(Closed) I'm complaining again….

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

@Chrysoberyl:  I’m so sorry about everything that you are going through. I think that, you need to set yourself small goals. Exercise three days a week for a month. Reward yourself.

Volunteer.

Start up a small dog walking business. ANYTHING.

It sounds like you are getting lost in your thoughts with your extra time while you are in between jobs… And that is a deep, dark hole!

I know that you are applying everywhere, and I know that you hate college, but is trade school an option? It’s a fast track to a new career path which better earning potential and more available jobs…Something to think about. Air traffic controller? Pick a job and start heading toward that training!

Post # 5
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@Chrysoberyl:  It’s midnight here. I feel ya.

Have you tried Melatonin? It doesn’t make you drowsy, just kind helps your mind to shut off and fall asleep. HIGHLY recommend.

Anyway, since you already have a 4 year degree, I’m not sure how that would change your financial aid. It’s worth a shot to go in and talk to someone. They want your $$ so badly that they will do anything for you… I spent over an hour with a financial advisor trying to figure everything out. Just beware, lots of people leave there accidentally signed up for classes! Go in KNOWING that you aren’t signing up, just getting info.

But they have fun things, some of which are high paying. Have you thought about court reporting? They make like 80k. Or air traffic controllers – thats a very short program and they start at like 150k! Huge demand for jobs! Or something you love… Like vet tech if you love animals, computer information systems, things like that?

Post # 6
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PS, I’m on the waiting list for nursing school right now. I have three years to just get lost in my thoughts at midnight thinking about what to do in the interim – it’s literally driving me insane. We are TTC now, so hopefully a baby will help keep my mind busy. So I completely understand and can relate!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@Chrysoberyl:  Are we the same person? I’m like a money nazi. One of mine and hubby’s problems right now (embarrassing to admit) is that my wardrobe is lacking (I know, I know). But part of the reason is I hate spendng money on clothes! I HATE debt. It just hangs…. Ugh!So every time we go on a shopping spree, I’m like…I hate this….we should be spending money on credit cards….no clothes…

Anyway, the way I’ve solved that with student loan debt is that I don’t consider student loans as debt. The payoff in the long run is so much more than a temporary setback. I work in the medical field and have learned this from people making 500k as doctors, sitting pretty at 35 years old, even though they had 100, 200, 300k in debt.

Early AM exercise helps with insomnia…maybe that could help? Yoga/meditation?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s amazing that you have stayed so dedicated and determined to find full time work in spite of working two unfillilling part time jobs. Have you tried temping? At least then you would get clerical work that could possibly lead to full time positions with a company.

I worked in retail for quite awhile in my early 20s. I still have dreams/nightmares about it. Then I got temporary seasonal work with a non-profit, which lead to a full time job with the organization, which then lead to promotions, and a job with a different company and so on. Just know that it’s not uncommon to struggle in your early 20s with job stuff!

Sending positive vibes your way! And, you can keep complaining on the Bee to save your in-person friendships πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know this might not be super helpful, but I was in the same position as you for a while and was averaging 10 applications a day. I ended up starting three different part-time gigs, and all of a sudden I had three job interviews in ONE week. I thankfully managed to nail one and got a job offer, I stayed there for a year and realized I needed a degree because making 20k a year was not going to cut it. Point of my story is, when you think all else is lost.. you’ve got part-time jobs up to your ears and you’re worrying about where the heck your life is going to go.. something great will happen. Its just a matter of time (I know, all you hear is blah blah) but its the TRUTH. I promise. It took me well over 150 job applications and I went on numerous interviews. What is your degree in, if you dont mind me asking? Maybe I can help consider some job searching locations. For example, states and counties have websites with job openings. Craigslist is also a great place to look for jobs (the job I ended up getting was actually off of Craigslist and started at $10hr with an increase to 10.50 after a couple of months and then after a year at 11.30) Its not much, but the benefits were great and the ability to provide for yourself feels good too. Let me know if I can help!

Post # 13
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Chrysoberyl:  Have you considered non-profit work? Possibly helping create marketing tools, fundraising with your art background. Also, depending on the type of work a degree in psychology might be beneficial. Ie. Working with kids. A good way to get your foot in the door is to volunteer somewhere that you’d be interested in, and show them you’re willing to do anything for the job. Even small things like moving tables around at a fundraising event, setting it up, etc. 

 

You could also do something with etsy? If you’re creative and artistic why not try to make things for yourself? If you work at Joann you know they have those wedding card boxes for like $10 (plus im sure you get a discount, if not those 60% off coupons are awesome) and continue to use the discount to get fabric, details, etc. Then sell them for $50 each when you’ve only spent 15-20, and have the consumer purchase shipping as well. I know if I had time, I would be doing this. I am in Business School atm, so I cant but as long as you factor in the cost of doing this, including opportunity cost of doing it I think it could be good for you. Wedding stuff just about always sells. 

 

Random site note, since I forget that not everyone knows what opportunity cost is. Essentially you have to be making more money in the hour it takes you to create or begin creating a product, then you would make doing your part-time work for it to actually be a smart move. I know this doesnt necc. help with insurance, but it at least helps to make extra money or maybe allows you to do something you’d prefer and use your creative talents instead of working retail and feeling like you do. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

All I can say is, just relax. You’re only 22! πŸ™‚
(And I apologize in advance for any typos in this post, I’m having a hard time sleeping tonight…it’s been a long day.)

I moved out to CA when I was 22 (I’m 27 now). I went without health insurance for 4 years until I found a job that offered it.

Health insurance: Unless you have a pre-existing condition, you don’t NEED health insurance. You can go to Planned Parenthood for your yearly pap, birth control, and some minor bloodwork if you need it.

Dental insurance: See above. Also, dental insurance is a luxury, (unfortunately). Just floss and brush twice a day, you’ll be fine.

Car insurance: these days you can find car insurance for pretty cheap (mine is only $53 a month).. I’d suggest looking into it further.

What did you mean by you buy the groceries and pay for internet? At your place, or his? Either way, that’s extremely helpful. Every little bit helps. Right now, my Boyfriend or Best Friend makes the majority of our income, and all I can afford to pay is the internet/cable and water bill. It’s not much but hey, it’s something!

The economy is upside down bananas right now. Oh god, I hate retail so much. I feel your pain!

I went to college originally for womens studies.. and it’s pretty much lead me straight into retail. This second time around, I’m going for something that I’ll actually get certified in, which holds a lot more hope and actual possibilities for a job! Sometimes I get really, really, down because I’m 27… I know 27 year olds who are making $70-100K. I feel like such a loser. But I know that I just need to keep going, and not give up.

But, again, you’re only 22. I think going back to college is a GOLDEN idea. I think 5 years from now, you’ll be happy you went back to college. Instead of NOT-going, and being regretful.

πŸ™‚

**sending positive thoughts**

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