Post # 1
Our RSVP’s were due earlier this week and, of course, a whole bunch of people never responded. So we’ve been hunting people down. My favorite response was “Oh yeah, we’re both coming… and our 3 kids” !!! The kids weren’t invited and when exactly were you planning on telling me this? When ya showed up at the reception toting 3 kids we weren’t expecting?
Then we called a good friend of ours and his response was “Of course I’m coming. I thought that was assumed, was I really supposed to send that card back?” Yes, yes you were. At 33 years old I’d hoped you realized the pre-stamped envelope with a card requesting your response was, in fact, supposed to be sent back to us. Now I have to save a text message to ensure the correct spelling of his girlfriend’s name.
Lastly was a family friend of FI’s. She’s in college and was invited with her mom. Neither responded. Since we don’t have her mom’s number, Fiance texted the daughter and her response was “Hmm… dunno about mom. But, I’m down!” What? I’m down? This is not a frat party! This wasn’t a last minute, casual invite to a house party. I don’t know if I can take that response seriously. Is she really going to come? Or is it like making plans with a bunch of random friends to possibly hang out, where you say “I’m down” but when the time comes, something better comes up and you totes forgot you agreed to something else. With our wedding on a holiday weekend, I’m just expecting her to be “down” to go to the shore with her friends instead of our wedding. Is there a polite way to say “Um, I’m sorry. That response doesn’t sound very definitive. We need a concrete yes or no for your attendance, thanks”… probably not.
Ugh, weddings are so frustrating. What are your obnoxious response stories??
Post # 2
I feel you on the frustrating RSVPs!! let me try and remember all our weird ones…
– My batty grandmother (whom I didn’t want to invite) sent hers back checked yes but didn’t write HER name on the line, oh no. She wrote the name of every relative on her side of the family who had died, along with every animal of hers that had died, then finished up the list with my current (very much alive) dog’s name written boldly in all caps. I made my mom verify if she was actually coming or not.
– We got three RSVP cards back with the peoples’ names written out but no yes or no if they were coming.
– Probably 4 of DH’s friends thought “We have reserved 1 seat in your honor” meant a plus one and tried to add random people to their cards.
– We had another one of DH’s friends get confused and for some reason he put his RSVP in his card he gave to us at the wedding? Okay…
and just a funny story to finish them off…
– we were hanging out at DH’s house (which is directly across the street from my house, that’s how we met!) with one of his roommates drinking when we jokingly scolded him for being way past our response date with no card sent back. He was quite intoxicated, and all of the sudden got up and ran back to his room. He came back response card in hand, shirtless, and ran past us out the front door. Fiance at the time and I got to stand there and giggle as we watched him stumble/sprint across the street, drunk as can be, and place his card in my mailbox with a flourish and a bow! It was our favorite way to receive a response!
Post # 3
I had a few. Only like 5 out of 50 rsvpd…
One was my husbands boss. We only invited her and her husband. She wrote on the card- me, husband, and daughter!
It’s been like 7 months and it still irritates me when i htink about it. Only bc i dont like her lol
Post # 4
That happened to us too! Really though, the worst is when it’s people who have gotten married pretty recently because they should know how irritating it is trying to get an RSVP back!
Post # 5
Why are RSVPs so difficult for people!!??
Our deadline is tomorrow and we still have 126 people who haven’t responded. That is just insane!! You are all adults.
My worst thing so far is we have gotted 4 rsvp’s back who check yes for attending and write the number attending.. but no name on the line!!??? Come on people..
I guess I am somewhat lucky to not have any additional people or children added.. yet.. LOL
We are already stressed enough why can’t people just do what they are supposed to
Post # 6
Did you send one card to her mother for both of them or separate? It sounds like she hadn’t seen the card. Honestly, it’s not a big deal someone said “I’m down.” If you need clarification about her mom you should call the mom. Its casual, but she said yes so I don’t see the problem? Just respond with a
“Thank you for your response. We will mark your rsvp as a yes and give your mom a call. Just to check, did you receive the invitation we sent to xyz address? We just want to make sure you have the information available on where to go and starting times”
Post # 7
sweettea169: OMG yes! My cousin who I had to track down just got married last year and he’s the one who added his two munchkins!! My mom was like “WTF! They paid for their own wedding, they should know how rude it is to add children when they weren’t invited! And how could they not RSVP on time??? They just went through this!”
LittleDove: All of your post had me holding back hilarious laughter in the office! WTF with the dead relatives and pets?! hahahaha I’m still laughing. And the RSVP card inserted in your wedding card like “Hey, in case ya didn’t realize, I did come to your wedding soo… Imma RSVP yes now”
Post # 8
DH’s trainwreck cousin never RSVP’d. It got down to 2 weeks before the wedding and Darling Husband had already called him like 5 times and every time it was an uncertain answer. He was just waiting it out until his dad offered to pay for his flight, I think. So we FINALLY got a verbal yes, then 2 days before the wedding, his dad (FI’s uncle) e-mails Future Mother-In-Law to “let us know” that he’s going to be bringing his Girlfriend, who we had never met and wasn’t invited. “Wasn’t sure about the arrangements for dinner, hope it’s ok”, he says. Future Mother-In-Law actually included a note when she forwarded me the e-mail saying she would have said no if it was her! But whatever, it was a buffet so I talked to the caterer and e-mailed the uncle back saying, “Hi, we actually didn’t know he was coming since he didn’t RSVP, but we’ve made arrangements so that’s fine. Looking forward to seeing you!” He sent back a half-hearted apology. On the day, I just asked the caterers to set an extra place at the end of his table and didn’t add her name to the seating chart. I wasn’t making any extra effort if he couldn’t even be bothered to respond! It’s not like he’s a teenager either. He’s my age.
Post # 9
Ahh you guys are freaking me out. I hope and pray that my and my FI’s friends can figure it out. It helps that we’re giving everyone a plus one and all kids are allowed, so we don’t expect and rules “broken” since there aren’t many. That said, after having been on the bee for long enough it seems absolutely everyone gets at least one screwed up RSVP.
Post # 10
We stamped our responses and numbered them in case people forgot their names, but we need not have bothered because of the maybe 60% who actually responded on time, several managed to not tell us if they want to use the shuttles we’re providing.
I feel really bad because we whined about having to invite a family member we’ve never met, who ended up sending a very generous gift and responding on time, even though we forgot to stamp his rsvp because we added him after invitations went out. 😳
oh and two of our wedding party did not rsvp! Obviously we know they are coming but geez how hard is it to put a postcard in the mail!!!!
Post # 11
A week before our wedding we had someone ask if it was too late to bring a date…. They weren’t given a plus 1.
Post # 12
bluebird17: Oh girl, the best man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and 2 bridesmaids haven’t RSVP’d lol. Obviously we know they are all coming but my Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t “decided” who she’s bringing yet. Um, honey, it’s in 2 weeks… ya wanna pick soon?
kitkatkels: we sent one invitation to her and her mom (they live together). We had texted her asking for her address and she was like “Oh I’m so excited for your wedding!” but then failed to respond. I just found “I’m down” very casual and wishy-washy (she’s also 18 and not the most responsible adult I’ve ever met… I just want to make sure she’s really coming!). I’m mostly just frustrated with everyone and that’s why it bothered me more than it should have.
Post # 13
SoonAsYouCan: Ahhh I wanted to scream when I had to track down people. “Oh you mean you wanted that?”
Well, I included a stamped and addressed envelope, and it’d be kind of nice to know if you’re coming and what you want for dinner since this is asked for ON THE CARD!!” Apparently I was supposed to read minds haha
Post # 14
LittleDove: Finish with a funny story?! The grandmother one was hilarious. What was her motive for listing al your dead relatives and pets????
Post # 15
So, you have a problem with someone saying “I’m down,” but you’re ok with saying something like “totes forgot.” I’ll never understand that language. Like “totes adorbs.” It’s nauseating.