(Closed) I’m begging for HELP!

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LoveBunny21: I think as long as your supplying alcohol, you should be fine.  I would suggest having background music, it’s always nice touch to the mood/atmosphere.  You should be fine though!  With that small amount of people it wont be a big deal.  It will be a big party even if you dont have people dancing.  There is no way it would be boring with 40-50 people drinking! 

Post # 4
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We didn’t have any dancing or bouquet/garter tosses and everything went great.  We had less people (about 16 total) but everyone had so much fun talking and eating.  We had background music and alcohol too but I think it would have been fun either way (although it does help). 

Post # 5
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with everyone – as long as you’re feeding & watering them, and you have some background music going (just use or borrow someone’s ipod and speakers) people will have a great time mingling and chatting and no one will miss the dancing.

For your invitations though, I would try to find some wording that makes it obvious it’s just food and not dancing to follow.

Good luck!

Post # 6
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The only dancing we had was the first dance and father/daughter dance.  We had music and a slideshow playing in the background, but we didn’t have a DJ.  I’m not a fan (and neither is my hubby) of the garter/bouquet toss, so we didn’t do that.  Neither of us are drinkers and that combined with a very tight budget meant that we didn’t serve alcohol either.  Everyone had such a good time talking that no one cared!  

We let people know in advance that we wouldn’t be having dancing or alcohol, though I’m not sure if that made a difference or not.  I really wouldn’t worry about it!  🙂

Post # 7
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t worry.  40-45 people isn’t a lot, and it could kind of take on the tone of a large dinner party.  Have some background music, and people should be able to entertain themselves with conversation.

Post # 9
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You could have board games at each table as part of your centerpieces. Or maybe croquet or lawn bowling or something! That would be cute at a garden party.

Post # 10
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Instead of alcohol you could think about serving different punches with cool names. I wouldn’t worry too much about the alcohol as it sounds like your family won’t be expecting it with family history. 

We’re having a very similar evening for our wedding -outdoor event with food, but no dinner or dancing. We plan on having bocce ball, badminton…and afew other things I can’t think of now. I think it should work well.

I’ve also come to the conclusion that while I’ll be disapointed if people are bored this is what Fiance and I want…we’d be terribly out of place at a sit down dinner & dancing reception and thats just not right!

Post # 11
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One of the most enjoyable weddings I’ve been to was about 35 people, no dancing and none of the typical wedding stuff like bouquet toss, etc. It was a simple outdoor ceremony and dinner in a small private room at a cozy restaurant. The reason it was so enjoyable is because we were seated with two other couples: a pair of close friends and another couple we were just meeting but instantly got along with. The conversation flowed all evening and we all had a great time. So, that’s my only tip for small weddings: try to put people together that you know will get along well ’cause sometimes good food and conversation is all that’s needed to have a good time.

ETA: bocce ball at a wedding sounds epic!

Post # 12
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

Can you do stations or a buffet instead of a seated dinner? At least people would be up and mingling. 

Post # 14
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Beluga: I love the idea of croquet or lawn bowling! Kind of retro garden party, with everyone all dressed up. What great photo ops!

@LoveBunny21: Another idea is to set up a simple backdrop and some props for photos. I did this at my wedding and the guests absolutely loved it. Assuming you have a photographer, he/she could man the “booth” for an hour after dinner, or you could just let guests take their own photos. Here are some of my “photo hut” pics:

Post # 15
84 posts
Worker bee

Similar to the punch idea, a smoothie or juice bar might be fun too…You could add a few mock cocktail flavors like pina colada or just keep it simple and do fruit smoothies.

A candy or dessert buffet will keep people happy too. 

Agree that background music would be nice. 

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