(Closed) I'm Confused about Bride and Groom Gift Giving…

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 4
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mchitt329:  I honestly feel that you can give them whatever you want. If you want to do something more generic for the entire bridal party, do that. If you want different gifts for each person that is more geared towards their personality, that is great too. If you want it to be soemthing for that day or soemthing that is completely unwedding related. Its really what you want to do.

Do you have any ideas so far?

 

Post # 6
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mchitt329:  How about for the dads, a personalized cooler? My fiance received one as a groomsmen gift and it was a huge hit. Or, a bar/pub sign with their last names?

If these are not good ideas, thats fine, I am just trying to throw ideas out there. 

What are their interests, hobbies, etc.?

 

Post # 8
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Eh. Give your folks whatever you and they would like. Something meaningful is always best, because it’s a memory-making occasion. This is a relatively new tradition, I think, as I don’t believe that my folks were given significant gifts in my brothers’ weddings (20, 12 and 4 years ago). We’re giving our folks wedding albums, and again, I know that my brothers didn’t do this for my parents.

Post # 10
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mchitt329:  Your welcome, and I just realized you are a Michigander just like me. lol.

I like the idea of the future in laws gift basket style. Could you do something like that for your parents? You could easily include the jewelry and the hat and just add some other trinkets. Do they have a hobby that they enjoy together? Such as skiing, or traveling?

Post # 12
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mchitt329:  It really is the way to go, that way if there isn’t something really big that you want to get them but instead a bunch of smaller style gifts, you can bundle them together. I am obsessed with gift basket giving. I love creating little themes and then filling them with goodies!

Post # 14
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@mchitt329:  We are getting my parents a room for an extra night at the Victorian Inn we will be staying at during my wedding weekend and paying for them to go to a nice dinner. Could you do something like this?(Room: $350 | Dinner: $200 = cheap in comparison 😀 )

For the in laws, I have NO idea.  But I think I like your gift basket idea!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mchitt329:  I always thought the standadr gift to the dads was a bottle of something,  never heard there was a standard for the moms though. I think it makes sense to give the parents something to commemorate the day, they are likely the only people that truly care about the wedding as much as the couple, that’s their little girl/boy getting married.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Some of this gift giving is more traditional than others.

Gifts for Bridal Attendants have been around for a very long time

Etiquette says that the gift given should be personal in nature… and not everyone should get the same thing (too easy). These folks have been there for you in a very personal show of support / way… so the gifts should be selected for their personal meaning / connection that you have with each person.

Altho… sadly, the mass produced element has been around for decades. Where for example a Groom gets everyone a Pewter Stein. *Thumbs Down*

As well Attendant Gifts should not be in any way connected to the Wedding. So you can’t give em ONLY the jewellery you want them all to wear on the day. That should be an extra gift… because you are REQUIRING them to wear it (not necessarily to their taste / enjoyment after the fact)

However, it is perfectly fine to gift your Bridal Party Wedding Stuff in addition to your main gift. As an example, a lot of couples will follow up after the Wedding with a photo print of them and their Attendant(s). Because altho there is no obligation to pay for this… some feel it is a nice souvenir (and WHY should the Maid/Matron of Honor be dishing out money for a Pro Pic anyhow?)

Gifts for Mom & Dads, are less traditional. Altho they have been around in various formats for decades. For many couples (myself included first Wedding circa 1980) it was traditional for the Bride & Groom to give BOTH sets of Parents a mini-version of the Wedding Album filled with Professional Photos (pretty expensive gift)

Nowadays tho, many couples are giving other “treats” to their Parents… such as expensive items like Clocks, Fancy Meals, Getaway Weekends, even Vacations.

The other set of “gifts” commonly exchanged (more modern) exist between the Bride & Groom themselves.  This custom probably started more so with the Groom sending something to the Bride to enjoy as she got ready.  It could be something as simple as a Love Note or Flowers for her Room… or as magical as an expensive piece of Jewellery.

Couples usually discuss this custom in advance of the Wedding… so that both parties are comfortable with the plan.  Love Notes… and small token gifts (meaningful items to their relationship / some times silly even) are still common.  But so is the exchange of heirloom (or to be heirloom) pieces of Jewellery (expensive watches – cuff links etc).  Some couples agree to exchange just Love Notes on their Big Day… but purchase / do something else after the Wedding for each other (buy matching bikes – camping equipment – a special something for thier home – or add on something special to their Honeymoon)

Hope this helps,

 

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