(Closed) I’m begging you, please…. (treatment of the young brides)

posted 11 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 47
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Let’s just remember that this post was in response to a few particular comments, weeks ago. It was written way before the current wave of posts, and just because those have a different tone doesn’t mean the message of this post should be discounted. It’s a valid message, and if you read what most of us are talking about, it’s not a post where we ask “why don’t you like that we’re getting married young?” 

There were a few threads back around the time this post was started that took something a young bride said and made issue of her age.

Post # 48
2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@CorgiTales: Well said. While I do think there are issues pertaining to young brides that they/we need feedback on, it can be done in a constructive way from both sides. Miss Star’s series of posts on the issue and the comments on her posts are a great example. Again, as someone who got married young-ish myself, I understand the frustrations and unique problems that come along with it, so I don’t think age/youth has to be ignored altogether, but the conversations need to be held with maturity. The recent slew of posts have just proved the naysayers right, in my opinion.

@lilyfaith: That is an excellent point and I will admit that I didn’t notice that this post was from before the most recent threads, so I apologize for making it all about that. MichelleMyBell is a smart cookie and has been a great contributor to the boards and particularly to the 20-Something board. However, I still think there needs to be a distinction made between “young bride” threads in general that can often get critical, and the recent ones.

Post # 49
31 posts
  • Wedding: December 1995

The only thing I can say about this is, that with age does come experience.  And with experiences we learn more about ourselves and how to deal with things.  It is amazing to me how many people continuously concentrate on the negative and not the positive.

Remember it’s the two of you.  You will have the blessed opportunity to go through so many things together because of your age.  Many things that a couple getting married in their 30’s or 40’s will either go through alone or sometimes with another partner.

This will inevitably make you stronger as a couple.   Additionally, learn one thing from all of this…stop caring so much what other people think!  Make your skin a little thicker and you’ll be fine!


Post # 50
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@phedre!!!! I LOVE your comment. You’ve said exactly what I’ve been trying to say for awhile now.


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