(Closed) Im at a loss….:(

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think you’ve said all you can say! Your sister has to learn to be more mature. 🙁 I hope that things turn out the way you were planning – the mom and sisters thing sounds really, really sweet.

Post # 5
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5904 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

it sounds like it might be best not to have her around the night before if she is producing so much negativity- if she isn’t supportive, she could drag the evening down a bit…better to have the people that love you the most and WANT to be there

Post # 7
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5904 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i say keep the boyfriend invited- distance yourself a bit from her- focus on those that are there to support you.   let her do her own thing and you can concentrate on all the wonderfulness around you- not her petty crap.  if you ignore it, you essentially take the wind out of her sails. 

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m sorry about the way she is treating you.  You can’t choose how other people choose to act, don’t dwell on it.  Just enjoy your day no matter what!!!  It is her that is ultimately loosing out of a special time with you and your other sister and mom, when she is choosing to spend it with her “flavor of the month”.  Easier said than done I know, but just try to let it go. 

Post # 9
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13101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

The B***H in me wants to tell you to uninvite the BF to make her come stay with you but in actuality, I don’t think you should.  First, that is rude to the BF to uninvite him and really, he is just an innocent bystander in all of this.  He personally has done nothing to deserve being uninvited.  Second, if you uninvite him, even if you can then get your sister to stay with you, she is going to be so pissed at you and so awful to be around that it will probably ruin the evening for you, your mom and your other sister.

Hopefully she’ll look back on this one day and realize how immature she is being but you don’t want to look back and remember how she ruined your night before your wedding by being there with her awful attitude!

Post # 10
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

To be honest – at this point, I would let her do whatever she wants to do. She’s going to put a damper on the day if she stays, and if you let the BF come along, then he’s going to be hanging out while you girls are getting ready and doing your thing. If they break up the next week, then you’ll have all your memories with her flavor of the month there.

I would let her know what the plans are. If she chooses to attend, great, if not, then that’s her loss. There’s only so much you can do with a person like this. You can’t always give into them. I hope things work out and she makes the right choice, but stand your ground on who you do or don’t want there the morning of your wedding and make her make the decision.

Post # 13
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

If you want to know something a bit awkward, my 3 sisters, my mom and I stayed the night in a hotel room together the night before the wedding…………….my sisters boyfriend was also there.  Everyone had a bed and I slept on a cot because I didn’t want to sleep next to anyone.  It was fine but we definately had a few laughs about him being apart of the girls party.

Post # 14
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You know what? I would tell her not to bother coming. Tell her no thanks. She is obviously rude, immature and only going to cause more drama. Do you really want to have her spewing hate all over you the night before your wedding? I wouldn’t. Then the bitch in me would tell her that special wedding events are only for adults and you dont want sulky children there.

Man, every day I get more grateful that I have brothers.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

she is probably jealous!

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