(Closed) i'm buying a used dress!! help on payment!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

No, f that, use paypal.

Post # 5
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@geekchick:  Nothing like a tax dodger to make wedding dress shopping complete….I wouldn’t “gift” anyone anything, she’s selling something and your buying it…gotta pay Unlce Sam.

Post # 6
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@geekchick:  It’s services/goods, not a gift.  I paid my photographer this way; she sent me an invoice, and I sent her the money…  

I thought you had decided on a dress; is this a different one?

Post # 8
1841 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@geekchick:  Good girl! I thought it looked awesome!

Post # 9
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

She will get charged form PayPal as the seller, so maybe she’s trying to go around that?

I’d still say I’m using the goods/services method and let her deal with the fees.

Post # 10
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not as though it’s illegal. It’s just a way of not having to give paypal money. It’s how we transfer money through friends all the time. You’re still protected.

Post # 11
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Sounds shady to me!

Post # 12
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you give it as a gift, I am pretty sure that means YOU get dinged for the Paypal processing fee. Screw that. She is NOT doing you a favor by selling you her dress! Shady, shady, shady.

Post # 13
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The thing is, if you “gift” this money for the dress, who’s to say she’ll even send the dress?


And what if you get the dress and it doesn’t fit or has a big ol’ wine stain on it?  Good luck trying to get any money back with the “gifted” money.


If she cannot properly sell the dress to you and follow proper rules and conduct in doing so, then I would forget this one, frankly.  To me, she’s already trying to bend rules so her scruples and honesty are already in question.

Post # 14
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you send it as a gift you are NOT protected. If you send it as goods/services then she gets charged a 2.9 % which you are not obligated to pay unless it has not been calculated into the price. Pay pal charges 2.9 percent for sellers. It is really annoying but it gives both of you security. 


If I am sending money for goods to someone I know or have dealt with beofre I will send as a gift as to avoid charges. It is not illegal or shady. But it is up to you if you want to be protected or not, which in would like to be if I bought something form someone I have never dealt wiht before. 

Post # 15
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@littleluli: totally agree this is one time when you don’t want to use this option. offer do help with the 2,9% maybe u could slpit it. Or if not then tell her like it is and have her seal with it. Or offer to send half and then when u ge the dress send the other. so it win win for both.

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