Post # 1
I am over weight. Chubby and uncomfortable in my own skin. I want to look perfect on my wedding day in t-minus 110 days. But I don’t really care lately. He loves me the way I am, I will never be thin and I have no motivation. You would think that a wedding would be motivation, but I don’t think losing a bunch of weight would make me any happier. What is your motivation? Do you think I should start exercising now and try to make the best of the next 100 days? I don’t eat terrible, I don’t sit around all day. I am just fat.
Post # 3
If you are going to do it, it has to be fr you!! I’m in same boat, and I am trying to loose weight for the wedding, I’ve started doing some changes in my diet and hace lost some weight, but I refuse to stress myself ovr it. If you’re uncomfortable in your own skin, then you need to figure ot what will change that. Losing 10 lbs will help you drop 1 dress size!! My motivation is actually my honeymoon. I want to enjoy the sun and not worry cuz I’ll never see those people again….lol….but I want to look sexy for Fiance. If you do healthy weight lose, so it STAYS off, 1 – 2 lbs per week would give you12-24 lbs before your wedding. Do your count down!! You’ll do it
Post # 4
My motivation is the wedding photographs. They say the camera already adds 10 lbs. so I’d like to be smaller for sure.
Post # 5
I would have said no except you said you are uncomfortable in your own skin. Being overweight because you eat unhealthy food and don’t exercise has other health effects because just how you look so my motivation is my health. If you are pretty healthy and happy then I would have said no but you don’t seem happy about it so why not try to push a little harder so you can have a healthier life with your new husband.
Post # 6
I am definitely not skinny and yes considered overweight by those horrible charts! I tried to get on board to losing weight but never got there. Why? My husband has always loved me the way that I am and has never said one word about my weight. No need to try to be someone I am not! Of course I am not saying it is a bad thing to try and lose weight. I wished I had but for me and no one else. =)
Post # 7
For me it’s a mental thing. I feel better about myself when I eat healthy and exercise regularly. If I lose weight, awesome. If I don’t, at least I know I’m doing everything in my power to be healthy. That’s the most important thing at the end of the day.
Post # 8
If you do decide that you want to try to lose a little weight or tone up more here is a great website that my roommate shared with me! You can fill a thing out and it will tell you how many calories you can consume in a given day in order to meet your goal. You put in what you eat and it will find exactly what you ate (they had the exact starbucks blueberry scone that i ate this morning!) and keep track of your calories. You can also enter any exercise you do.
Like someone mentioned before, you need to make it a mindset change. Perhaps if you do it because you want to be healthier that will help. You just need to eat the right foods in moderation and do some physical activity but you need to keep those changes in your life in order to really get the benefits.
Post # 9
You need to figure out what makes you happy. You sound very unhappy in your skin. If losing a bit of weight would make you happier, go for it. If you’re going to stress out over every little pound once you start, it’s not worth it. Maybe you could try making a pro/con list? Or try it for a bit and see how you feel?
Post # 10
I am [was] a little chubby as well. That in itself was no motivation to lose weight. Heck, even the upcoming wedding was not the motivating factor. Just ‘something’ inside me sparked one day and I wanted to simply FEEL healthier from the inside out. So I embarked on my journey this past [late] Summer.
I started off by ONLY sleeping sufficiently and having green tea. (I replaced my coffee/tea, etc. with that.) Then several weeks later I added eating healthy meals to my diet. I WAS already healthy but not healthy ‘enough’ and nor did I control my portion size back then. I was also eating quite late into the evening, etc. I started cooking more and more meals at home. One after the other, it lead me to learn newer meals. Just by doing this I lost 10 pounds!!!
Several weeks later I added working out to the mix and started off my battle with P90x. I am going to be starting my 4th week of this tomorrow. I feel much STRONGER now already even though I didn’t exert myself too much on arms/shoulder exercises due to a torn ligament in my palm. But yet due to the combination of ALL of the above, I ended up losing yet more weight. According to the scale I only lost 2 more pounds but according to the mirror and my clothes, it is WAY more. (I must’ve gained muscle.) Plus my body is starting to shape up nicely. And my skin looks a lot better too.
So don’t focus on losing weight for ‘this/that’ reason. Just do it for the sake of NOT carrying around 2-3 bags of proverbial potatoes with you EVERYWHERE you go. Your hubby loves you the way you are, but think about your body too. It NEEDS to be healthy (not SKINNY) but healthy so it can function at its best. The weight loss will be a side benefit only.
Post # 11
Do what makes YOU happy. If you are uncomfortable in your own skin, give it a try to lose weight, what could go wrong? As for your fiance, that is GREAT that he loves you the way you are 🙂 But definitely make the best of it, and try to make goals if that helps you! However, on your wedding day, your Fiance will be thinking “She is beautiful” no matter what! Your motivation should be YOU feeling happy and comfortable.
Post # 12
I understand how you feel for me the deciding factor was time. I did not try to lose weight before the wedding because at some point I ordered my wedding dress. And it was a size 16 and I thought I was going to die and I cried and cried about it and I admit, I hate looking fat in the pictures. BUT… it was an expensive dress and I realized that if I made losing weight more important than getting married we’ll never be married.
Now that we are married I exercise everyday and have been losing weight since September (but not enough to make the dress not fit). In the end I just felt like some things should be more important and on the wedding day I didn’t think about it at all.
Post # 13
I’m with lezlers on this one…I find i feel worse about myself when i not eating right or working out as i should..it really is mental, but things come up right? i try not to get down on myself too much, tomorrow is another day. i also agree with pp that you have to want to do it for you. I thought the wedding would be huge motivation to finally get on track, and let me tell you it has been! but im going for lifestyle change i want to be healty and fit for my wedding and beyond…but like all journeys there are road bumps and there are days like today where im sitting on the couch watching Fiance play halo instead of toning these guns. Back to the gym tomorrow!
Post # 14
I’ve been thinking a lot about it. Like I said, I don’t eat bad, and I am not a total couch potato, I’m just heavier than I wish I was. But……I thought that 20 years ago when I was 12, 15 years ago when I was 17, 10 years ago when I was 22 and ever since. I have just never been comfortable in my own skin. I could be ‘too skinny’ like I was a 17 and still not be happy. It’s completely mental, I understand that. I just need to work on that itself.
Post # 15
If you want to exercise do it for yourself. Not for someone else. And exercising doesn’t only make you loose weight. It also will make you a healthier person.
Post # 16
If you’re uncomfortable in your own skin then you don’t have anything to lose by just trying to work out. If you lose weight, great, if you don’t you will still feel better about yourself. You will feel more energetic and like you accomplished something. But then those little feelings will motivate you more to eat healthier, and then when you see your body changing that will motivate you even more.
I’m not overweight but I do know what it feels like to be in between working out through long periods of time. Getting motivated to do something the first day is the HARDEST. Then the second day is hard, but not as hard as the first day, and so on. Personally looking good for my wedding pictures is motivation enough for me so I’m following the Insanity workouts by Beach Body. It’s not for beginners really, but it’s very effective. For you I would say just take a 30 minute walk around your neighborhood. It’s fun, and you get to see all the different houses and people walking their dogs. Don’t drink anything with calories (soda, alcohol) and you will see even small things like that make a huge difference.