(Closed) I’m confused about all that “stuff” in invitations

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

There’s a lot you can choose to include/not include. Some common pieces of an invite include:

1. The outer envelope (with the stamp, name, address, etc.)

2. The inner envelope (just the invited guests’ names in nice handwriting/font)

3. The response card – sometimes a postcard, sometimes with it’s own envelope (and sometimes done electronically)

4. A reception card, with information about the reception, where it will be, meal choices, etc.

5. Map or directions card

6. Registry info – usually on a simple, small slip of regular weight paper, this is one of those ‘controversial’ pieces, because everyone says it’s rude to include, yet … every wedding invite I’ve ever gotten has one in it!

7. Hotel, etc resources for out of town/state guests

8. Website – you might put this somewhere on another piece of the invite, or include a special card just for it.

9. (How could I pass this one by? Almost forgot!) The actual invite itself!


Basically the only REQUIRED parts are probably #1 (because I just can’t see anyone doing postcard wedding invites… maybe I’m wrong!) and #9. Most people do #3 as well. The rest… all up to you!

Post # 4
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We designed our own invitations, and ours basically included what you mentioned above.  In addition, we also included a map enclosure and a small business card pointing guests towards our wedding website, since we thought that both of these items would be helpful.  Instead of using an inner envelope, we just held everything together with a belly band made out of a flat piece of ribbon, and a piece of baker’s twine tied in a bow on top of that.  We also included a tag that was threaded through the belly band that said “John Doe and Guest”, if said person was allowed to bring a +1, since we didn’t want to write the “and guest” on the outer envelope. 

I think what you listed above is the standard for wedding invitations though, and all of the other stuff if just extra, if you want / need it.

Hope this helps!

Post # 5
147 posts
Blushing bee

I’ll be frank.. I didn’t care really how fancy my invitations were! Everyone throws them out anyways. And lots of bloggers say the same thing.. and then put 8 different pieces and lots of money into them! Put the invite, put other important info on another card, and have them email/call for RSVPs. Worked for me, I have more money to spend on my honeymoon, and everyone used a phone or email to let us know 🙂

Post # 6
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s really completely up to you. I designed ours as well, and we wanted a clean, simple design. Just went with the invite in an envelope—that’s it. (We did online RSVPs so the wedding site was already on the invitation, but would have included an RSVP postcard if we hadn’t gone that route.) We have a website that has registry info on it and didn’t want it included in the invitation. Hotel info was there as well for Out of Town guests.

We are doing direction cards, but putting them in the out-of-town welcome bags, since our guest list is half local and they’ve all been to the venue before, so it seemed silly to waste paper giving them directions. Since the directions are from the hotel to the venue (not appropriate for getting to the hotel in our case b/c there are too many different ways you could fly in, get here, etc.), putting them in the bags means people will have them easily on hand when they’re needed, and don’t need to remember to bring them along.

It’s good to consider all the possibilities, but none are required, and printing lots of inserts can get costly, so I’d focus on the ones that are really important to you. For me, it was the invitation and a beautiful map of our city, so that’s what I spent my time on. 🙂 We went with letterpress on high-quality paper, so they weren’t much less than if we’d done more complicated invites without the letterpress, but it worked for us.

Post # 7
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i ordered mine on etsy. i got printed outer envelope, printed rsvp envelope, 3 layered invite card, map/directions card, and the rsvp card.

i’m going to order thank you cards later.


Post # 8
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m a designer also, and just finished mine. I did a pocketfold invitation with mat, insert (map on one side, accommodations + local attractions on other), RSVP card, return envelope. The paper style I chose was guided by this helpful diagram from http://www.cardsandpockets.com (my design and colors are different, but pieces are the same).

Post # 9
875 posts
Busy bee

I am a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to invitations… 

The basics… envelope, invitation including reception info, response card…  are basically the only things most people would say you need. 

The traditional envelope mound… outer envelope… with mailing address,

inner envelope with familiar address…( ie Aunt Joan and Uncle Ed and the kids…

or Miss Susan Black is Suzie)  a formal invitation using proper invitation format…

a reception card that may include a map of the wedding location or the sites of your ceremony, reception hall, and the hotel you recommend… 

a response card that may detail dinner choices… 


But information about your registry is NOT to be included with the invitation.  You are inviting someone to an event.  You aren’t asking them for a gift.  Yes wedding registry information is important, but the proper way to share that information with your guests is upon their request…  Your mothers, sisters, aunts, and bridesmaids are the traditional sources of this kind of information.  You’ll share that with them as a matter of course… because you’re excited about choosing the things you’ll enjoy using within your home.  Locally, there are several shops that feature registry choices at a table within a local boutique…  It’s really sweet, and a neat way to discover what the bride and groom like!


Post # 11
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

you can also include a photo of the two of you and something like a “how we met” or Story of us” card. I sort of wish we had done that for all of my out of country family. I also once got an invitation where they said “please decorate this sheet for our guestbook” so people could make them a scrapbook and bring the page to the wedding. didnt see the final project thouigh.

Post # 12
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The other posters hit the nail on the head.  The parts I have are:

1. Invitation itself

2. Reception card (only because the reception is at a different venue than the ceremony)

3. Accommodations card (I have a lot of out-of-town guests and blocked some rooms at a hotel for them)

4. RSVP post card

I ordered pocket-folds that were pre-cut and folded, and they serve as the “outer envelope.”  The invitation card actually gets attached to the inside of the pocket-fold.  I’m going to Kinko’s tomorrow to have the inserts printed and cut.  Then I’ll assemble everything myself and add some embellishments (including a little rubber stamping).  My pocket-folds came from the site below.  If you scroll all the way to the bottom, you’ll see pics of how the invites look when assembled.


Post # 14
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Everyone is different. I am casual, non-traditional, and eco-friendly. Wow, I sound like a complete hippie! All we did was the outer envelope, but addressed more like an inner, the invite and a rsvp postcard. We saved a lot on postage too. Did I also mention I’m really cheap. Haha. The pocket invites are really cute though. We had a friend who is a graphic designer do ours and she loved the pocket ones!

Post # 15
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@menobride:  If you order from paperandmore.com, it’s probably a good idea to get your envelopes there too.  My pocket-folds are 5×7, and I didn’t realize how hard it was to find envelopes that size!  I could have saved myself a lot of shopping around if I had just combined my pocket-fold order with some envelopes too.  Just thought I’d pass along that piece of learning!

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