I’m back… 4 years later or so

posted 8 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

How long have you been divorced?  How did you meet the new man?  

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Best of luck to you! It can take a bad relationship to realise what you deserve. My long term ex boyfriend was incredibly selfish and I spent years trying to please him. With my D.H it couldn’t be more different and we bring out the best in each other. Well done for realising you were worth more.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

.You got married exactly 4 years ago to the week and have separated after almost 4 years, so im guessing in the last month or two or thereabouts ..and you already consider yourself ‘waiting’ in your new relationship? I recommend you slow down a little. If this new relationship is the real deal then whats the rush?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

UisceAlainn :  ok slow your roll – I don’t think the Bee who was asking about how long you’d been divorced was trying to be mean.

However, if you are not divorced yet you might want to calm it down with the marriage talk with your new partner. It is not like you can do anything until the divorce is final anyway.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You aren’t even divorced yet and you’re “waiting”? 

I think the previous bee was just trying to help you out. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

“We are already talking marriage”. Oh bee take your time. Your not even divorced yet. Why rush it? If your talking marriage already your moving way to fast. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

UisceAlainn :  you called him your ex husband, so one would assume you are divorced.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

And also, no matter how you spin it, jumping into a new relationship and beginning to talk about marriage before you are even divorced is typically not a good idea.  You haven’t even had time to mourn the loss of your marriage because you are in such a hurry to move on.  It’s just not a healthy way of dealing with what happened.

I wish you well in your new relationship, but taking some time to yourself is not a bad thing.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

UisceAlainn :  I’m going to be the minority here and say congrats on your future engagement, whenever that may be 🙂 none of us here can judge your relationship and whether or not YOU are ready to be married to this new guy. I wish you luck and hope your divorce goes through quickly and uneventfully. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Jesus take the wheel. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

DoubleD :  😂🤣

Post # 15
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Busy bee

How can you say it’s a new relationship yet you’re already “waiting” to get engaged? That doesn’t make any sense. And you called your current husband your exhusband but yet you’re not divorced. Your post is misleading. 

If you’re not rushing then why are you referring to yourself as waiting? From what I understand “waiting” on this site means that you and your SO have solid plans for marriage and you’re just waiting for the formal proposal. Is that where you are in your new relationship?

And you’re only 24. This post screams of immaturity and from the little you have posted, it doesn’t seem that you have learned anything from your previous (current) marriage. Enjoy this site and your new relationship but slowwwwww downnnnnnn 

 

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