Post # 1
As I’ve mentioned before, a certain in law got upset with us because we changed our venue location. Said we were spending too much of our own money and all. Apparently our guest list was too large for our budget. My fiance went and straightened things out and everything was fine.
Well I just hear she wants to add a couple people to our list that are helping her with the rehearsal dinner. Says it’s “the right thing to do”
I’m OK with her inviting a couple extra guests since I already approved of two extra guests but our guest list is already way over at about 120 when we only have budgeting for 100, but now there are two more tacked on. But our list is too big?
I just don’t know what to do. We could have done this rehearsal dinner ourselves, I appreciate their help, I just… I can’t afford any more people, I have people asking constantly if they can be invited, I have an A, B, C and even D list it seems! I don’t want to cut anyone or make anyone mad. I just don’t know what to do.
Am I just being Ms Bridezilla here? I mean it’s been a tough wedding planning day already, maybe I’m just upset from the previous news I got this morning
Post # 3
@anon656987: she wants to add them to the rehersal dinner? are they truely helping with the wedding? or just in name?
Post # 4
@W292737: I don’t know, that’s the thing.
First invite was her friends. She was invited to their kids wedding so she thought it was polite to invite them to ours. OK no big deal.
Then She says our guest list is too big for our budget but she wants to invite another friend of hers. We met this friend literally one time for about 5 minutes. But the friend apparently really wants to help (by cutting the grooms cake) so ok, another invite.
But I gave her our list of invites, people on his side we plan to invite. Everything is fine at first, she says it looked like we got everyone.
Then I get a message from her saying she wants two more invitations for people who will be helping her with the rehearsal dinner. Not helping with the wedding but the rehearsal. Nver told me who they were or what they were doing or anything.
Also changed up our menu for the dinner saying “Hope that’s ok” and fine no big deal on that.
I just am getting tired of everything changing, getting tired of people saying we can’t do it and tired of… I don’t know. I wasn’t stressed at all and haven’t been in teh whole process until other people started critisizing me and the way I was planning this. And it just doesn’t make sense, how I can have “too big a guest list” but they’re wanting to add to that list
I think I’m just grumpy. It’s been a funky kind of day
Post # 5
@anon656987: is she paying for the rehersal dinner? if so I’d let her add them, her budget her problem, but for the wedding, it’s your budget (if you are paying) so I’d just ignore and go on with your guest list.
good luck, she sounds…. fun… to deal with