(Closed) I'm engaged!! 1 1/2 year engagement, help?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did it in this order (once the date was chosen)

– Found a ceremony location and booked it (as soon as you’ve decided, book it)

– Found a reception venue and booked it (same as above, nothing is too early!)

– Choose a celebrant/ religious figure to marry you

– Start looking for colours/wedding dress styles etc that will fit the theme of your wedding and create a bit of an inspiration board. It will help when putting everything together

Then worry about the details πŸ™‚

You should have your engagement party within 3 months of becoming engaged πŸ™‚

Post # 4
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@cammmysmiles:  our time span is about the same. Enjoy being engaged for now and look/save ideas. Have your e-ceremony with family and friends. I guess don’t book until a year out..I started looking for dresses early but don’t order til you are sure!! πŸ™‚ congratulations! such an exciting time!! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@cammmysmiles:  Congratulations on your engagement! My fiancé and I decided to have a 2 year engagement.  We made the decision to enjoy being engaged for 1 month before planning anything.

The absolute first thing you and your fiancé need to do is sit down and have the money talk. If either set of parents will be contributing you two should talk with them as well.  Figure out your budget and also a rough estimate of how many guests you intend on inviting.  Once you know your budget and guest list number, this will guide you as you interview vendors and make your final decisions.

 Once we began planning we decided to book the big ticket items first and within a two-three month span so basically by the time we were engaged  for 4 months we had the venue, photographer/cinematographer, florist, music band, and invitations booked/ordered.  I waited until the 1 year mark to begin shopping for a gown and recently ordered my gown earlier this month. My fiancé also just ordered a custom tuxedo. I just ordered my Save the Dates and will be sending them out mid-January. Everything else will fall into place.  

Just get organized and definitely check out wedding blogs/sites! There are so many awesome ideas all over the Internet!

Post # 6
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

our wedding date is 1.5 years away from our enagement date. We picked the big things first, venue, caterer, photographer & DJ. Then we didn’t do anything for a bit, now it’s 9 months away and things are starting to pick back up. 

Post # 7
1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Start looking for venues right away!  We got engaged August 31st, and the earliest we could get married was May 2014! 

I also picked out my dress right away, but that’s mostly because it was really fun!

Post # 8
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re having an 18 month engagement. It goes by fast, so I decided to knock out everything I could as soon as I could. We’d already been planning when he proposed, so it was easy to go through my Pinterest board and find a pattern, remove the outliers, and separate them into specific boards. We got verrrry lucky in that I had already found a great photographer, who we booked within two months of getting engaged, found a reception venue that was awesome and got that booked, found my dress the first place we went, and everything else just sort of fell into place after that. I had everything booked a year out from our date. I sent our Save-The-Date Cards out 11 months out (we have like 85% out of town guests), and now I’m just working on the DIY projects that need to get done.

Post # 10
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KingsDaughter:  My fiance got her tuxedo from Kleinfeld (same place where I got my gown).  Most people I talk with have no idea that Kleinfeld has an amazing tuxedo shop where they make custom tuxedos, suits and even the accessories (vest, cummerbund, tie, bowtie).  What is really awesome is that they have samples of different style jackets to try and books of fabrics to choose from.  They can do anything!  I even saw a gorgeous blinged out tie that they were showcasing for NYE!  They have a pretty fast turn around as well.  I believe they said it takes about 4 months to make the tuxedo.  

Post # 11
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

Congratulations on your engagement!

First of all, 1 1/2 years is NOT really that much time to plan…

We wil have been engaged for nearly 3 years by the time our wedding happens but we really got the ball rolling about 2 years in advance. We came up with a budget and decided how much money we wanted to allocate to venue, food, deco, clothes, rings, flowers etc. 

We picked a date, and then started looking at venues at the 2 year pre-wedding date mark.  We saw about 5 or 6 of them, and booked the one we wanted a year and a half before.   We wanted to make REALLY sure we’d get the date we wanted and the place we wanted.   Then I started looking at dresses, I came to my final decision and ordered my dress about a month ago, so 10 months before the wedding.   Some dresses take many many months to come in, so you have to leave enough time for alterations and everything.   Then we booked the photographer, 1 year in advance.  Again, we REALLY wanted THEM to do it, so we had to make super sure to book well in advance.   For me, those were the big ticket items.  My venue supplies the food so I didn’t have to worry about catering or anything, but it you do, I would start looking into that too soon.


Post # 12
1113 posts
Bumble bee

Right now, just enjoy being engaged. Just breathe. You have plenty of time. πŸ™‚

My FH’s sister was engaged for about 18 months, too. She just relaxed and enjoyed her fiance for a few months, then started to “brainstorm” and get inspiration about the wedding.

The first things you need to figure out are your locations and your photographer. These are the things that people book way ahead of time. But don’t feel pressured! Take your time choosing. I JUST booked my venue and photographer and my wedding is in 4 months. 

After the photographer and the venue, find a dress!!! That is what I’m stressing about right now. With only 4 months, I HAVE to buy off the rack. But you will have plenty of time for whatever kind of dress you want. πŸ™‚


Good luck and congrats! And yes, Weddingbee is amazing! It’s the only website you’ll need. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

1 1/2 isnt really half aslong as it seems. I got engaged Feb of 2012 and are having a 16 month engagement…. Now I’m only 5 months away – trust me time FLIES! Plan early! The mindset “i have plenty of time” will come back and bite you in the butt.

Post # 14
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Set a budget and estimate the ballpark number of guests.  This will guide the rest of your planning.  18 months is a wonderful amount of time to plan, as you have the luxury of time to shop around, compare options, and take mini breaks from planning if you so desire.  Depending on your location, venues for July 2014 may get booked rapidly, and it would not be unreasonable to book 15+ months in advance.  If you are eager to make big decisions soon, I suggest locking in the “big” expenses/components first — venue, caterer, photographer, possibly your dress.  Resist the initial urge to make financial decisions about decor or attire details, as your ideas may evolve closer to the wedding date and uptimately waste money.  (It adds up FAST.)  Happy planning!

Post # 15
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I got engaged in September so we also have a 22 month engagement. Fiance and I really havent started planning because its just too early for us to know anything financially or book any vendors. But some things we have gotten started on are the general wedding colors, the wedding date and our budget. To pass the time until we can officially start planning I’ve been on Pinterest which is a great site to brainstorm ideas and get inspired for weddings. Our first thing we plan to do in February when we’ll know our final budget limit (16 months before we get hitched) is create a guest list and contact photographers and venue sites. 
 It sounds like you still have some extra time to get organized, but don’t wait until later than a year before your wedding to book your most important vendors.

Good luck in your planning endeavors and congrats on your engagement! 

Post # 16
2171 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was engaged late Nov. 2010 and Married July 7, 2012, so similar timeline to you. The good thing about having a longer engagement is that hopefully you can reserve all the vendors your little heart desires before other brides, so you’ll get your favorites and top picks in all categories!  If you havn’t done any research into vendors take this month to do that so you know exactly what you want. Top priorities: date, ceremony location, officiant, reception location, photographer. Then music, transportation, dress, decorations, florals, videographer if you want one, cake, bridemaid dresses, STDs/invites. Oh, and enter all contests you can (as long as they aren’t a hoax). You never know when you might win something. I won all 5 of my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for free from a contest Allure Bridals put on. And have fun, you only get to plan this once. πŸ™‚

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