(Closed) I’m bummed because no one is coming to the bridal shower…

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

vent away but dont be too harsh against your pregnant friend – all pregnancies are different

but yeah, i can understand you feeling bummed about the numbers for your shower – but have a good time anyway… sending hugs

Post # 4
355 posts
Helper bee

Seconding eloping on this.  All pregnancies are different.  I have heard from so many friends that they were much more exhausted during their second pregnancies than their first because they were so busy chasing after #1. 

As to the numbers – really, it’s about quality, not quantity.  I’d rather spend time with my closest girlfriends rather a bunch of more distant friends. 

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my pregnant friends have told me that its 1 month too long, especially if its hot.

if it means anything – i dont think i even have 5 girlfriends if i was to have a shower so youre doing better than i could ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 7
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™ That really sucks. Everyone is different though. I doubt I’ll have a shower and if I do I probably won’t have many come. I don’t have a whole lot of female cousins close, and I only have a few close girlfriends (none of which live in the same town as each other!). Don’t feel badly.

Post # 8
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I only had 7 at my friend shower. Ok, 9 if you include my MOM and my Mother-In-Law, ha. I still had a blast and I’m sure you will too. =]. Plus you can catch up with everyone better!!!! Instead of super chatty, “lost in the shadows”. I had a shower that my Mother-In-Law threw me of 24 women (her family) and nobody really talked to me. I just kinda hung out in the corner all day feeling uncomfortable and then some woman kept talking about how sad it was my brother had died, so i ended up bawling in the corner with no way to escape!!!

More does NOT equal better. Just have fun with the friends you do have who could make it. PS i’d understnad, but i’d totally be irked by “well i could work but i can’t come to your shower” b/c i don’t think being tired is ever much of an excuse for anything but that’s me….when i’m pregnant and fat and tired and bloaty i’m going to remember that my friends are still there for me. I read a really interesting article on this today btw…it was pretty enlightening and showed both sides of a friendship that had deteriorated due to one woman in her 30’s being single and the other having a family. Just sorta reminded me of some things to do and what not to do when my time comes.

Just have ufn this weekend!!!

Post # 9
355 posts
Helper bee

Ejs4y8- I’d love to see the article if you have a link.  I feel like a lot of my friendships have been in transition since my divorce.  A lot of my then married (now with kids) didn’t know how to relate to me.  My other circle of close friends are single and actively looking to meet someone — I’m the only one of that group in a serious relationship.  It does require some work to keep friendships strong and connected when your life circumstances change. 

Post # 10
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If it makes you feel any better, I am not having or expecting to have a bridal shower because I don’t have any local friends or family and my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man live far far away (that’s why I dont expect them to go through the trouble of throwing me one.)

If I were to have one, though, I’d prefer an intimate one over one that has too many people.  I preferred that as a guest, too.  I’d be perfectly happy with 5 or 6 close friends to be at the bridal shower.  Like pp said, More doesn’t mean better.

Just enjoy it and have fun! Don’t let the number of people coming bum you out.  Totally not worth it.

Post # 11
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Aw hun, I’m sorry.  I totally feel you.  My shower is tomorrow and only two of my friends are going, the rest is all family, and while I’m excited and happy that they will be there, I am really hurt that almost none of my friends are going.   I actually sort of cried (well not sort of, I did) because it really hurt my feelings. So I’m totally with you….it’s understandable that they can’t come, but it still hurts, especially if you would go out of your way for those friends, but they aren’t doing it for you. 

Post # 13
6 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had a similar situation with my bridal shower. I was so nervous because the few people who did attend were from all different groups of people I know. I was afraid it was going to be awkward or just be kind of a sad shower. I essentially was dreading going to my own bridal shower.

But, I had a really good time. In the end I was really glad it was as small as it was, because it was much more intimate and now the group of 8 people that were there really know each other.

It really sucks that more people can’t attend. But those handful that are must really think highly of you.

Good luck with the new dress and the shower! I hope it is really fun for you.

Post # 14
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

My shower was thrown out of state by my mom’s friends and only her friends showed up, and I had the best time! my friends didn’t come (would have had to get on a plane!) but I know they love me and to them a shower isn’t a big deal.  Not everyone has big showers, we just don’t post about them ๐Ÿ™‚ try not to read too much into it, it will only get you down.

Post # 15
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I hope you had a great time at your shower today! Share pictures?

Post # 16
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

SF Carrie, I get what you’re saying.  We are in a different life sitc than the rest of our other friends.

And I am so sorry the shower isn’t working out how you wish it would.  Hugs hugs hugs!  How about having all your bm’s in another city?  That’s my dilemma.  All 3 of them are all across the country so there’s no shower for me. 

Work will throw one though.

But it is a bummer. 

And fwiw, my last month of pregnancy I was placed on bedrest and yes, in the summertime.  She might be feeling really bad right now or on some doctor order.  I just didn’t broadcast that to everybody when it happened to me.

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