- 7 years ago
First off, sorry for the novel!
I’ve mentioned my situation before on a few threads: my SO and I are currently living in Latin America while he’s on a rotational program for his job, and we’ve agreed to get engaged sometime next year when we’re back in the US. I completely understand why he wouldn’t propose until we’re home (in March 2014)–there would be no way to get the type of ring I want down here, I can’t wear jewelry while I’m out of the house due to safety reasons, we already have a lot on our plates living as expats in a third world country, etc.
But lately, I’m a little suspicious of this:
I was on his email account looking for a message from his dad with info about his jury summons (of course he got jury duty while we’re out of the country!) so I could submit an excuse for him (he asked me to do this). While I was on their, I did do a quick browse just to reassure myself that a proposal was NOT imminent (bad, I know). I didn’t see anything aside from sale notices from Banana Republic and confirmations of bank transfers (regular, boring stuff).
After that, we were talking about Christmas presents, and I said I had finally decided what to get for him. He one-upped me by saying he’d already bought me 2 things and had them shipped home.
I was a little surprised because, like I said, I didn’t see anything about any purchases on his account, and I know that that’s the email address he uses for junk like order/shipping confirmations.
The only conclusion I can come to is that he’s using a separate email address that I don’t know about to buy these presents, and they aren’t from any of his usual places (Banana, JCrew, Amazon, etc.) because he has accounts from those stores linked to the email address I looked at. He’s usually pretty particular about sorting his junk emails out, so I don’t know why he’d create a whole other one for this purchase.
That stupidly hopeful part of my brain was like, “ENGAGEMENT RING???” I highly doubt it, but I cannot talk myself down. Help me chill out about this!