(Closed) Im breaking all the rules! Im the only one?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I didn’t include it in mine, but if it’s the custom to do so in your culture, then I say go for it and don’t feel bad.  If it’s custom, then not putting your registery info w/ your invite could be the equivalent to doing it when it is custom to do so…Does that make sense?  lol  Basically, I’m just trying to say, beings it’s culture, you did the right thing! 🙂

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Honestly, I have never seen it done either, but I have only been to a handful of weddings.

We are not doing it, as I figure most people with modern day technology can look our registry up, ask someone, or just give us cash.  We are fine with whatever.  I definitely don’t think putting the cards in is necessary – they will find you.

Post # 19
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not but i know lots of people that did it… but the that not all the rules that just one

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t worry about it.  My view – granted I’m not having a traditional wedding – is you can make your own rules.   I’m not having a cake cutting, bouquet tossing, father/daughter mother/son dance, veil, etc….  Anyways, I have seen registry info w/ some invites… I don’t think it’s a big deal and that some people will be happy to see it versus having to ask where your registry is…. we didn’t include registry info (we had a very simple invite with no RSVP card, we had an email for people to RSVP to!) and everyone ended up emailing us to RSVP and asking us where our registry is.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Girl I did it and I really couldn’t care less what anybody thinks about it. I included a business sized card that had all our registry info on it. It was attached to all the other informational cards. I don’t see the big deal. Everyone knows that people bring gifts to weddings. I mean lets be honest, we all expect the people we invite to bring us a wedding present because well if we didn’t, we wouldn’t have registered for them in the first place.

All those *rules* that have been set in place by God knows who, God knows when went out the door along time ago.

If people were so hell bent on following all etiquette and traditions, we would have some really boring ass weddings out here and none of the fun, funky ones that we have seen or been to in todays time.

As long as you didn’t include a card that in big bold ass print said

DO NOT COME TO MY WEDDING UNLESS YOU’RE BRINGING A GIFT

I think you’re fine. Every invite I’ve ever gotten has registry info in it and I’m perfectly fine with that.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

LOL @msmonika.  Can you imagine if somebody did enclose a card that said that? At least they’d be honest! LOL!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i included mine!!!! lol, we aren’t super high class, so most people i invited don’t know right from wrong(and most of your guests prob don’t either) and it’s my wedding,  i’ll put registry info in my invite if i wanna… lol

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Lindsay: LOL I know right!!!

Post # 25
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it’s a custom in Puerto Rico, how is it against etiquette if your guests are Puerto Rican? Just sayin…you’re A-oK

By the way, I’ve received registry info on every single freakin’ wedding invite I’ve gotten in the past year. Wait, except for one. So….it’s not a big deal. Are you asking for gifts? Sure. Are your guests going to bring one? Sure!

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper

I honestly haven’t decided if we are going to yet. It just seems easier and more convenient for the guests to include the information so they don’t have to hunt it down.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I just don’t understand the need to include it. Odds are you are registered at Macys, Bloomies, Target, Bed Bath and Beyond or Crate and Barrel.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have to second what Miss Oyster said.  She nailed it.

(And to answer your question, yes, I’ve received invites with registry information enclosed and I didn’t think much of it either way.)

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

A couple points:

I’ve received them in every single invite to a wedding and I’ve been to maybe 20 over the last 10 yrs. It is more conveinent to guests and to assume all your guests know or have time to figure out where your registered or even know how to use the computer is poor etiquette to me. My grandparents don’t.

For me the whole wedding etiquette thing is a bunch of BS. I think a lot of people use as a form of judgement and the people I hear talk about it usually need to worry less about wedding etiquette and develop some social etiquette.

You are not alone and I bet those of us that don’t care are higher in numbers than those who follo all the rules.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Magenta: hey i’m just saying…lol and i’m with missgreen…love her response!!

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