- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
For months I felt depressed, not being engaged but FEELING engaged. I sincerely just felt so helpless! I finally took a deep breath, and concentrated on the things I wanted and needed for myself. I became more comfortable with my relationship and where it was headed. I was just purely enjoying my man, engaged or not.
Lately, our friends, family, and co-workers have all been calling my SO “your husband” and me “his wife.” We entertained that idea for a good laugh tonight, and somehow it turned into me asking why he was okay with me calling him my fiance if there wasn’t a ring on my finger. Apparently I had been misunderstanding, and flat out told me he loved me more than anything and told me he knows a ring doesn’t mean much to me — it’s just an outward symbol of love. He discussed how when both parties agree to marriage, then they are considered engaged. He told me that his tokens of love were going to work for 12 hours a day to make money to buy me a house (WE’RE SO CLOSE!) and pay for our wedding, which he expects to be no longer than a year away. With that being said, we mutually agreed that engagement without a ring was perfect for us, and then purchasing a ring for the wedding since it was more practical.
My engagement wasn’t gushy or emotional, but it was so practical and made my heart soar nevertheless. I’m glad him and I both found a compromise, me to get a more practical engagement, and for him to go all out on a ring for the wedding. I couldn’t be happier! :>