- 6 months ago
- Wedding: October 2020
Hi, everyone. I’m new on here and i would just like to tell my story so i can get advice on what to do.
So my girlfriend, Kiki and i have been together for 2 years now, and it has been rocky in the past, but now i find that we’re in a good place. What threatens that now is my situation with her sister, We all have recently moved in together 3 months ago, i’ll give you a quick run down. Kiki and i were co workers and then became best friends, She’s been there for me through the good and the bad, so after 3 years of friendship i decided to tell her how i really feel and she luckily felt the same way. Fast forward to this year, in the beginning of the year i didn’t have a job cause i got fired and fell into a huge depression, so those recent events in turn put a real strain on our relationship, but i was able to get up and find a better job and after getting this job we all decided that we should move in together. Now before we moved in, Kiki’s sister and i got along well ,she was annoying but i only got it small doses, but now moving in everything has become an issue. Kiki tells me that it’s because her older sister sees me as a threat to their relationship, which i would never come between cause that’s her family.
But we recently got into it over some damn shampoo, granted i shouldn’t have used her shampoo, but i apologize and offered to buy her a new one, but she kept going on and on about stuff that had never to do with the shampoo so i blew up at her, cause a few months back she was talking a lot of crap to her mom about now i didn’t have a job when 1. I going interview like crazy and 2. The after i got 2 right after the interviews. Now she said she had concerns but where my issue was that the concerns were never brought to me, not to mention when she talks to you, she ask the other person; for example “What’s going with Phoenix?” And i’m standing right there.
Anyway, the shampoo thing passed and we apologized but now i’m starting to feel like i’m fighting for attention, My Girlfriend is Puerto Rican and very family oriented; while i’m African American, and though my family is close we know to give each other space. Kiki’s sister always wants to be up under us and though i have told plenty of times about this, she insist that her sister just wants to be around family and that she feels abandoned(which is not anywhere near true) It’s her sister and i know she loves her, i truly understand about the feeling of being pushed to the side, but we’re trying to build a family and i can’t do when we have someone trying to not only control and tell me what to do every 5 minutes but who is 34 years old who doesn’t want to go out and wants to go on every date and doesn’t work who relies on her father all the time.
So basically i’m just asking for advice because Kiki and i are getting married in 2020 and moving to Puerto Rico next year, and what i don’t want is for me to move down there only to be by myself cause she’s always out with family. (She spends more time with her sister even more since i moved in) I know there probadly a few things missing but this already too long.
I really appreciate some advice, thank you.