(Closed) Im breaking all the rules! Im the only one?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it is fine to put the registry info in with the invites. I was actually have this discussion with two women from England who are now living in the States for the past couple of years. They were both wondering why people DON’T put their registry info in there. I think it helps the guest relax about gift giving and not stress out about what to give. Unless you have been a bride recently or helping out closely you most likely don’t know all of the popular places to register.

Post # 33
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Also, even if there is the technology to look up where people are registerd at doesn’t mean that everyone is familiar with it. I just introduced my mom to the idea of a wedding website. She looked at our STD and was wondering what that website was at the bottom.

Post # 34
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1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve never seen it in an invite, and I’ve never had a problem figuring out where the couple was registered.  I wouldn’t be offended if someone DID include it though. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If that is your culture, than include the information. A small card or on the back of the invite would be fine if that is your culture. It sounds like this is a regional thing.

Where I am from (Kentucky) that is never done and if one would include your invitation, I personally would not get you a gift because I see it as horribly rude. I’m sorry ladies, I was not raised that way and am not going to change what I belive is basic politeness.

I was slightly taken aback by the statement that you would not call and ask where people are registered. That is just odd. I know we as a society are becoming more technologically savvy, but the majority of my family is not. Aside from younger cousins, hardly any of the aunts and uncles and NONE of the grandparents use a computer. If I were the bride and I found out a person was too lazy to call and inquire what our registry was, I would be a little hurt (not because I wasn’t getting a gift that I wanted) as I would take that to mean they really didn’t care about me and my fiance as a friend.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Sorry, I’m from the Land of No Registry Info In Invitation. An invite is an extension of your hospitality and you (hopefully) don’t want to convey attendance is contingent upon receiving a gift. I’ve never found it a huge inconvenience to figure out where a couple is registered at if the information isn’t included. And I wouldn’t take it as an affront to me if I had to make a phone call or shoot an email to the couple/their family.

But if it’s commonly done amongst your peeps, then fine, go ahead. Etiquette is about making the other person comfortable, so if your peeps expect registry cards, then maybe that’s the right etiquette for you.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I never knew this was considered rude until I read about people being offended on the internet.  I guess it’s failry common in my social class/region to include registry information in an invitation.  I don’t intend to send it in mine, though, now that I know it’s rude.  I’ll make a website and tell my family and wedding party what to advise people when/if they ask.

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