Post # 46
Where is that LOL with the tears emoji when you need it?
You’ve all left me behind jumping so fast to your conclusions, I can’t catch up.
About selling the house – he is NOT selling it just to buy me a ring. We are relocating, TO-GE-THER. His house is currently sitting empty while he pays both his mortgage and part of the rent for the house we are living in now. It is now on the market!
That 10k we just spent? No where did I use “gift” to describe how the 10k was spent. Ya’ll just assumed. I would like to say that I wish it was on a new rack or rear end just because it’d add some humor but I like my front and back just the way they are, thanks. So does he, obv. I also wish I could say it was spent on a “gift” I could brag about and show off but unfortunately, it was a necessary 10k to spend on my end if we are to relocate as a unit.
Sorry bees, we aren’t that financially irresponsible so no drama for you to relish in in that department. I personally think it makes more sense to put off buying a ring until after the house is sold so we have flexibility. I’ve already mentioned it doesn’t have to be expensive but he says he wants to find a really nice one since I’ll have it forever and because everyone will want to look at it. Besides, paperwork solidifies a marriage/commitment more than a ring, right?
sassy411 : the 10k… and my child’s best interests. the 10k is FOR my child’s best interests. he makes decent money and he’s good with his money. Thanks for your concern about my child’s best interests.
slomotion : see above re: finances. although I do admit, paying a mortgage and rent isn’t exactly ideal.
notmeeither : I don’t think I used the word “gift. see my response to sassy411
Post # 47
brittnamrogo : thanks for sharing! spot on.
I should also mention that me wondering about his commitment comes every month at at a particular time during my cycle without fail. Am I the only one that experiences this? I don’t want to take hormone supplements to deal with it so I just ride the waves.
Post # 48
“because he just spent over 10k on something else for me,” literally sounds like the definition of a “gift”…
If a thread full of people came to the exact same conclusion, the error was clearly in your wording, not in our “assuming” …any logical person would think it was a gift.
I guess a better way to word whatever this magical mystical mythical $10,000 thing was for you and your child would be to say “he just spent $10,000 on something to help me and my child relocate safely blah blah blah, whatever.”
Post # 49
. . . he just spent $10k on something else for me . . .
Interpreting that to mean he gifted you with something that cost $10K is not exactly far fetched.
Initially, he spent $10K for something for you. Now, the story is that he, you, or some combination thereof spent the money on something for your child. A high end pony, perhaps?
Then in your last post, you assure us that you only think negative thoughts when you’re hormonal.
So, it sounds like all is well in paradise.
Post # 50
Is it a high-end pony, op? If so, can I be your child?
I dated a what you call stringer. I call people like that serial monogamist. But anyway, I was also different and special and he never felt like that before. I became pregnant and it became too hard for him. He is dating someone else and lets me know he has no intentions of marrying her.
I really do hope it works out for you, but don’t be surprised if it doesn’t.
Post # 51
ksks9876 : You don’t want one! Had one when I was a kid, it bit my mom on the ass and then went to live on a farm.
(My Dad swears that it really went to live on a farm and that wasn’t a cover story for something terrible)
Post # 52
slomotion : We had ponies growing up. My mom has one now. She bought it at a sale to save him from being killed. His name is Rambo and he was so small he fit in the back seat of the car. He has little man syndrome. He chases after the full grown horses like he is one of them.
Post # 53
Mrs.MilitaryBee : aww…like a puppy?! My heart!! 😍
Post # 54
Yes, I know for a fact that your pony is happily frolicking on the same farm on which you will find my puppy and several baby Easter ducklings.
Post # 55
FWIW, I think you’re getting a lot of unfair blowback here where everyone is so taken with their own wit. Sounds more like making fun of someone to me.
OP, I hope your guy pops the question soon and doesn’t delay for an unreasonable amount of time.
Post # 56
2cents : I don’t think you can call him a “former stringer” until you’re engaged… cos as of right now who knows..?
Post # 57
2cents : he’s obviously *still* a “stringer” or you would be planning a wedding right now… instead here you are just his live-in “friend”..
I would be thinking twice before subjecting a child to life changes for someone who has not made *any* commitment to you…
Post # 58
You both are in your 30s. You have a kid. He’s been married before. I’m still not sure what you are bragging about bc your story sounds pretty average. Why don’t you just have an adult conversation with him and discuss a timeline?
If he point blank told his previous gfs marriage was off the table from day one, how is that stringing someone along? It’s quite the opposite. A man who strings a woman along does it by hinting and promising a ring and marriage but never actually throws down the money to commit.
I’d understand if you came here and said something about sticking around with this guy despite his past of (allegedly) stringing women along bc he helps you financially with your child and that given your past you’re open to this set up. But, you’d rather daydream about maybe possibly one day getting married to him based on random comments his family tells you about his PDA habits and blaming it all on hormones once a month. Sure, sounds like a plan.