(Closed) I’m engaged– now what??

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You don’t need to hire a planner or coordinator if you don’t want to. Save-the-dates are a good idea, especially if you have Out of Town guests. You could start planning now if you wanted to. You might want to start scoping out venues, but first, before you spend any money, figure out what’s important to you and FH and what’s not so important. That will determine your spending.

Also, 5k is totally realistic. We’re doing EVERYTHING (including rings and attire) for $3k.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First thing you must do is find a venue. I booked mine almost a year in advance. Second I’d go ahead and book a photographer and officiant. These are usually the most expensive pieces of a wedding but they are also the most important. As for save the dates, I didn’t do them. Invitations will suffice.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Hi and congrats!!

Fiance and I are both full time students so I tried to get as much done as possible this summer.  We are marrying spring break 2011!

I am using weddingwire’s online planning and budget tools.  I’m sure others will recommend other sites or programs but this one is free and has suited me just fine.  It also includes month by month “to do” checklists.

I don’t think you need a coordinator.

I think your budget is do-able.  We started out with a similar budget.  We’ve expanded it a bit, up to around $7000 but we are marrying out of state so that figure includes rount trip airfare for Fiance and I and our 3 kids, plus lodging for a week in Iowa (we live in Texas), plus a minivan rental.  So yeah, $5000 can be done!

I started first with the guest list,  budget (entering all the various figures into the online tool helped me a lot), finding a venue for ceremony and reception, then the dress search.  The dress search was the biggest headache for me by far.   I would HIGHLY recommend narrowing down what you want, going to try it on in person, then searching ebay and/or the used wedding dress sites to save a bundle.  I got my dress (with shipping, veil, and crinoline) new with tags for $106 on ebay.

I don’t think you need save the dates unless you will have a lot of out of town guests.  Since we are marrying out of state, all but about 5 of our guests are also out of state so I did the STD thing but I let go of my need to be super creative to just get them done.  I used printable boxed ones I found at a thrift store for $4.00 and printed them at home.

I have also bought printable invites from wal-mart for $1.00 a box on clearance (no kidding!!), 50 in a box, and I bought 2 boxes.  We have a small guest list but I wanted the extras for practice.

I can give you a ton of tips (and you can find a ton here) on saving money.  If you’re okay with second hand things, for example, we have purchased FI’s entire outfit at thrift stores, some never used boxed champagne toasting flutes at a thrift store for $2, our daughter’s flower girl basket at a thrift store for $2, 2 veils (one to maybe wear, one for the fabric) at a thrift for $5.. you get the idea. It just takes some searching. 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are getting married in May and I too find myself wondering what should be getting done at what point.

I think that depending on where you live 5K will be a difficult budget to stay under but still do-able. Although I thought we could do for around that price but the venue we wanted wouldn’t even rent the room without a minimum of 5K for food and drinks and that was for a Friday night, Saturday the minimum was 12K. I would try to book your wedding on a Friday or Sunday, tons of places offer discounts for then, photographers and DJ’s too. I’m not trying to discourage you because I’m sure it is possible, you just have to be good at cutting costs in all areas! Good luck!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

How many guests are you going to have? If you have too many people, having a $5k wedding will be very difficult. If you are able to have a smaller guestlist, it will be much more do-able.

As for a wedding planner– since you’re on a budget, I would forego that. Plenty of women plan their own weddings, including myself, without wedding planners. You could get a day of coordinator (DOC) to make sure things run smoothly on the day of if you want.

Things you should be doing right now: set a guestlist with and start looking at venues for the ceremony/ reception. Some places have minimums, so see which minimums you’ll be able to meet. Once you chose a venue and set a date, you can start dealing with all the other details. Also, Saturday evening weddings tend to be more expensive, so if you could do a Sunday afternoon or Friday evening, you’ll more than likely save a good amount of money.

I planned on DIYing my flowers, but I got a really good quote from a great florist and am doing minimal flowers, so I don’t have to DIY my flowers anymore. So don’t be embarrassed to tell people that you’re on a budget– they may cut their costs because they want your business.

Also, check out 123print.com– they have decently priced wedding invitations, RSVP cards, STD’s, Thank You cards, etc. You don’t have to spend a fortune to get nice invites. As for Save The Dates, I think STD’s are nice for out of town guests. I think my Save-The-Date Cards cost me $10 for 50, so I’m sending them to all my guests. (OH, and I got free shipping from 123print.com and it saved me $35!!)

Having a wedding on a budget is definitely attainable. Good luck.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congrats! My husband and I were married this last May, and a year ago were right in your shoes. We pulled off an awesome wedding for about 4k for 90 people (120 invited).

You definitely do not need a wedding coordinator unless you want to get one. I ended up hiring a day of coordinator for $200 bucks (a friend of a friend) and it was worth it, since we had a lot of DIY and partially catered our own wedding. She took care of everything the day of, so my family and i could relax.

I would only do save the dates if you are super crafty and already have lots of crafting supplies (crafting is super expensive when you don’t already have the stuff!), or if you have a lot of guests from out of town and want to make sure they save the date. We skipped them. Instead we did a wedding website and emailed the link to everyone. Not as posh a presentation, but it was effective and free.

I’d make sure you have the venue nailed down. Then start looking at food, photography, DJ.

I used theknot.com for their timeline/checklist. There was a ton if stuff on it that we didn’t need, but it had a good timeline for the important stuff and kept us on target.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It probably will mean that fewer people will attend. I went to Bandon earlier this year and I loved that town. FH’s family bought his father a memorial brick on the boardwalk there.

That’s a great deal for a venue! Looks like you’re on the right track.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I also have a couple of friends who lived recently in Corvallis. Small world! 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I used theknot.com and my mom had also bought me The knot’s book of wedding lists.  It helped a lot!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Yes, less people will attend.  That’s been a hard thing for me.  As it is, Fiance and I are not super social so our MAX guest list is 49 people.  That is everyone we know and their children… and that includes family!  I keep reminding myself that we will probably end up with a max of 25 or 30 people because it involves lots of travel for everyone and I just have to be okay with that.

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