(Closed) Im ENGAGED!!! So happy, but some people's reactions are bothering me…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

CONGRATS! ๐Ÿ™‚ What a cute story, sweet man, and beautiful ring! Wow!

This is one of the best times of your life- enjoy it! This is you and FI’s time, nobody else’s, so don’t let them bring you down! Frankly, even if you were high school sweethearts/pregnant/young/whatever, it is none of their business. I understand it’s so frustrating that people are reacting poorly, but that is their own personal problems and does not reflect on you in any way. So keep on being excited to tell people-tell the world!- but I would just completely ignore any inappropriate responses. When they say it, completely brush it off and continue to act as though they’re nothing but happy for you. Maybe your joy will rub off on them. But regardless, you don’t need to explain yourself or your engagement. 

Happy wedding planning! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Congrats!  Thats just the way it goes for a younger engaged couple. Most people’s minds just seem to go back to when they were 21 and know how much they changed as they got older and how glad they are they didn’t get married to the person they were with when they were that age. It sounds like you and your Fiance are mature and have your lives together so just shake off the comments and enjoy this time! I wish you all the best and just don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Firstly, congratulations! Secondly – I was the same age as you when my SO proposed – and he was a year younger than you fiancé. The only two questions you need to ask yourself is does he make you happy & do you love him? Other people will come around & at the end of the day it’s YOUR life! Congrats!!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

STUNNING!!! And one of the sweetest proposals I have ever heard. CONGRATS!!!!

I was pregnant with my second child at 21 and engaged at the time. The engagement didnt work out but starting my life with my two kids that early was a struggle but the best thing that happened to me.

I am currently 41 with a full time government job, a wonderful husband of almost 15 years and the most beautiful 11mth old granddaughter to ever walk this planet.

Truly blessed and it all started for me when I was 19…dont let anyone ruin this beautiful time in your life. You deserve to be happy no matter what your age. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Beautiful ring! Congrats lady and have fun with planning!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@pferr4:  Congrats! Beautiful ring, don’t let anyone get you down. This is the time to relish in being blissfully happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@pferr4:  I got similar reactions, since I got engaged only at 22 but on the other side people couldn’t bitch too much since my fiance is 11 years older than me so it made sense. Some people do say “it is his time but you are too young.” However when you know you know, plus I’ve always known I will marry someone much older. I don’t care what people say and you shouldn’t either. In fact, the less you tell them, the better because people are jelaous and their negative energy only brings bad things. I keep my happiness to myself and don’t feel the need to share it with jelaous people. Eventually everyone gets over it and they find someone else to be jelaous about.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s just lovely. It sounds like jealousy on their part. Soak in the joy of this experience, and just be happy! Those people shouldn’t really matter to you anyways. Congratulations! 

Post # 14
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4948 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Congrats! He sounds like a sweetheart!

As for people’s comments, I’m sure they are just remembering when they were 21 and realize how much people change from that age. For example, I got married when I was 22 (just days shy of 23) and while it did last for 16 years, things changed A LOT. He changed a lot. I guess I did too in that what I was willing to accept back then I no longer am. That being said, only you know what is right for you. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, you’re almost done with school. So enjoy your engagement and don’t let anyone bring you down!  ๐Ÿ™‚ Congrats again!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

that is sooo sweet. i know that it’s easier said than done, but you just have to not let those people bother you. People are going to make judgements on any situation. For example, my husband and I dated for 9 months before he proposed. Plenty of people were all judgy about us not being together long enough, blah blah blah, so annoying. But it was right for us. People have ideas about what is right and what works and they project them onto others like a bunch of a holes. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. If the timing is right for you, that is all that matters. I would get really annoyed at people who made assumptions about my reasons…. I wasn’t aware that you HAD to be pregnant in order to get married at 21…. so dumb.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Congratulations!

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