- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
OK I don’t know if I’m just emotional because it’s that time of the month or if it’s legit but…
We are getting married in less than 40 days. Time is getting close.
Now my Future Mother-In-Law is great, I adore her, I really do. I respect her like crazy and really like her. But when we discussed our wedding with her she insisted we cut out guest list down to save on costs, even though my fiance and I and my mom are paying for the wedding. We did cut down the guest list to save money though. But in the same conversation she asked for invitations for two of her friends we didn’t know. OK no harm, even though it ended up being two friends and their SO’s.
So fast forward to a couple months ago. She again says our wedding is too big for our pockets and our guest list is too large but she wants to go over fiances guest list to make sure no one was forgotten, to which she asked 6 more people to the wedding, so we had to send them invitations too. More people we don’t know. She already invited them though. I got a bit nervous, I am already at max budget for everything and we are scraping together what we can to make it work as is, but ok whatever. I set the limit there.
Then I get a text from her today saying she invited 4 more people to our wedding (my fiance does know these people though). Bringing her total to 14 guests on our list we did not invite, as we cut people that were close to us to make room for the closest. Keep in mind we cut our list from 300 down to 110. Now we’re up to 125 with those extra guests.
We only budgeted for 100, at the time knowing who would be there and who wouldn’t. We only invited the people we were sure would be there.
Now we are having financial troubles with the wedding with the increase in the guest list and the only way to make up for it is by cutting from the photography which may mean no photography. My fiance said I am stressing too much about this and I need to just deal with it. He’s normally so supportive but he doesn’t understand the strsses involved in planning a wedding.
I don’t really mind giving her those extra invites asked for today because my fiance has known them since he was a kid, but the others we don’t even know and it’s really adding up. They have decided to help with the catering to help save money which I am thankful for and it makes me feel like stressing over this is absurd and I am turning into a bridezilla or something.
But I told my fiance, since he thinks I’m stressing too much about the wedding I’m done with it then. I gave him my wedding planning binders (two full ones), handed over the money for the vendors and told him I’m out of the planning. I’ll finish my DIY projects but that’s it.
I don’t like stressing out, it has literally caused me to be physically ill and being in school full time, caring for my child and working I just don’t have time for it. So I’m out of the planning and letting him take over. He wants to scrap the photographer all together and just give our families disposeable cameras to take pictures!
I’m stressing about this wedding with it getting so close, looks like nothing is going to come together the way I want it to, so I’m out. I’ll show up in the dress and say I do but I’m out of the planning.