(Closed) I'm begging for advice

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You sound so mature, far more mature than I was when I was 21. 

I agree with many PP’s, you need to end it. This relationship is unhealthy. You should have a plan of how to break it off with him. Is there someone who could wait outside in a car while you do it? You need to have an escape plan.

I also wanted to mention that I was always really bad at breaking it off with guys if and when they cried. I stayed with an ex for 1.5 yr after I wanted to end it because he would be so sad when I tried to leave. So be prepared for the worst reaction possible, and stick to your guns. Don’t give him a second chance or make any promises or say anything other than it needs to end now. It’s even harder to end it the second and third times. 

Best of luck. Hope it goes over well. And good for you for working so hard on school and your job! You have a bright and happy future ahead of you. 

Post # 47
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Helper bee

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missjz:  RUN like yesterday !!!!!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You said you worry what he will do to himself because of you breaking up with him. Please know that if he DOES self harm or threaten it, it is not because of you or your actions, you did not force him to respond in this way, and all of his behaviour is a manipulation tactic to try and force you to stay with him out of guilt.

he is an adult and you can control him less than he can control you.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

Please let us know how you are.

Post # 50
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Worker bee

Run, don’t walk!

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