it shouldn’t change your plans.  I know I wouldn’t care if my brother got engaged WHENEVER it happened… I’d be happy for him..period.  I think it’s sweet that you are worried about it, but I wouldn’t make it a big deal.  Your man is excited to get engaged to you..that’s AWESOME!!!!  And if HE’S not worried about his brother, well…. that says a lot.  Unelss after your engagement you are going to have a HUGE engagement party, right before the wedding, and invite all the guests that are going to the wedding…who cares when you get the ring….. I say GO for it ๐Ÿ™‚  And the other thing you could do (but I think it makes it into a bigger deal than it is) is have your SO simply ask the brother if he thinks it would be a big deal… Good luck in whatever decision you both make ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

You are worrying too much about it all, go with it.  They won’t say anything at the church, I hope, it WILL be about them and their marriage, but they are going to be sooo into their day that if the crazy wild family throws a little love YOUR way at the reception, they won’t even NOTICE  lol   It’s the circle of life… stop being a worry wart!!  as long as they don’t throw you up to body surf the whole reception, it will be fiiiiine ๐Ÿ™‚  If you make it to be something negative, it will turn into something negative… don’t do it chickie!! lol

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

@iheartyou132: Why does he think it’s a bad idea?  That seems strange….  ๐Ÿ™  I’m sorry you have this heaviness surrounding your happiness right now. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We did the same thing because his sister was so close to getting married we didnt want to take any attention away from her big day. Its worth it.

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