Post # 1
Hey, Bees 🙂
I’m curvy girl (hell, I’m fat. It’s just the truth). Clothes shopping is seriously never fun for me, and I was kind of shocked that to learn that I need to buy a wedding dress, like, now for my wedding in exactly one year.
I really wanted to lose more weight before I bought a dress. 🙁 And now I really only have like 8-ish weeks before it’s crunch time on buying one.
I’m worried that dress shopping at my current size (I’m like a 16 or 18 in regular clothes) will be ZERO fun, and that the consultants will be unhelpful or tell me that they have nothing for me, or that nothing will look good.
I guess I don’t really have a question … just need some help finding the bright side? Will I even be able to find something I like at my size? Are their certain designers or brands I should skip because they’ll have nothing for me?
I just want a nice dress that I love like everyone else, and if this is like every other time I clothes shopping, I’m gonna end up setting for what fits, not what I love.
Feeling bummed and I haven’t even started yet! 🙁
Post # 2
Call ahead to find a shop that stocks plenty of dresses in your size. I’m a 14 and had a blast trying on with my mom and MOH. David’s Bridal, despite their mixed reputation, was great for me. Dresses that fit my size and bidy type, good selcetion, good prices, and quick delivery, so if I do lose more weight they’ll be able to do an exchange for a smaller dres.
Post # 3
I got my dress at David’s Bridal and it came in very fast, just in a few weeks. If your wedding-date it correct I would do two things: start exercising and eating better + just browse for dresses, not commit to one just yet. That way you know what’s out there and what style you prefer, but you’ve not tied yourself to a specific dress size (with possible huge alterations to deal with later on if you do lose a lot of weight).
Post # 4
I hear you! I just had a baby and now I am trying to get into wedding planning mode. I still have 20 lbs to lose, but at the same time I can’t put it off forever 🙁
Post # 5
I dreaded going dress shopping because I personally hate the idea of parading myself infront my strangers and my bridal party so they can rate me. I went to a few shops but knew what I wanted and couldn’t find anything I liked to even bother trying them on. So I went to get mine custom made. I’ve really enjoyed the experience so far.
I’m not a big girl, but I can see how getting a custom dress might be suitable to your needs 🙂 And the fit will be better!
Post # 6
I dreaded shopping for my dress too – I likened it to bathing suit shopping. That said, it is a good idea to Get out there while time is on your side. Get a sense of styles you like and don’t like. Like eocenia said, you don’t have to commit just yet. I had a certain style in mind for myself that ended up being unflattering on my body type, but because I had started about a year off from my wedding date, I didn’t panic because I knew there was still time to find what would suit me.
And as cliche and frustrating as this advice may sound, you need to love yourself. Little changes to your lifestylenwill make a big difference – you don’t have to cut out every indulgence or spend hours at the gym. Go for a walk every day – that’s how I always get back on track. Then gradually make other changes as you feel ready and comfortable. Ultimately, your groom fell in love with you just as you are – you don’t have to be a size 2 to be a beautiful bride.
Post # 7
Im with you friend. We just got engaged and are planning a wedding for 2016. I am currently a street size 14-16. I put on 40lbs in the past 2 years and am starting my weight loss journey. I have the same thoughts as you and determined to be at my ideal weight before I go dress shopping. IMO you still have a good amount of time to make the bodily changes that you want to see. Perhaps you can reschedule your shopping day for another 1-2 months to give yourself 3-4 months to lose some more weight. If weight loss will make you feel better before dress shopping, even 10lbs down will make a difference. Hope you find a happy medium 🙂
Post # 8
I actually found a wedding dress on Amazon. It’s a bridal shop so they will send it to your home, you try it on and if it’s not your dress return it. As a bridemaid for the bagillionth time, I have to say David’ Bridal dreses are super flattering. I’m an 18 and have always felt beautiful.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom
i work at a DB and there are TONS of dresses in plus size. we have a whole section of over 200 dresses that are ‘womens’ sizes and can be ordered up to a 26
Post # 10
Call the bridal salons in your area… If they have samples in a 14 or so you will be golden! I wear an 18/20 and was able to try on lots at the bridal boutiques in my area.
I dreaded it too and it ended up being an AMAZING experience!
Post # 11
Thanks all for your kind words, and helpful suggestions. 🙂 It is good to know that I can give David’s Bridal a try, but the fact it’s the best option is exactly what bothers me about being plus-size. I don’t hate my body … but I hate that I might be able to have the fancy bridal boutique experience (and more options) like skinny women.
Post # 12
magazinegirl37: Is there an Alfred Angelo around you? I opted to try them for my first appointment and I was sooo glad I did! I too am a 16/18 street size and all of the 18 sample sizes they put on me were too big and had to be clipped, I was estatic and felt beautiful in so many of the dresses!
Post # 13
Hi again, bees!
Just wantes to send you a quick update: I made a last-minute decision to go dress shopping over the weekend since a boutique in my area was doing a WToo Curve trunk show. Happy to say that is was not traumatizing at all! I even tried on some non-plus size dresses, and the consultant really helped me see how they’d look in my size. She didn’t make me feel bad about my shape at all, and I’m thrilled that I liked some of the dresses on me!
Would still like to lose some weight, but I figure if lose 10 pounds before I buy a dress and then 10 pounds after, I’ll be a bit happier with my body, but won’t have to worry about major alterations.
Post # 14
I’m a 12 street size and a 14 wedding dress size. I’ve tried on 10s and 20s and they use some clips to help you visualize what the dress would look like on your size. You’ll be fine, call ahead before going to any store to make sure you have your size. Accept their suggestions too!