He did it! So, I’m done waiting for my passive guy to find the courage to ask me to be his wife! And he did it in a rather special way!!!
Here is the ring we’re using until we design our own; it is my mom’s. When she was pregnant with me, her fingers swelled so badly that she had to have her bridal ring set cut off. They didn’t have the money to replace it so she wore a simple gold band until they were able to get her a new set on their 5th annv. On their 25th annv, they upgraded it and my mom gave me this one, from their 5th annv, when my guy and I were both unemployed and financially struggling (but wanting to get married)
My guy & I can afford a ring now but we agreed to design matching ones. Not wanting to tip me off on his intentions, he didn’t want to design the rings before the proposal so we’re using my mom’s ring until ours are designed/complete.
So, the story:
We have wanted to make a collage of the sights around our town to hang over our dining room table and finally started taking the pics lastnight. We went downtown and discovered that the main road had been blocked off for a festival. All the booths and tents were gone leaving only the road blocks which allowed us to stand in the middle of the street and shoot down the length of the street. As we were heading back to the car, he pulled me close and started saying all sorts of nice stuff and then kinda got choked up. Thinking he was choking on the cold air, I was completely clueless to what was happening -hehe.
He pulled away from me and held out his fist. On his thumb was the ring. Because it wasn’t the ‘on bended knee’ stance, I didn’t see it coming/piece it together quickly enough and couldn’t help but gasp, cover my mouth in shock and start to cry. All I could do was study his face for ‘the question’ and just started to bawl in shock and relief.
He was crying, too and kinda pleading, “Its you. I love you. Be my wife” and through my sobs I nodded and hugged him. There was lots of hugs and kissing and me trying to catch my breath. And finally he said “Will you marry me?” and I leaned in, kissed him and exhaled, “Of course I will!”
Then more hugs and kisses and lots of “OMG, we’re engaged!”
I can’t remember much of what he said but there was ‘I’m really grateful for you’ and ‘I’m sorry it’s taken so long’. He thoroughly acknowledged that waiting for him to get to this point was not easy/fun so that helped my resentment ease. It won’t change the fact that he made me wait longer than I was comfortable with, but having been married before, I get that marriage can be like that. But that part’s over now!
As soon as we turned to continue back to the car, I was all smiles. We went a few other places to snap pics (how nice will it be to have that collage to look at every evening and say ‘That was the night we got engaged!’??? We texted our parents the news and posted on our Facebooks. We happened to take family pics a couple weekends ago with one of my BFFs and so she scrambled to edit and post one of the shots of just he & I. I wrote “[my guy] just made me cry in the middle of [the road]. But now I can’t stop smiling!” In the comments I explained “We’re engaged”. He posted “She said yes. Now we can begin our adventure. We’re ready.” My heart swooned reading his. 🙂 🙂 🙂
Even though it was nearly 11pm, the ‘likes’ and ‘Omg! Congrats!’ and texts from BFFs started pouring in. I noticed that while I was on Cloud 9, he was pretty wore out. He’d called in (love)sick to work and probably spent all day waiting for the ‘right moment’ to do it. We finally went to bed around 1AM and as I write this from my desk at work, I’m still smiling from ear to ear!
Thanks for the support over the last couple of weeks that I’ve been here. To all of you who are waiting: when it happens, it all gets much better. Just figure out how to survive until then! 🙂