Post # 47
@LilacandRoses: My ex showed up at my house after a year and a half of not talking to him (now two sumers ago) and I about crapped my pants. I wasn’t dating anyone or anything, but it instantly freaked me out and pissed me off. I told him I wasn’t living with my parents anymore but only doing laundry (lie!! but I had to do it) there and then going home…and I told him I didn’t get his FB messages and/or texts that he sent in the past which made him think I changed my number (hahahahaha). I think he was probably slightly drunk or something, I don’t know. If I would have been dating my SO, I’m sure he would have wanted to say some words to him. Anyway, enough of that. I am sure I could write a damn book with stuff that happened and went on. Haha.
She loves married life. They bought a house a couple months before they got married, so it wasn’t too huge of a change by the time their wedding was! She got married the end of October…and found out she was pregnant shortly after.
I’m so glad his step-dad is in his life and thankful for the people who have been involved in his life to make him the person he is today! 🙂
We actually have a wood house, with a spear fishing hole to look down…and then we have one with a tent-like thing over it, but we don’t use that often. It’s usually nice enough weather to sit on a bucket or small chair in winter clothing and thick jackets, etc. I have tried spear fishing but I don’t like it because you sit and stare down a hole and wait for a fish to hopefully come in, and then throw a spear (looks like a pitchfork kinda) and try to stab it….very boring while waiting because you have to be quiet and sit basically by yourself since the noise vibrations can go through the water and scare the fish. I don’t mind fishing with a rod though because then I’m not staring down a huge hole and don’t have to worry about letting the fish get close — we can talk and laugh and run around and do whateve.
Hahahhaha that’s hilarious! I love that he probably was shocked to hear you say something along the lines of whatever he wanted to tell you. That is so sweet – I’m glad he told you almost everything even though you told him it was okay if he didn’t. I would have been impressed with his conversation with your dad if I were you too. I love how your dad gave him approval, as well as not having to propose by November too. Eek! It will happen sooner than you think as well! Just try to keep the pressure off and by the sounds of it, you can get him to do what you want him to do 🙂 Hehehehehehhehe ohhhhh how easy it is to figure out some aspects of a man’s mind and play into it. Eee!
Post # 48
@NicoleLyn1218: Yes I agree me and you could write a damn book about our experiences just saying! LOL yeah enough of that crap ugh at least we finally are at the light of the tunnel!! 🙂 Cheers to both of us!
Awww so glad and see they lived together before I love this! I hearing that I think its totally cool to live with eachother before you marry no matter what the couple decideds its worked for you guys and I know I could do it to. Yay for her! 🙂 So happy for their new baby too!!
Your SO gives me hope in my son. Luckily my son has had my Dad my brother and my best friend’s husbands etc to be a great influence on him. So Yay cheers!
I will have to ask my love about spear fishing!! Interesting. Have you ever gone fly fishing? I remember watching the movie A River Runs Through It with Brad Pitt back in the day and they were wearing hip waders and doing fly fishing. My SO does all kinds and so I’m looking forward to us doing some kind of fishing while we are are in Candad next weekend 🙂 So neat you know how to!! My Dad used to take me and my brother and sister fishing back in the day. I still belive some fish might like cheese 🙂
Muahhhh I know! All he needed to hear was “hey no pressure no need to marry or engage her by Nov” LOL you see then he thinks “I’m in control yes my idea” and well as you say I think it will happen sooner than I think I mean his sister and my mom and all my Besties are in my corner hahaha!! From the sounds of it do you think he will ask sooner than later? I know I asked you already lol geez Okay yes I will keep pressure off for sure 🙂
EEEK!!! I’m so glad we are going through this together!!!
Post # 49
@LilacandRoses: heck yeah! I can totally vouch that living together before marriage is good and ok….you get to know someone on a different level that you need. I live with my boyfriend and it was a little weird at first since I was living with my parents before, but it has been great. We work opposite shifts sometimes….so at times when I have to work nights it sucks but it’s ok. I love being able to fall asleep next to him at night when I’m not working. I also love the time I get to myself when he’s at work too. we are very open with each other with finances and when something is wrong, etc so it works great.
The fact that your son has had other male influences on his life definitly helps but he will be just fine 🙂 no worries. Im sure your SO and your son already have a bond that is great, so I wouldn’t be concerned.
I don’t really like to spear fish but I don’t mind other fishing…..my sisters and I always went with my dad, uncles eIssas well as hunting (I’ve deer singed since I was 13….so 10 years) so it is something I enjoy, although I would much rather catch a tan while sitting on the boat lol. I have never been fly fishing but I would be curious to try it somEday! I hope you guys can go fishing while you are in Canada. Lol my younger sister and I used to cut up hot dogs and put them on our lines, or throw the cheesy goldfish crackers in the lake and scoop up the fish because we didn’t like touching them. eww!!
I think yours will be sooner rather than later….maybe he has a ring already 😉 you never know!!!
im glad we are going through it together too!
Post # 50
@NicoleLyn1218: Ok totally awesome that you have that perspective! I know growing up in a religous upbringing, Mormon ( i’m more on the libeal side ) we were taught that living together ( amongst other things) before marriage was not good because it would lead to Pre-M Sex. I have a way different view point on that all together. I don’t think it matters whether you choose to do it before or after its a personal choice and if you find someone you are in love with who loves you well more power to you. I don’t believe it changes the way God would view you or whatever anyone believes in. Its a personal choice. So for me I love hearing what you said complety agree 110%!! Refreshing to be honest! I can’t wait I don’t care if we are engaged already or not. The fact that we will be doing it and that we have dicussed ahead of time our future is what counts. I’m glad you guys have that and I look forward to soon having that too! I bet its nice to have him to come home to and sleep next to!! Sigh so cool!!
Yeah its really awesome how like the first ever weekend my son ( who was 4 and a half at the time) met my SO, he was instantly attched climbing on him, patting him on the back (EEEK I thought) but my SO was like “Its okay baby he’s not bothering me he’s fine ” I remember as we were walking to his car my son held his hand and my SO just took him hand and seeing that I knew. Actually I knew the next morning when my son climbed into bed with us and woke us up how I could live like this forever. 🙂
I hear you on the tan business! I need one! I used to be so much darker when I was a kid because I was always out in the sun!! I’m originally from El Salvador but I have now more the pale Olive tone which is fine lol. I use self-tanners sometimes which helps add a glow 😉 Oh and Bronzer!
HAHAHA yeah Ewww to touching fishies lol. Hmmm goldfish I will have to try that! I think we will try to fish for sure if we can! Also I want to see a Beaver pond or area where my SO lives ( 15 min from his house). I love Beavers and how they work and their lifestyle really interesting stuff ( since meeting my Canadian lover) go figure. He admires them cause of their hard working effort! Non-stop hard work! 🙂
Hmmm we’ll see for sure I mean I am looking forward to the road trip this coming week ( which I will update you on while i’m there hehehehe he goes to bed early sometimes but will be curled next to me but eeek if I can I’ll update you 😉 My bro thinks for him to take us all the way there and to speak to my Dad this week might be a possibility but I’m thinking not yet.
EEEK! So what do have you planned for the weekend? Anything fun or just chilling with your man? Which Umm yeah by default is fun!
Cheers and talk soon!
Post # 51
@LilacandRoses: I was raised catholic and they think the same way – that you shouldn’t live together before marriage, along with the fact that you shouldn’t have premarital sex. The thing is, times have changed. I’m not saying that to be difficult or anything, but it’s true. If some people still want to continue believing that and following through, that is their choice and perfectly fine….but I’m all for living together and getting to know someone on a different level. Living together and truely knowing someone’s flaws and habits is much different than staying a weekend with each other. We did that all the time and it is/was still way different living together. I’ve gotten used to his many habits that sometimes bug me, as has he. We have discussed so much of our future together, and have done that since before we moved in together….which is alright with me!
Okay to be honest – I got tears in my eyes reading that about your son and SO. It reminds me of how I was with ex’s daughter to some extent…and it’s adorable. I love seeing that. One of my favorite things is seeing a guy interact with a child. It melts my heart every time. I love seeing my SO interact with his godson….it makes me know that he will be a good father.
I have an olive tone to my skin as well, but with it not being sunny out much (and working nights and sleeping most of the time when it is nice out…bummer!) I haven’t been able to get much of a tan yet…..I’m sure I will though! I haven’t used any self tanners though – what kind(s) do you use, and what do you recommend?
If you have time and SO isn’t hovering or something…go ahead and update me. I hope it happens during this roadtrip!!!!! That would be so fun.
I work nights this whole weekend, so not much planned. SO and his friend went fishing and whatnot today, and hung out at our house last night…..while I was at work and sleeping. Today SO and I are going to go out to dinner (hopefully he gets home soon from dropping his buddy off, cuz I haven’t ate since like 3a at work!), and then I have to work. I think tomorrow while I am sleeping, he is going to go over to his mom’s and help her with some landscaping things. I’m not positive 🙂 What did/are you guys doing this weekend???
Post # 52
@NicoleLyn1218: AMEN! To how you understand the religon thing and how you feel about it today. I agree times have changed and well like you I agree, to know a person is to live with them and hello not base it on weekend visits! So I am all for living together and I love how you guys see it can work and I think as long as your have a future set like you know you and your SO are on the same page and that it will indefinently lead to marriage, as much as a commitment what’s the big deal? If anything it gets you more prepared so the first year is not so trying on little things such as those annoying little habits cause the bigger issues that may come I think become more manageable as your foundation of communication has already been set. If that makes sense lol So cheers to you guys!!
Awww yeah I tend to cry to think Its really happening to me. I mean I did not know 5 and a half years ago that I would truly find this kind of man. I at some point right before I met my SO that I would have to end up settling. I can’t explain it but wow I thank God every day not just for my SO but for my son. He is my little man, my blessing and my everytihng. You will see too one day it really is something remarkable and something so special I tear up as of now writing this. Your SO is going to be an amazing Father and I can tell he’s already a reallly really great one of kind guy. I couldn’t be happier for you both. You will be an amazing mother as well I can tell. The love you have already shown towards your ex’s daughter and neice, you will carry through to your own children.
Oh neat you a have the Olive complextion thing going on too! Well I don’t always use self tanner everyay because some of the stuff I have used tends to rub off. However I loved this one by Lorac that Sephora used to carry however they stopped selling it! I will look online and see if I can find one and if I can I will tell you. Also I have used some stuff by Sephora I will use Laura Mercier body bronze make up. That works okay. I’ve been wanting to try Jergens spray on tanner that you can get at the drugstores. I will see if that can at least be something for everyday. I’m about to venture on this road trip so I want something I can use that won’t so much high maitenance or a mess lol.
LOL trust me I’ll be able to write you I will take my own laptop! I don’t my SO seeing this website on his hahaha! So yes I will update you while on my trip! I hope it would happen too! However it seems too predicable I mean my SO is picky about finding the perfect ring so at least I can tell you about our ring shopping experience !! hahaha!
How was work for you this weekend? Lets see Friday I skyped with my love as our Hockey team lost major, very brutal that sucked but at least we are okay lol. Sat I was lazy in the morning and my son and I just relaxed. I went to the salon and got my nails and toes done ( Wed is the full waxing!! yay!!) My son went on a long hike with my Bestie husband so that tired him out. Then that night we went to see my mom’s final dance recital. She is retiring this year and well it was bitter sweet to see this. She’s done dance and choregoraphy her whole life. Always a passion to her so it was nice to see her last production as a dance teacher. Today I am going to church for my Dad. Since my son and I will be in Canada for Father’s day I said I would go this weekend for him. So that starts at 1-4!! I plan to at least go for the 2 hours since the first hour my son probably won’t last. I hope you got to eat a yummy dinner with your SO! Did you guys get to do that? How is it working nights? I bet you get tired but at least you get to nap nice 😉
YAY!! I really like keeping in touch like this! I feel I found a friend now and this is cool so can’t wait to hear from you again ( I’m a cheeseball at heart so I apologize for the extra cheese!)
Cheers and talk soon!
Post # 53
@LilacandRoses: Exactly! It gets all the wrinkles out and whatnot BEFORE the wedding 🙂 It makes complete sense to me!
I’m so glad you found that man to be a father to your little one. It is so amazing that he has taken him in as his own and you guys will be a great family, and make siblings for him 🙂 If you would have asked me two years ago even if I would have been in the place I am now, I would have told you that you were completely nuts.
My mom used Jergens lotion kind and she liked it. I could tell in her legs but you had to do it for a little while before you would notice a difference, so it isn’t an instantanious type of thing. Sometimes that is what I would like….not something that would take a week or something to even make a lttle difference. Ya know? If you find something that you end up liking, let me know!!…not that I’m pale by any means right now, but I feel like I am. The sun hasn’t been out much 🙁
Hahahhahahahahh SO doesn’t know I have this website either! lol. He knows I found information on the moissanite stone on here, but we ended up not going with that anyways because the stone was too warm and they weren’t making the amora stone yet. But anyways. Haha I’m excited to get updates from you along the way!
My weekend was busy….Friday it seemed like people didn’t sleep that much, but last night was better. We made a pot roast today with potatoes, green peppers and carrots in the crock pot…haven’t ate yet but it smells AMAZING! I’m so excited. We do usually eat dinner together. Working nights is fine, I’m used to it….some days though it is hard to sleep and then I drink a lot of coffee to keep me going 🙂 But that’s okay once in a while. Ahhhh getting nails and toes done is so relaxing – I’m getting a pedicure with a friend this week on Friday….and probably nails done next week or so. I loveee it. It makes me feel like a girly girl. Oh wow, that’s awesome….that’s a long time to do that kind of a career and I’m sure she is very proud of her productions along the way. I could never do that stuff, but for those who can- that’s awesome!
I like this as well….I love talking and gtting to know someone is in the same boat as me, as well as so nice and similar! 🙂
Post # 54
@NicoleLyn1218: Hey I dont’ blame you even 2 years ago I would have told myself I would be nuts to think I could find someone legit and genuine enough to take us on as a family and have it end up the way it has. Sometimes I have to pinch myself to check that this is not a dream but a true reality. 🙂 I can’t wait to have a baby with my SO I mean I can wait but I am looking foward to when we are ready to try and to see a part of him and me combined. Its funny I see that in my son already with my SO so yay!
Yeah I’ve heard that Jergens takes a bit to get a noticable difference. I think I saw a spray on mouse that they have and I might want to try that. The problem with some of the self tanners I do have that I’ve gotten at Sephora they look nice but they can smear and stain. That Lorac one I had mentioned I really liked cause it was a mousse but it also dried quick and never seemed to smudge or stain and i loved it!! Oh well I will keep up the investigation and let you know!
I looked up the moissanite stone, as much as I have reseraching rings I had no idea what this was so I looked it up really pretty! However I bet the one you went with you is really gorgeous too! I know that my SO wants to get me a Canadian Diamond. Geez all I’ve done is look at the kind of cut of a diamond. Princess, Cushion are the two I really like. 🙂 Yuppers I will be sneaking here on my comp each day can hahaha!!That’s funny too about your SO too not knowing lol I mean I’d just get red in the face if he saw lol. I love this site!!!
Yummy about your Pot Roast dinner! I’ve always wanted to use a crockpot but never bought one. Glad work went alright for you too. I was lazy on Sunday. I ended up cleaning up stuff though to get ready for Thursday ( and my SO now has his own key to my place EEEK! So I better make sure I have place neat of course he doesn’t care either way but you know I want to make it tidy this time! lol)
I know what you mean I LOVE when I can get my nails and toes done and especially my eyebrows amongst other fun waxing 😉 I definently feel like a woman and I feel pretty when I can do these things. It was really nice to get them done and Wed I get the waxing done! Hopefully that will not take forever. I need to get my perfume today after work too! I’m a perfume person I always have to have it I feel imcomplete if I don’t lol. However its been a month since I could get one and my samples I used when I run out are finsihed. Do you like perfume too? If so what kind do you like?
It was a great dance night for my mom so I”m one like you I couldn’t do it either but to see what she does or did was amazing 🙂 I tried tap once and ballet when I was younger. I like how we are similar and can relate to one another too so agreed!
Hope you have a great day and talk soon!
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@LilacandRoses: Sorry for not replying yesterday…..I got 8 hours of sleep all weekend and was just exhausted. Then today I was busy with errands and whatnot 🙂 Ugh. Damn cleaning.
I would have to say I agree on the pinching myself part. I sometimes feel the same way. Like you, I cannot wait to make a little “us” …..and for you – a few to add onto your already perfect son/family! 🙂
Definitely if you want immediate results, the Jergen’s isn’t a good choice as it takes a little time but it does work as witnessed on my mom. It looks realistic, but if I want something more instant then I would have to find something else.
I didn’t hear about the moissanite stone until I came on here either. I did get the place we got my ring from to order a forever briliant moissanite and it was a little warm for me. Not as white as I wanted. If I would have been able to get an amora moissanite (not available right now), then I probably would have gone with that. I’m a princess cut girl, so that is what I got….and cut is what matters — it’s everything according to our jeweler 🙂 I feel that I would be embarassed if he saw exactly what this was. He knows that I look at photographer sites and have been messaging people about rates and whatnot…..but this is a different story hahahhaha.
My parents actually got a new one years ago and when we moved out, my mom gave us the one they got as a wedding gift (26 years ago) and it still works perfect. It runs a little more on the hot side, but it works great! I love crock pot dinners!! We usually make chili in there too! Yummmm. I just love how you can leave it for hours and it is fine, and typically done perfect, unless sometimes needs to be turned up a little.
Hahah when I didn’t live with my SO, I cleaned up before he came over as well so I understand! I do like perfume, but I go in spurts of different ones. Currently I love a couple from victoria’s secret, sweet pea, and clinique happy. How about you?? I have never been waxed (and pluck my eyebrows….have for about 10 years), but someday I would love to be waxed…….or have lazer hair removal. I’m getting a pedicure with a girlfriend on Friday, and then probably nails early next week. I’m so excited.
Sorry this is shorter – I had half typed and when my computer shut down I lost it…..and half my thoughts lol. Soooo sorry it isn’t very long!
Can’t wait to hear back from you!
Post # 56
@NicoleLyn1218: Hey there! No worries at all I mean only 8 hours all weekend can and will take its toll..and yeah damn cleaning is right lol. I am trying to get everything prepared for tommorow 🙂
Thank you yes yay a little baby one day would be so wonderful and to give my son a brother or sister ( or both haha) would be awesome 🙂 I can’t wait for you too!
Yeah I’ll be taking a look at some and I will let you know what I come up with in terms of a good self tanner! The hunt is on and if you find anything too let me know and hopefully together we can find a good one 🙂
Yes I so agree about the cut too! That is what matters and how it looks to you! I love Princess cut too so I’m excited to see what the end result will look like yay 🙂 Have you noticed any hints yet as to what is going on? July is right around the corner!
Yay you are a perfume persone too…I love Ralph Lauren Romance, Victoria’s Secret Body by Victoria ( got that years ago I don’t know if they still have that), my new favorite is Jimmy Choo love love love it! Do you like getting french or do you prefer different colors here and there? I always when I can do the French I guess its boring to do it all the time its just what I like I guess lol. I so need my eyebrows waxed that is for sure! I love the other waxing not so painful once you do it more often so I will doing that for sure tonight haha. I want to do the laser thing too!
Very nice of your parents to give you their crockpot! I have got to get one for sure yummy future meals!
Oh please no worries on the length of the letter at all. I know some days get so hectic and stuff such is the fun part of life eh? I guess I must tell you that me and my SO have had a little bit of a conflict the past two days. I hate to admit it too I mean I’m so happy and I love him so much. However the other night I was just a little sad and so in the “emotional section I wrote about it” if you want to take a look you can.
Monday I was just sitting at my job and really wanting to quit ( of course I can’t right if only) and it was one of those days where everything is routine and the customers we have to deal with are ungrateful let alone being in this thankless job with no chance of growth or a raise it starts to get to you sometimes. I realize I don’t have a degree yet but I know I can do so much better. I guess that’s why I’ve trying to think outside the box lately. So I have alot on my plate of various reminders and things to do. My SO texted me after work reminding me about “traveler’s Insurance” so I was like WHAT and i know its silly and shouldn’t have gotten annoyed. Well fast forward I didn’t feel like Skyping only to end up doing it cause well I tend to put my needs last and convince myself its no big deal. Well what started as a little thing turned into another and then there we go stupid argument. Round 2 I didn’t go into work yesterday my son has a little cold and I just didn’t feel like going to work ( I know lame but thats’ the mood around this place with my co workers pretty sad but true). So we Skype again and it starts off fine and we talk positive about the trip and stuff only to once again get into another row or another stupid argument.
Its alot to put on here but I get discouraged when he says out of frustration how if this is what we will be like in 30 years and how he questions things now and blah blah blah. I know we both love eachother but I feel there are things he doesn’t see in himself that I do and when I comment to him about it he says or is in denial. I know I have flaws but I”m willing to stick it through and make it work even if we’ve had some rows for a couple days I’m willing to work on that I just hate hearing how then he’s going to question our future yet look how far we’ve come and how he’s just talked to my Dad to throw it all away? Sigh….so apparently he’s still coming down tommorow but he’s hesitant about it and worried it will be weird. Um I think it woudl be weird if he didn’t come at all to be honest. So we’ll see I’ll keep you posted.I was really hoping to go ring shopping I mean at least do that and then he can make his choice down the road. We’ll see on that too.
Ugh sorry for the update not the happiest of news but I’m hoping we can make it through this. I’d like to believe like my mom said this morning how she thinks we have what it takes to make this work.
To be continued and talk soon!!
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Welcome! Happy to have you!
Post # 58
@LilacandRoses: I’m gonna private message you….not sure how it all works but I assume just between you and I and then it goes to the same message area these notifications go.
Post # 59
@NicoleLyn1218: Hey! Ok let me check!