Post # 1
OMG I’m beyond happy…I got engaged yesterday morning. But I’m feeling already anxious and overwhelmed!!! I been with my Fiance for 8 years and we are planning getting married on our 9th year anniversary…which is 7 months away!! Originally he wanted in 3 months. But I was like no that’s way too soon. So today for the first time I went to see a venue because everyone is telling me to start planning a wedding takes time. We are both not traditional at all. I know bits and pieces of what I want but this planning overload is really freaking me out. I have no idea how to tell everyone that I want to enjoy been engaged for the next two months and start planning 5 months prior….please help!!! My parents want a very traditional wedding where I’m wearing a cupcake dress and have a super bright and big venue. What can I do to calm my nerves and how do I tell them what I want since they will be paying for my wedding.
Post # 3
First off, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
I know you are super excited and you erally want to enjoy some time without all the wedding fuss, but my advice is to start planning now! Especially with only 7 months. I waited last minute for some things, and it was VERY hectic towards the end.
If you start planning now, you will be able to have some more time closer to the wedding. I would start with the biggest elements first : Ceremony site, reception site, theme or colors (once you choose venues), dress (especailly for alterations!!!), attire for wedding party (again, you need time for alterations!), and make appointments to meet with a DJ, baker and florist. I waited until the last minute for a cake baker and it was pretty stressful.
Also, buy a calendar and mark it with EVERYTHING you need to do for the wedding. It will help TONS 🙂
Post # 4
@butterfly1988: Congratulations!! Are you doing everything on your own or do you want to hire a wedding planner? If you are doing it by yourself, then the first advise I’ll give you is to start delegating. Find out who all from your and FI’s family are willing participate in the wedding preparation. Then assign roles according to their liking and expertise. Be in charge of the central planning (theme, venue, music, color etc) while having others sweat the small stuff (or accompany you to the florist, dressmaker etc). If you are taking you mom or best friend for the dress trial or the caterer then inform them of the date beforehand so they can be free for you. Keep a planner and note down every detail and involve as many reliable hands as you can get. All the best!
Post # 5
Congratulations! Welcome to the bee. My only advice is to take it one step at a time.
Post # 6
Ladies thank you so much for the advice! It is pretty overwhelming trying to figure everything out. I’m still very excited and in shock that I will get married next year. I think I have an idea of what I want but the more I plan the more I just want to go to citi hall. Something intimate and private but I have friends and family that would love to see us both get married. Anyone on here felt like eloping? O and also the fact the my future in mother in law is not 100% on board makes me anxious and sad. I feel like this is also taking all the fun and excitement of planning my wedding. Any advice would help! Thank you 🙂