Post # 1
SO and I have been discussing engagement in detail for a while and we both knew it would be coming soon. He has been dropping hints for a while that he will propose on our upcoming vacation in two weeks. When having a casual discussion about rings this weekend, I pointed out to my SO that it takes a few weeks to order the ring we have picked out. He freaked out, apparently he was not aware it took that long. He has since informed me that the proposal that he has basically promised me- will not be happening on the upcoming vacation. I immediately said it’s fine and I would be happy with anything because I love him, but on the inside I am tore up. I was so excited and ready. I had all the next steps already planned in my head and I just knew some of the settings on our vacation would have been perfect for a dreamy proposal. I’d never let him know how upset I am because I know I’m being a brat about it. But damn, I was so excited! I can’t stop thinking about it now, and I really hope I can still enjoy the vacation without thinking about it so much. I need some words of advice or encouragement on waiting when it was so close within reach!
Post # 2
If you buy it in store you can take it home that day. You can even just take it and wait for it to be resized until you get home.
Post # 3
netto614: basically the same thing happened to me. He said he may propose on our cruise in march- the ring didn’t pan out. He proposed in May! The proposal rocked and the cruise rocked. He told me beforehand that the proposal wouldn’t happen so I didn’t spend the whole vacation expecting it and just happily read books and went kayaking and drank blender drinks. If it isn’t coming it isn’t coming, enjoy your relaxing vacation- it will be soon!
Post # 4
MrsN14: It’s an online store, you can’t find it in person.
LittleE3: Thanks, I really needed to hear some good thoughts. I know it will be great because he’s great and knows me well. I just can’t help but feel blue about it. 🙁
Post # 5
netto614: Could he be yanking your chain? 🙂
Post # 6
I know this idea is not for everyone but what about a proposal without a ring? Or a proposal with a simpler ring and getting your e-ring later? Don’t feel like a brat I can totally relate! I’d be disapointed too, especially after all the anticipation! I’m sure whatever happens he’ll find a way to make it special and you guys will have a great trip regardless.
Post # 7
He could be teasing you in order to make it a surprise. BN does overnight shipping. I’m sure a lot of other places do too.
Post # 8
netto614: I absolutely think a ringless proposal can be perfect – I’m engaged, and I still don’t have my ering ;). (It’s coming, it’s coming! Three weeks left!) However, what I do have is an anniversary ring (see profile pic) that I received last year, which will be moving over to my right hand once my ering is officially mine. Perhaps your FI would consider proposing on your vacation with a stand-in or future RHR? That way, you can still have the special moment you’ve both prepared for. In the end, the absence of the ering won’t matter a bit, I promise. (And you’ll have another piece of snazzy jewelry.)
That said, we’re going with Blue Nile and they do overnight shipping via FedEx. Unless your setting, like mine, is on backorder, he might just be trying to throw you off track!
Post # 9
Once I knew it was happening I stopped freaking out about it. Enjoy your vacation, and soon you’ll enjoy a proposal. And honestly, the setting of the proposal makes zero difference. It’ll be amazing no matter what.
Post # 10
I like all these thoughts and tips bees! I don’t know if he is bs’ing me or not, but after sleeping on it I’m much more calm about it. I know it’ll happen and it will be perfect, and then I can start planning and talking about our wedding to my friends (July 4th, 2015, WOO!). Thanks for all the kind words, I guess I just needed some support to avoid a panic attack!
Post # 11
It’s totally fair of you to be let down by it–I would be too. But at least you know that a proposal is imminent!
Post # 12
I would be upset in your shoes too. Guys can be pretty clueless when it comes to rings. It will come soon though, and I am sure the proposal will still be amazing!
Post # 13
You could say to him something like the following: “I was just reading the other day about this guy who wanted to propose to his girlfriend on a particular date but then he realised he wouldn’t have the ring by that date (!) so he bought a nice little plain ring from Claires and used that ring to pop the question with.
It was so great because he got to do it on the date that was special to them and the girl loved it! Didn’t mind at all that it wasn’t “the” ring. They got “the” ring a bit later and it was perfect because they got to have the proposal the way they wanted and it didn’t matter that the ring used for the proposal was a stand-in.”