(Closed) I’m at a wall..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It’s possible that your mom is not wanting to make any decisions because it’s so far off. She may be scared of wanting something different in a year. I dunno, I never had that much time to plan (6 months). So it’s hard for me to know what family’s reactions may be for a long engagement. If I were you, I would just take it slow. Talk to your mom and ask her why she’s acting like the wedding isn’t a big deal. Maybe she’ll tell you something surprising, or maybe she’ll adjust her attitude when she realizes what she’s doing.

Post # 4
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ive been planning my wedding for about 9 months and I am still getting that reaction from my mom & family. No one is really interested in wedding talk or planning. But I thinks that just my mom and families personality, They arent really organized and leave things to the last minute. They dont understand how much planning goes into a wedding. Therefore they think a month will be plenty of time to help with my wedding. I know that when it comes down to crunch time they will be there for me. But right now  I bascially doing all of my planning by myself.

Is your mom a procrastinator? Maybe she thinks there plenty of time to put a deposit down on the dress or look at venues.

Post # 6
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, I’m not alone in feeling this way!!! Fiance and I are having a 22 month engagement and I HATE IT! I have days when I seriously feel like it is never going to happen! Fortunitely my Mom does sound excited about the wedding and we often talk about it, but whenever I talk to the future inlaws about it, it feels like I am just “playing” and they don’t take me seriously. There are other girls who are having long engagments on here but it seems like it doesn’t phase them at all, that waiting is not a problem. I’m jealous of those girls.

Post # 7
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you have to have a long engagement? Because yes things will seem abit slow until u get closer to the date. You may also change you mind alot in that time.

Post # 8
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldnt worry about that.  Start doing things for yourself.  Don’t depend on others to call venues.  make appointments with vendors: venue, cake, dress, dj, etc and invite your Mom so she has a choice.  once you get the ball rolling, it will come together better.

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