- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So it happened. I proposed to my girlfriend and she said yes. Unfortunately I didn’t get any photos as it unfolded and she has now just popped out to get us some lunch so will get a photo of her ring when she gets back. I got her a 18ct white gold diamond band with seven flush set diamonds. Everyone who saw it said it was very her and she loved it. It looked really nice on her hand.
For ages I struggled to find the words of what to say. I didn’t quite know how to word it, but after going to her brother and mum for their blessing I realised one of the main reasons behind wanting to marry my girlfriend is wanting to start a family.
I’ve always wanted children but I think recently i’ve realised how big a part of my life I want that to be. I want her and I to both be Mums and have children and have that family unit. I dont care if we use a sperm donation, if we adopt or if we do egg sharing. My parents seperated when I was young and although I had very regular contact with my Dad, I never had “family christmas.” It was always one year with my Dad, the next with my Mum. Both of them had very different takes on christmas. My mum is very traditional and we would go to my Grans or my Uncles. My Dad was a devout vegitarian and so we had veggie christmas which was more of a buffet where we’d sit and just chat, surrounded by his cats. Both versions were cool in their own ways but I always just wanted a family christmas. Since getting serious with my girlfriend I’ve spent christmas with her family a couple times and I love it. Family is such a big driving force behind us getting married.
Getting married, or having a civil partnership as it is legally called in the UK, opens the gate ways for us starting that family. A wedding is just one day and on that day i’m looking forward to the nice dress, and the nice food and seeing all my friends and family in one place. But a marriage is forever, and in that I am looking forward to setting up a home together and raising a family.
So that’s that. I proposed and she said yes. We had caviar canapes and peach belinis. Now, I await my proposal from her and my ring. I’m told its coming soon.
Photos to follow.