(Closed) i'm being bullied by my passive aggressive mother in law.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If anyone ever gave me a koozie with the word “slut” across it, there would be a world of hurt brought on them, Mother-In-Law or not.  What did your husband say about this?  I would be livid, and so would my fiance.  Honestly, I’d tell her that until she can start respecting you, you aren’t going to come visit anymore.  This whole situation is ridiculous.  Your husband needs to tell his mother to start acting civil to you, or that neither of you will be a part of her life for much longer…

Ugh, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would keep my distance from these people. After the koozie incident, I would have packed up my husband and son and left. Hopefully your husband will talk to her and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable.

Sending hugs your way!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Your husband admits he’s not comfortable around his family.  She treats you and your son horribly.  I don’t see any problem with you cutting her off at least from yourself and the baby. If your hubby insists on a relationship with her, he can do it on his own.  Or he can be smart and cut her off completely as well.

I don’t agree with being around people and letting them treat you like crap just because they’re blood related.  That’s not what makes a loving family.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@strawbabies:  I agree. This woman doesn’t deserve your time or energy and certainly doesn’t deserve the joy that is your son.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

how frustrating. after the coozie incident i would have left. sounds like you don’t live around her – I guess just be happy that you only have to put up with her once a year and not everyday. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

OP – the next time you visit, I suggest staying in a hotel.  You can use the excuse “We don’t want the baby to damage anything in your house….like the tv incident” and then you can use the excuse “since we are paying for a hotel, we can only stay a few days” and only plan on visiting them for a few hours during the day…and if she starts acting passive agressive, you can say “it is time for baby’s nap, we need to leave for a bit”

I’d say be passive agrresive back to her…but I’m a bit of a bitch 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Hearthstone Country Club

That is very annoying to have to deal with someone like her. I can not believe there are people like that in the world. Just crazy!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am sorry you have to deal with this. It’s completely unacceptable. Did you confront her about the “slut” coozy? That seems insane! Looks like it might be getting easier to divide your holiday time.

 

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’d just make sure I had a coozie ready with pricetag to take of in front of her on their next visit that read “psycho bitch”.

If she says anything when you handed it to her, you just shrug your shoulder and say “Oh, I thought we were playing a game of “if the coozie fits”.

I would have politely put the drink down, gathered my belongings and left. Period!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Where do you even GET a coozy with “slut” on it?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@persianprincess:  Ugh ugh ugh. I totally empathize. My ExMIL is a passive aggressive biiiiiiii*** and made my married life hellish whenever she was around. She went so far as to walk around mimicking me – example while a year-long stint living with them, ExH left early one morning to play golf with friends, and I kissed him goodbye and said have a great time. As soon as I shut the door, she made this giggle-esque sound then said “Have a great tiiiiiime!” in a really high pitched, mocking tone. That was a mile episode.

I suggest letting your Darling Husband know that you don’t appreciate him minimizing your feelings by brushing them off. It won’t stop her or anything, but at least you won’t be suffering all alone and made to feel like it’s nothing. ((Hugs)) 

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