(Closed) I’m engaged..but bummed about the proposal :/

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

you feelings are legit but your thoughts are overreacting.  Think deeper about the meaning of marriage.  It’s shallow to get too disappointed over where/how he proposed.  The message is more important.  

Post # 4
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

you feelings are legit but your thoughts are overreacting.  Think deeper about the meaning of marriage.  It’s shallow to get too disappointed over where/how he proposed.  The message is more important.  

Post # 5
11390 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I know alot of people get their hopes up wanting some amazing/off the wall proposol. But he asked you to marry him girl you should be bouncing off the roof tops! lol If its the story you want to tell, then tell them the truth. Your hunny wisked you away to las vegas for a weekend getaway & asked you there! I think that sounds amazing & its true!

Edit: & If they ask where/when say in your grand hotel room, on one knee!

Post # 6
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We have basically the same exact proposal story! We were in Vegas, and he had brought the ring with him, and decided he’d find some romantic time while there to propose. Throughout the week, all of his plans ended up getting ruined- he wanted to do it on the gondola boats- but then realized they run through the mall- and he didn’t think it would be romantic to propose in the mall. Then we were going to make reservations to eat at the restaurant at the top of the Eiifel Tower in the Paris hotel… but their available times conflicted with a show we were going to, and then he was just going to do it while we were out at a fancy dinner- but when he put the ring box in his pants pocket, it made it too bulgy- and he knew I would know what was going on.

So he proposed in the hotel room, mere moments after I had just left the bathroom from washing my face of makeup. Oddly enough- he surprised me more there than anywhere else- as I had a feeling he’d propose over the vacation- and I had expected it everytime we went to dinner, etc… but definitely didn’t expect it at the hotel room.

I think it’s okay to feel initially disappointed, but I think you need to remember that he tried to come up with a different plan (the helicopter ride), and that just didn’t work out for reasons beyond his control. Just feel happy that he wanted to propose to you so badly that he didn’t keep putting it off just in order to come up with some other grand plan.

And to be COMPLETELY honest, there might be… 5 people that really ask HOW he proposed. The overwhelming amount of my conversations went, “Hey, I got engaged in Vegas!” and they said, “Congratulations!” Not many people ask how it happened, so please don’t worry about not having some movie-making proposal story to tell.

Post # 7
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just focus on the awesome part- you get to marry him! Sometimes proposals are not story book, but they are special in their own right. He wanted to marry you so bad, he could not wait to plan out another proposal!

Post # 8
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

 I sound like such a b*tch or snobby

What you said.

Post # 9
595 posts
Busy bee

He said his other plans weren’t working out, so he WAS trying to plan something big/creative. I’m sure he wanted to do something better, but you were on a weekend getaway in Vegas and he proposed! That’s amazing in itself no matter how he did it!! Don’t over analyze it, you are engaged and that is what matters. Chin up, and post ring pics!! 🙂 

Post # 10
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you need to look at the bigger picture.

I am not saying that your feelings are invalid, rather that you need to accept it for what it was and move on. 

I truly don’t get why people build up this proposal thing- a guy loves you and asks you to be his wife- what could be more romantic than that? It does not need props or dramatic scenery to be special- it just IS, you know?


Post # 11
42 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

it’s really not a big deal. The important part is that he asked you. If your focus was on having a huge production around your engagment, my question is whats the real meaning behind you wanting to get engaged. You can always have a big gathering and make a huge announcement about being engaged to your friends and family.

Post # 12
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I actually think that’s a really cute proposal story!  He had all these grand plans, they kept falling apart, and he felt like all he wanted was to be engaged to you, and that that mattered more than any helicopter view of a sunset.  I think that captures the true meaning of a proposal!  And when you retell the story, it’s not like he sounds like a slacker, because he did try to do all this stuff, it just sounds like he’s sweet and his heart is in the right place.  I would like that proposal more than the other ones he suggested.

And btw, if you said you wanted a simple proposal, then you really can’t fault him for giving you one.  I told my Darling Husband the same thing, and he proposed in our kitchen before we went out to an anniversary dinner.  I thought it was perfect, because I wanted to be alone where we could just share this moment together, and then go out and tell the world (instead of it happening in front of people).

I would just take a minute to think about it, and don’t worry about what other people will think of the story.  I think everyone will be touched by the version of events you shared with us.

Post # 13
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Our proposals are very similar, except I didn’t give one flying flip about where or how he did it. I just wanted it DONE! He did know I preferred that we were alone, because I didn’t want all sorts of fanfare and people around for what I believe should be a private moment. But I wouldn’t have been mad or upset or or bummed if he did it at a televised sports game (the exact opposite of private), I would’ve just said yes and been happy that we were moving forward with our commitment. So ours was very “us”. And even if yours wasn’t very “you”, you now have a wedding to plan, and it’s the thought that counts.

Post # 15
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My proposal happened similiarly. Big plans, didn’t work… then one day, he had a terrible, terrible day, came home to me while I was doing the dishes… literally putting them in the dishwasher, and bam- he was there on one knee saying he didn’t want to wait any longer because coming home to is the best part of each day and he wants that always… so, I like to think, while it was in front of our dishwasher, he was going to explode from love for me and really couldn’t wait any longer. That makes me feel happy. Know the important part is he loves you and wants to marry you that much.

Post # 16
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You really need to let it go, especially since you told him you didn’t need anything special. Try to think of it in this way – he just couldn’t wait any longer to ask you because he cares for you so much. 

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