(Closed) I’m doing a BIG “no-no”

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t understand, if both sides of family are traveling down, who is left to not bring children? 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

For starters, I don’t think it’s a “no-no” at all but maybe that’s because I’m doing the same thing. The only kids invited to our wedding are my cousins, who are in our wedding, and FI’s cousins because they are Out of Town. No other children will be invited.

We put a note about it on the FAQ page of our wedding website. We wrote:

Are children invited?
Unfortunately due to space limitations, we will be having an “adults only” reception. The only children that will be included are those who are part of our wedding party as well as any out of town guests. We hope you understand. If anyone needs assistance in making arrangements for child care, please let us know and we will do our best to assist you. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oh! ok..hmm…we just had on the reception card “we have reserved __ seats in your honor” 

I don’t think an invite/rsvp card is the place to state who is invited (children-wise), or the reasoning behind it.  You might want to consider putting it on your website, and including a link/url on the dinner/reception card. 

Maybe state (wherever you plan to put it) that “We are asking our guests to only bring children if leaving them home intereferes with the ability to attend our wedding”  Or something like that? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@UpstateCait:  NVM!  Love this one better than what I wrote =)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

can you put “we have reserved “x” amount of seats in your honor” on the RSVP card? That’s what we did.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would suggest writing on the invite and RSVP exactly who is invited.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@UpstateCait: I’d love to see some of your other FAQ!!!  That one was great!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Ryansgirl: Sure!

F.A.Q.

We have created this section to assist our guests with any questions that may come up regarding our wedding events.  You can always contact us at [email protected](FI’slastname).com if your questions aren’t answered here.

Where are you registered?
We haven’t gotten that far yet. We’ve found that registering too early normally results in items being discontinued. We’d be pretty bummed if we registered and then discovered that nothing was available anymore. We plan to register in the Spring so we will be sure to update this section as soon as we do!

What is the dress code for your wedding?
We’re having a semi-formal event. Our ceremony will be held outside overlooking the lake so please dress accordingly.

Are children invited?
Unfortunately due to space limitationswe will be having an “adults only” reception. The only children that will be included are those who are part of our wedding party as well as any out of town guests. We hope you understand. If anyone needs assistance in making arrangements for child care, please let us know and we will do our best to assist you. 

Whats for dinner?
We’ll be offering our guests 3 delicious meal options:

Grilled NY Sirloin Steak
Chicken Cordon Bleu
Pasta Primavera

I have special dietary needs. Will you be able to accommodate me?
Of course! You can either drop us an email or notate your needs on the response card that will be included with the invitations and we will do our best to assist you.

Will there be free parking?
Absolutely! Please park in the resort parking lot. You will enter this parking lot by the large marquee.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@UpstateCait:  Can I come?  Your menu sounds delicious!  😉

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am totally on board with you, but I think you’re just asking for phone calls begging, pleading, and bribing you to allow them to bring children by telling them SOME people are allowed.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

From my limited understanding, I thought that paying per drink is usually cheaper than paying a set bar price per person.  i understand your reasoning in that “who wants to pay extra for booze” but have you talked to your venue about this?  Maybe they have this rule because they know that when there are more kids around, people tend to drink less?  At the very least, I would ask your venue why they have this policy.  

As far as the partial no-kids rule goes, I think it is your wedding so you should do what you want.  However, you will have to expect some people to think “wait, why are those kids here and mine weren’t invited?”  As long are you are OK with that, then all is good!   

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